"You, the Master, are in charge and in control. You own the
responsibility of your property - whether it is real estate, slaves
or your thoughts. You call the shots. You make the decisions and
create your reality. Things are grand.
you, the slave, have given up your life's freedom to serve and
please your Owner. you own nothing anymore. you obey orders and
respond to your Master's will. Things are grand."
However, it's also soon discovered that this is an idealized
description of our world – a perfect world without any problems or
mistakes. The Master unerringly makes the right decisions. slaves
happily comply without hesitation. Master wishes – slave does. This
is the symbiotic reverence of being in ideal Master/slave
relationships. This is what Masters and slaves dream of, isn't it?
Clearly, one of the biggest errors both Masters and slaves
experience, is to believe that Masters make the best decision –
always. Why not – aren't they supposed to? They are Masters after
all. Complete Masters of themselves and their domain?
There is no such being as the Master who, like an oracle, makes the
correct choice in every instance. Masters are humans, and humans
commit mistakes. As easy as it sounds, both Masters and slaves tend
to forget this. Masters often become overconfident of themselves,
just because they are in charge. They may disregard options. slaves,
quite similarly, tend to believe in an illusion that their Masters
are perfect. It's possibly why they gave complete control to their
Master in the first place.
It is important to think about what this means for our daily
interaction – between Master and slave – and the future development
of our relationships. Failure to recognize the fact that Masters are
imperfect will lead to instability, and loss of trust in our
households. At a minimum, it will cause confusion, but it may also
cause broken relationships and separation.
to make responsible and "right" decisions. However, you have to
accept that you are going to have your share of misjudgments and
miscalculations. Some examples are assigning too many tasks to be
accomplished in a certain time, demanding too much
commitment/control too soon, or expecting your slaves to learn a
specific task quicker than they can manage. And it's equally
challenging to manage yourself with compassion as well. Yes,
sometimes, and inevitably, you make wrong determinations.
It is a great sign of strength and confidence when you accept and
admit your mistakes. Showing an understanding of what went wrong,
and explaining why, provides comfort and trust for everyone
involved. If you do not, that fault is likely to happen again. There
is nothing worse than slaves not knowing whether you realize a
mistake. Humility goes a long way also for Masters.
slaves get frightened, disappointed, or even angry, when things
don't turn out how their Masters told them they would. It can be
very disorienting for slaves to, literally, put their life in their
Master's hands, and then find out they aren't necessarily masterful
in all things, and at all times. It can cause slaves to question
their own ability, or even their slavery. At the most extreme, it
may feel like betrayal.
As a slave, consider that if you feel disillusioned, or have
succumbed to fearfulness about your Master's oversights, a good
place to find freedom from that, is to realize and accept that
a "wrong" decision was not yours to make. A good, honest, and loving
Master does not make mistakes on purpose. To release judgment and
ownership, over a result that your Master did not intentionally
cause, is a great first step.
Be we Master or slave, humans often experience complex learning
as "painful". A considerable milestone is achieved when we no longer
automatically shun areas of growth that may be difficult, and in
fact, make the decision to be willing for more. Not because we enjoy
that kind of pain, but because we recognize that pain, like
pleasure, is sometimes useful to achieve progress in ourselves and
our goals. Once we have chosen our dream, we must have the
confidence, integrity and determination to follow it.
And now, we will remember that Masters will never be perfect – even
if we all desire them to be!