This is my place to put my thoughts about my life out there for friends and family to see.

The truth must be told (the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth)!

Please note that this web log is not suitable for minors to read as it may at times have some disturbing and graphic parts in it.

~ Melissa ~

 
~ Posted by Melissa ~ 1/01/2008 05:27:00 PM ~ ~

I first posted the following blog on August 9, 2006 on another website. I include it here in it's entirety, to explain some of the previous blogs I've had here.

""The lady doth protest too much, methinks"

OMG, you will not believe this!!! As if I needed any more proof that something wasn't right in Denmark.

Last weekend, my children told me that Joseph Cusimano was babysitting them that Friday that I picked them up. First of all, Kirc was court ordered not to have Joseph around the kids, at all. Next, I found out that Joseph had spent the night, too. Yet another thing Kirc was court ordered not to do: he is not to let another adult spend even one night there as long as the kids are there. Now, here's where it gets interesting. The kids told me that Joseph spent the night in their Daddy's (Kirc Breden) bed, with Daddy in the bed, too. Hmmm, to my knowledge, there is an air mattress, a couch, a futon that pulls out into a bed, and an unused bed (in Johnny's room). In other words, it was possible for Joseph to sleep over without sleeping in the same bed or even the same room as anyone else.

I'll let you come to your own opinion about what is going on over there. Let me add that these two men walk around in their underwear around each other (and around the kids as well as I've been there myself when they've done it in front of the kids). Also, when they were roommates in Tucson, Joseph did Kirc's laundry, including his grungy undies.

I asked my children what they thought of Joseph spending the night (not the first time, btw) in Daddy's bed and my daughter said "I think dad's turning gay." I then asked the guys at work (almost all my coworkers are guys) what they thought if they heard of two (supposedly) heterosexual guys sleeping in the same bed together and they all said, almost in unison, "they're gay."

Now, don't get me wrong, one of my best friends who I've known since 2nd grade is gay (he came out in college). My problem is that if Kirc is now bisexual, or whatever, he needs to be honest about it, come out of the closet, but to never act on it around his children, at all. And I thought he'd already done a huge number of things that were immoral around the children.

Frankly, if anyone can come up with a reasonable explanation for the homophobic Kirc letting another man sleep in his bed, at the same time, when there were other sleeping accomodations available, I'm listening.

Hmmm, was I just a fag hag for 15 years of marriage?"

To add an important note to the above, when I told Kirc that the kids had told me of having walked in on him and Joseph in bed together, he said that he would explain things to Elizabeth, our daughter and oldest child. I said, what could he possibly to say to her to explain what he was doing. He said, and I quote, that they were "snuggling" with each other. Someone could have knocked me over with a feather when I heard that.

Make of this what you will. If anyone wants to believe that it is normal for a heterosexual man (Kirc) to choose to sleep in bed with another man (frankly, I don't give a damn what sexual orientation Joseph Cusimano has), well, I haven't met that person yet and I've asked a lot of men, both heterosexual and homesexual, their opinions on the subject.

Let me state that Joe choosing to sleep in Kirc's bed when Kirc is not in it should not lead anyone to believe anything re: Joe's sexual orientation although I still think it odd.

I will say this re: two men snuggling in bed together in just their underwear: if anyone wants to believe that either or both men are purely and only heterosexual, I seriously think that that person is in serious denial.

 
~ Posted by Melissa ~ 11/14/2006 05:59:00 AM ~ ~

Kirc doesn't think that he has to follow the rules

As usual, par for the course, Kirc Breden, my ex-husband, believes that he can do anything that he wants to do, even if it means that he is violating several court orders (which I understand are the same thing as law) and/or violating social norms. Friday, November 3rd, I went to pick up my children, as usual, and my daughter invited me inside to see her new playstation game, Kingdom Hearts. Shortly after entering the home, my son wanted me to see his room. I did ask to see my daughter's room but that is the only thing that was my idea beyond trying to get the children to hurry up so we could leave and start enjoying our weekend. While in my son's room which was a huge mess, IMO, I found out that Joseph Cusimano was there, at the house, in Kirc's bedroom, in Kirc's bed, trying to sleep. Apparently, this is Kirc's attempt at appearing to have child care for the children. Joseph sleeps there during the day until he has to go to work at night. This is not child care. This is the presence of a man who was court ordered to never be allowed to be around my children ever again. This was by a court order ordering Kirc to never allow this to happen. According to the children, Joe also sometimes continues to sleep overnight there, again, in Kirc's bed, with Kirc. Kirc is breaking yet another court order as he was ordered not to have another adult spend the night while the children were present. In terms of social norms, Kirc is wrong for the fact that his children are aware that two grown men are sleeping in the same bed (what else they might be doing is left up to the reader's imagination). Did I mention that upon first entering the house I was overwhelmed by the smell of cat urine? I'm assuming that the owner of this house is not aware of the condition of how Kirc is choosing to keep it. I am very surprised that Joe can stand to be there, at all, when he is neurotically neat and clean (not completely a bad thing).

As for Kirc's current relationship, with Katherine (not sure of the spelling), I'm taking bets as to how short a relationship this one will be, especially as she seems to have a brain in her head despite her lack of years (26). Kirc's former relationship with MaryAnn was short-lived and met the same end as his relationship with Hygeia. Kirc is too old now and too unattractive to be able to get a woman to fall for him as I did when I was so very young (when Kirc was in fabulous shape). As such, these women are not blind to his faults and to the fact that he soon turns from the "cuddly teddy bear" to his true shape, a "snake," upon the woman realizing that Kirc is most definitely not what he wants people to think he is.

Kirc's home does not reflect that this man earns over $100,000 a year. It does not reflect the idea that he wants people to believe that he is so neat and clean and that I am the opposite. I have witnesses to my ability to keep house. I was disgusted by the condition of Kirc's home. There was leftover food left out on the kitchen counter as well as plates left out in the living room with an almost whole piece of chicken on one of them. I literally had to tell my children that such things will attract roaches and to never leave food out like that. I believe that Kirc didn't want me to see his home because of the reality of how he lives.

Apparently, we were being too loud for Joseph Cusimano who was trying to sleep (in Kirc's bed) so Joseph called Kirc who then called Elizabeth on her cell phone. When Kirc objected to me being in his home (I would never have entered without permission which I got by being invited by both children which was definitely not my idea), Elizabeth reminded him that he came into my home many, many times after he no longer lived there (after mid-January 2004) and Kirc's response was "So?". I did ask my children in the car later if they perhaps thought that their father thinks that different rules apply to him versus those rules that apply to me. They both said yes.

I still find it amazing, how much Kirc will not allow himself to have to follow the rules and laws that everyone else in the world has to follow. I will take great joy when everything, and I do mean everything, in Kirc's life comes tumbling down around him. It's only a matter of time.