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As of this date, 07-02-20, this folder contains 5 items. ******* item 1 SAINT CHARLES LWANGA AND COMPANIONS - SAINT FOR HOMOSEXUALS - THE 22 MARTYRS OF UGANDA - DIED 1886-1887 ******* item 2 EX-GAY CD ******* item 3 EX-LESBIAN URGES SCHOOL BOARD TO REJECT "SEXUAL ORIENTATION" POLICY ******* item 4 JUDGE SAYS SCHOOLS CANNOT DISCRIMINATE AGAINST CHRISTIAN VIEW ON HOMOSEXUALITY ************************************************************************************************************************* ******* item 1 SAINT CHARLES LWANGA AND COMPANIONS - SAINT FOR HOMOSEXUALS - THE 22 MARTYRS OF UGANDA - DIED 1886-1887 ******* From: "PFOX" ******* Date: Fri, 3 Oct 2003 17:11:53 +0000 ******* The nineteenth century martyrs of Uganda were the first black Catholic martyrs of Africa. St. Charles Lwanga was one of 22 Ugandan martyrs who converted from paganism. Christianity, first under the Anglicans, and then under Catholicism, had flourished in Uganda under one of the tribal kings. ******* However, a successor king persecuted the Christian converts and missionaries who openly condemned his homosexual behavior. King Mwanga forced himself on the young boys and men who served him as pages (attendants). The Christians at the royal court tried to protect the pages from King Mwanga, the Babandan ruler. ******* Charles Lwanga was a servant of the king and baptized in November 1885. Lwanga was also known as "the most handsome man of the Kingdom of Uganda." He instructed his friends in the Catholic Faith and baptized boy pages. He encouraged converts to remain chaste and faithful. He protected his companions from the homosexual demands of King Mwanga. ******* King Mwanga at first favored Charles and the other pages (young men aged thirteen to thirty), but when they rejected his homosexual advances, the king grew angry and ordered a persecution of "all those who pray" -- meaning all Catholics. Joseph Mukaso, head of the royal pages and a Catholic convert who had encouraged the pages to resist, was put to death at the king's command. ******* Lwanga succeeded Joseph Mukasa as head of the royal pages and continued his predecessor's censure of the king's homosexual practices. This intensified King Mwanga's hatred of Catholics. Following Mukasa’s example, Lwanga also attempted to protect the others from the king's homosexual demands. The king responded by murdering converts who refused him sexual favors -- who would not sin and compromise their new faith. Lwanga was to be executed by being burnt to death. ******* When Lwanga was sentenced to death, he seemed peaceful. While the pyre was being prepared, he asked to be untied so that he could arrange the sticks. He then lay down on them. When the executioner said that Lwanga would be burned slowly, Lwanga replied that he was glad to die for the True Faith. He made no cry of pain but just twisted and moaned, "Kotanda! (O my God!)." He was burned to death by Mwanga's order on June 3, 1886. ******* The remaining Ugandan martyrs were killed early in 1887. St. Charles Lwanga and his twenty-one companions were canonized by Pope Paul VI on June 22,1964. Catholics celebrate St. Charles Lwanga’s feast day on June 3rd of the Roman Calendar. Christians kneel before these African sons and ask them for a share of their purity, terror and absolute devotions. St. Charles Lwanga, though young and still only a catechumen, was able to recognize immorality and refuse to participate. Though homosexuality is considered "politically correct" in our society, homosexual acts are sinful -- and committed Christians accept this truth and, with God's help, avoid such activity. These days, can we do as they did? ******* ### PFOX -- Parents and Friends of Ex-Gays & Gays ******* Box 561, Fort Belvoir VA 22060 ******* 703-360-2225 ******* pfox_exgays@hotmail.com ******* www.pfox.org ******* To subscribe to this list, send a blank email to: PFOX-subscribe@topica.com ************************************************************************************************************************* ******* item 2 EX-GAY CD ******* From: "PFOX" ******* Date: Sun, 12 Oct 2003 16:57:55 +0000 ******* This ministry resource will be a valuable asset to many who are struggling with these issues and want to find help." - Sonia Vannest ******* Friends: After weeks of preparation, the CD THE TRUTH COMES OUT is available today on www.mp3.com/truthcomesout ******* It has been described as "a whole seminar in a box..." This description is accurate because there are testimonies of change from gay to straight, faith-based teaching on sexual orientation that is sound and compassionate, resources for further study in the inside jacket, poetry and music as well. ******* If you know someone who struggles with same sex attraction, this resource is for them. You can preview the content at www.mp3.com/truthcomesout. ******* Please forward this to your pastor, youth leader and church librarian. ******* On the mp3.com/truthcomesout website, the base cost is 9.98, and with postage should be about $12.50. ******* If you don't like ordering over the Internet or want to save a little money, you can send $10 by check payable to Carolina Maud Music to: ******* Warren Throckmorton, Carolina Maud Music, P.O. Box 384, Grove City, PA 16127 ******* Blessings, ******* Warren Throckmorton, PhD, Grove City, PA, http://www.mp3.com/truthcomesout ******* PS - Questions? Please reply to this email and I will be glad to answer. ******* If you want to talk to me about this resource, call me at 724-458-3787. PFOX -- Parents and Friends of Ex-Gays & Gays, Box 561, Fort Belvoir VA 22060 703-360-2225, pfox_exgays@hotmail.com, www.pfox.org ******* To subscribe to this list, send a blank email to: PFOX-subscribe@topica.com ********************************************************************************************************************** ******* item 3 EX-LESBIAN URGES SCHOOL BOARD TO REJECT "SEXUAL ORIENTATION" POLICY ******* The following is adapted from testimony by Julie Flanagan before the Fairfax County, Virginia, School Board on July 25, 2002. Following an outpouring of citizen opposition, the school board postponed a vote on whether to add "sexual orientation" (homosexuality) to its nondiscrimination code: ******* Thank you for the opportunity to speak to you all tonight. My name is Julie Flanagan. I'm a resident of the Springfield district and a graduate of Mt. Vernon High School. I ask you to vote "no" on adding "sexual orientation" to your non-discrimination policy. ******* I have had a homosexual orientation all of my adult life, in fact ever since adolescence. About three years ago I began in earnest the pursuit of breaking free from homosexuality. What I have learned, what I have to share is not unique to me. I have come to know the stories of dozens of men and women, most of whom have left the homosexual lifestyle. Their stories bear fundamental similarities to mine. I should note that these statements are greatly simplified for brevity's sake. ******* Perhaps the most important factor influencing a homosexual orientation in a child is a broken relationship with the parent of the same gender. Normally, the profound needs of a little girl for security, affection, affirmation of her gender, and unconditional acceptance are met in the intimacy of a healthy mother/daughter bond. That bond never formed between my mom and me. And as I grew up, the longings in my heart to have those needs met only grew. ******* I fantasized daily about being cared for by a kind and loving soul, someone compassionate, someone with whom it would be safe to be vulnerable. Then, quite naturally, sexual awareness began to emerge in my life and I made a huge mistake. I connected my deep longings for motherly nurturing with sexual intimacy. In fantasy, the same motherly figure from whom I longed to receive the intimacy of childhood nurturing became my sexual partner. Repeated mental imaging sealed the relationship in my soul. ******* Now I can see those false connections clearly. Today, because of the kindness, patience and tolerance of my loving Father in heaven and because of many compassionate sisters and brothers in Christ, I'm growing in the good of healthy same-sex friendships. I don't think I could overemphasize the value of dear and godly women who took me under their wing, listening to me pour out my worries, fears and confusion, showing me acceptance, pointing me in the right direction and helping me learn how to live. What I was afraid of losing by giving up my lover, I am finding in the loving kindness of my Father and the body of Christ. ******* But back then, I had no understanding. Then, I had no one to help me sort out my confusion. And it was then, when I was a senior at Mt. Vernon High School [in Fairfax County, Virginia], that a friend invited me over to her parent's home one evening. With her parents gone, she poured me a glass of wine and put on a record titled "Leaping Lesbians." I was confused and disturbed by this. I had never thought of myself as gay. But she obviously thought I was gay. And I left that encounter with a new question about myself "Am I gay?" ******* I have often thought of this event and wondered, what if instead of encountering this lesbian friend, I had encountered someone who understood the foundational emotional needs every little girl has to connect with her mother. Someone who could help me find good and healthy ways to meet those needs. Ways that do not confuse sexual desire with the need for maternal love. Might I have avoided twenty years of confusion and futile searching for a woman who would fill those gaps in my soul? I think so. ******* Today I'm faced with another question. Why would a school board adopt a policy that opens the door to destructive influences on vulnerable, impressionable children? Because that is what adding "sexual orientation" will do. It will open the door wide to adults, who will mislead children into thinking that the profound needs they feel for acceptance and nurturing are really a sexual identity they were born with, making it even harder for children to find the truth. ******* So I ask you to protect children from the deception and futility of homosexuality and vote against including "sexual orientation" in the school's non-discrimination policy. ******* Thank you. ******* Julie Flanagan lives in northern Virginia, outside Washington, D.C. ******* http://www.pfox.org ******* Why must sexual reorientation be included in sexual orientation topics? ******* Ex-gays must be included in the formation of public policy on sexuality issues because we have much to contribute to the understanding and application of sexual orientation. Without testimony from all sectors of society, public policy on this issue is seriously flawed. ******* Why must questioning youth have access to sexual reorientation information? ******* Teenagers’ same sex attractions do not automatically mean that they are homosexual. Many teens go through temporary episodes of idealization of same sex peers and should not be urged to prematurely label themselves as gay. For those teens who do actually show gender-identity confusion, PFOX supports the availability of information on sexual reorientation. Most parents hope to maximize the likelihood of their child growing up to be heterosexual and comfortable in claiming his or her own masculine or feminine nature. ******* Teens themselves need to have all the facts presented to them. Struggling teens who seek information on same sex attractions should not be denied their right to receive information on freedom from homosexuality. Schools that address the issue of sexual orientation must present all of the facts in a fair and balanced manner instead of encouraging confused and impressionable youth to immediately label themselves as "gay" and thus ensure a future homosexual outcome when it is unnecessary. ******* email pfox: pfox_exgays@hotmail.com. ********************************************************************************************************************** ******* item 4 JUDGE SAYS SCHOOLS CANNOT DISCRIMINATE AGAINST CHRISTIAN VIEW ON HOMOSEXUALITY ******* Monday December 8, 2003 ******* "In our system, state-operated schools may not be enclaves of totalitarianism" ******* DETROIT, December 8, 2003 (LifeSiteNews.com) - In a strongly worded opinion issued late Friday, Detroit Federal Judge Gerald Rosen upheld the right of a Christian student to express her religious beliefs opposing homosexuality during her high school's "Diversity Week" program that was designed to promote the homosexual agenda. The case involved a federal lawsuit filed by the Thomas More Law Center, a national public interest law firm, on behalf of student Betsy Hansen whose religious views against homosexuality were censored and excluded from the 2002 "Diversity Week" program held at Ann Arbor's Pioneer High School. ******* During the 2002 Diversity Week program, Pioneer High School officials prevented Hansen from expressing her Roman Catholic view on homosexuality at the "Homosexuality and Religion" panel, and they censored a speech she was asked to give on the topic, "What Diversity Means to Me." School officials claimed that Betsy's religious view toward homosexuality was a "negative" message and would "water-down" the "positive" religious message that they wanted to convey-that homosexual behavior is not immoral or sinful. School officials handpicked religious leaders who endorsed the school's pro-homosexual "religious" belief to sit on the panel, and they denied Hansen's request to have a panel member who would express the Roman Catholic belief on homosexuality. ******* Judge Rosen's 70-page opinion began with blistering criticism of the school: ******* "This case presents the ironic, and unfortunate, paradox of a public high school celebrating 'diversity' by refusing to permit the presentation to students of an 'unwelcomed' viewpoint on the topic of homosexuality and religion, while actively promoting the competing view. This practice of 'one-way diversity,' unsettling in itself, was rendered still more troubling-both constitutionally and ethically-by the fact that the approved viewpoint was, in one manifestation, presented to students as religious doctrine by six clerics (some in full garb) quoting from religious scripture. In its other manifestation, it resulted in the censorship by school administrators of a student's speech about 'what diversity means to me,' removing that portion of the speech in which the student described the unapproved viewpoint." ******* The judge recalled the Supreme Court's admonition in another school speech case: In our system, state-operated schools may not be enclaves of totalitarianism. . . [and] students may not be regarded as closed-circuit recipients of only that which the State chooses to communicate. They may not be confined to the expression of those sentiments that are officially approved." (quoting from Tinker v. DesMoines Indep. Cmty. Sch. Dist., 393 U.S. 503, 511 (1969)). ******* Richard Thompson, President and Chief Counsel of the Law Center, applauded the opinion. "Judge Rosen displayed judicial courage by refusing to bend to the winds of political correctness, and he decided the case according to the well established law. This is a tremendous victory for the First Amendment rights of Christian students and a tremendous defeat for those who consider public schools as their private platform to advance the homosexual agenda." ******* Judge Rosen held that the Ann Arbor Public Schools and several of its employees violated Hansen's constitutional rights to freedom of speech and the equal protection of the law. He also concluded that the school officials violated the Establishment Clause by inviting the pro-gay clergy to hold a panel on "Homosexuality and Religion." Rosen instructed Hansen's attorneys to file with the court an application for attorneys' fees, which could cost the Ann Arbor Public Schools up to $100,000. ******* (c) Copyright: LifeSite Daily News is a production of Interim Publishing. Permission to republish is granted (with limitation*) but acknowledgement of source is *REQUIRED* (use LifeSiteNews.com). ******* NEWS TIPS to lsn@lifesite.net or call 1-866-787-9947 or (416) 204-1687 ext. 444 ******* Please help us to continue this service. Mail contributions to: Interim Publishing, Att'n LifeSite, 104 Bond St. E., Toronto, ON M5B 1X9 or contribute on line at http://www.lifesite.net/contribute/lifesite/ ******************************************************************************************************** ******* item 2 STRUGGLING AGAINST HOMOSEXUAL ATTRACTION from --- National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality (NARTH) Bulletin, December 1996 ******* Alan Medinger is a leader in the ex-gay movement who struggled with homosexuality during the early years of his 25-year marriage. He describes his own change: “I am often asked, ‘How complete is your healing…really?’ In reply, I can only say it has stood the test of time and has born the fruit of a blessed marriage. I have not been homosexually tempted in the past ten years. By tempted, I mean seriously desiring or considering a sexual act with another of the same sex. I did carry beyond my initial healing some desire for an older, stronger man to ‘take care of me.’ That too is now gone, and I see men as brothers, not as father-protectors…Naturally, I have avoided literature, movies and other situations which could arouse homosexual (feelings)…When they are encountered, as they will be…it does sometimes give rise to some sexual feelings. However, these are minor and are iminishing with the passing of time…I may still take a look at a good-looking man, but…[I now realize that] this is based on envy and habits from the past.” ******* Psychotherapists recognize that cure of any emotional and identity-based disorder will not take the same form as cure of a physical illness. Alcoholics still experience some degree of lifetime struggle; overeaters must continue a degree of vigilance; clients with low self-esteem may never be “brash” like the man who grew up thick-skinned, tough and cocky. Such is human nature. ******* Dr. Salmon Akhtar, in his book Broken Structures, describes this best in “The Parable of Two Flower Vases”: ******* “Let us suppose that there are two flower vases made of fine china. Both are intricately carved and of comparable value, elegance and beauty. Then a wind blows and one of them falls from its stand and is broken into pieces. An expert from a distant land is called. Painstakingly, step-by-step, the expert glues the pieces back together. Soon the broken base is intact again…[and] is unblemished to all who see it. Yet…the lines along which it had broken, a subtle reminder of yesterday, will always remain discernible to an experienced eye. However, it will have a certain wisdom since it knows something that the base that has never broken does not: it knows what it is to break, and what it is to come together.” ******* Said a respondent to the NARTH survey: ******* “Now I have a truer understanding of myself, as if my eyes have just been opened. As if I was blind as a homosexual…and now that I have turned from it, it is as though I can see. My friendships are better, and I relate better to all people. Now I have peace, where before I had anger.” ******* Said another: “The isolation of homosexual struggle is what kept it going for so long. Once the struggle was exposed and I understood the source of my feelings, the behavior no longer made any sense in my feelings, the behavior no longer made any sense in the larger context of my life, and it lost its power over me. I have received great strength from many sources—my church, my wife, my therapist, and my therapy group. Change is extremely difficult and requires total commitment, but I have broken the terrible power that homosexuality had over me for so long. I haven’t been this light and happy since I was a child. People can and do change, and become free.” *********************************************************************************************************

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Who are your true friends: those who tell you what you want to hear or those who tell you what they really think? ***************************************************************** The following warning is a prophetic message given to me (Frank Wagner) in November of 1974. ******* LISTEN TO THE CRY OF THE ABORTED CHILDREN. THEIR CRY IS NO. THEIR CRY IS A CRY OF TERROR. HEED THEIR CRY. ******* This prophecy is now being fulfilled. ******* For details about the source, meaning and fulfillment of this prophetic message go to ******* http://www.oocities.org/abortedchildren/index.html ***************************************************************** Check out some of my other sites: ******* http://www.oocities.org/fwagner12/index.html (Vancouver Youth Alliance) ******* http://www.oocities.org/fwagner6/index.htm (Vancouver ex-gay alternatives club) ***************************************************************** email me (Frank Wagner) at friendsofexgays@yahoo.ca