FORGIVENESS “If you are angry…. Get over it” Ephesians’4: 26. Look out, that chip on your shoulder could be heavier than you think. Continuous anger prevents the healing process, so once the damage is done, get over it quickly. Jesus said, “Don’t loose a minute. Make the first step and make things right. Do it now, otherwise an evitable process starts working and continues until you have paid that last penny in pain and distress” Mathew 5:25-26 Have you come to a sudden halt in your spiritual life? Are you stuck in the one spot and can’t seen to move forward anymore, and perhaps even going backwards? Are you longing to have a more intimate relationship with your Heavenly Father? If so what is stopping you? A grain of wheat has an inside and an outer side, and it’s the inner side that really grows and produces the harvest. But for that grain of wheat to produce a harvest the outer shell needs a great deal of pressure to break the shell, so the inner seed can flourish. We are like that grain of wheat, we have an inside and an outside and it’s the inner side of us that produces a harvest for God. We also have a lot of pressure that prevents us from producing from flourishing in Gods kingdom. This pressure is often unforgiveness and it builds up and bounds us to a pit of bitterness and anger and most of all a life away from God. It stops the harvest inside us from reaching its full potential. For our inner seeds to produce an awesome harvest, we need to release that build up of pressure and allow it to break the outer shell of us, so that our true inner self can break through, come to the surface, flourish and bear a great harvest for God. Breaking this build up of pressure is not an easy process; it takes a lot of time and work. From the very moment a grain of wheat is planted to the time it can be picked, it has already gone through a number of processors. It is the same for us. But it can be a lot longer. Our pressures from life, our unforgivenesses, our hurts, can be a build up from many years. And we need to release them so we can grow with God. What ever our hurts are we need to realise them, accept that they have happened and bring them to the surface and allow God to heal that hurt in our lives. These a saying that goes ‘If you get hurt don’t nurse it, don’t curse it and don’t rehearse it. Disperse it and He’ll reverse it’ that what we need to do. We need to disperse the hurts in our lives; we need to deal with them no matter how much they hurt us. Letting God reverse those hurts in our lives and healing them will bring you great joy. He will replace the hurts with a great joy, a sense of victory; you will be a new person. You may be thinking is this me? Have I got unforgiveness on my heart? Who do I need to forgive? Firstly you need to forgive yourself. Forgiving yourself from feeling the way you do, for holding onto this bitterness, anger, this hurt for so long. These no need to feel this way anymore. Secondly you need to forgive the person/s that have hurt you. This I find is the hardest. But you need to remember that forgiving them doesn’t mean what they did was ok, your not letting them off the hook, just yourself. They will get the just deserves on judgment day. You will never be bale to take away what they did to you, but you can take away what they are doing to you now! There are three ways to forgiveness. First surrender the want for revenge. Revenge is insidious because it convinces you that its justified, it forces you to get bogged down in bitterness and self-pitty, it makes you spit in a well you may some day have to drink from, it sidetracks you and it causes you to take the low road. Romans 12:19 says “Don’t insist on getting even; that’s not for you to do. I’ll do the judging’ says God. I’ll take care of it”. You are not qualified to judge. Then you need to paint a new picture and change your feeling that you have towards that person. Just as God forgives all our sins, we need to forgive those who sin against us. There is no sin that can’t be forgiven, and we need to take that on too- towards people who have sinned against us. Forgiveness isn’t based on the magnitude of the sin, but the magnitude of the forgivers love. You should change your attitude towards the person who has hurt you and with Gods love, find a way to love them. So if you have been hurt, get over it, forgive! Then, for your own good, put it in Gods hands. He’s the only one who’s qualified to handle it. And He will, if you let Him (written by Aly) |
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