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My Story | ||||||||||||||||||||
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This is a story that is so very
hard to begin. Well it begins over 9 years ago. My husband and I
married on December 1, 1990. We decided right away we wanted children and
began "trying". After a year and no children, we got
concerned. Initial testing showed slight problems with both of us but
nothing that would prevent either of us individually from getting
pregnant. However, the two of us together made it extremely difficult -
we were classified as a sub-fertile couple. After 4 years of testing we decided
to continue to a point with infertility treatment and also to adopt.
Which ever proved successful first. You see after that first week, I
cleared a really big mountain. Most women,
whose membranes break prior to the onset of labor, follow with labor within the
first 72 hours. Of course my doctors
did not tell me this until I passed the initial 72 hours. My doctors were hopeful; that I would
continue to remain stable and give Cody the much needed time. Another week went by and I started to spot
again. This time at least it was during
normal business hours. One of my
doctors partners check – I was still okay.
The bleeding was being caused by an irritated cervix. All the ammonic fluid leaking out was
irritating my cervix. Went to see my
specialist. Still no water, but heart
beat looks great. Just hang in
there. Well this went on like this with
3 additional ultrasounds at my doctor’s office. My last doctor’s visit was Dec 23. Okay one more week before they began treatment to save Cody just
hang on.
Labor slowed a bit after they gave
me something light for pain, and an ultra sound was ordered early the next
morning. At the time I was not told,
but Cody was in distress during the contractions. But the nurses were all so attached to us (we had been in and
out that entire month); they were all saying you know some women stay in labor
for a few weeks. They were grasping as
straws I know, but it was nice to have them so hopeful. My white count was elevated that morning –
not a good sign. It was a signal of
infection and Cody couldn’t stay in there with an infection. It was most probably the reason for labor. Our luck had run out, labor began
to speed up around noon. Cody was born at 4:32pm, at 22 weeks. When he was initially born I did not know
what to expect. I didn’t expect him to
survive very long – you figure a baby that cannot breathe cannot live more than
a few minutes. How wrong was I. After about 20 mins and the torture of
having to make the decision to let him die.
Yes, we were asked. The doctors
all recommended that we allow Cody to pass away if he was born before 24 weeks. They stated any attempts to revive him would
only prolong his life by a few short days and he would suffer greatly. His little organs were just not mature
enough. Well when my little man came
into this world they surprised him by weighing over 1 lb. The neonatal nurse is trained to attempt if
the baby is over 1 lb. The hardest
words I ever had to say were to let him go.
I was asked if I wanted to hold him and to my surprise he was still
alive. He was such a tiny little boy,
but already you could see that he had my long fingers and his daddy’s
chin. He also had my feet. I was so afraid that I was hurting
him while I was holding him, so fragile he seemed. He made several attempts to gasp for air. I just wanted to hug him so tightly and
kiss him but I realized any of those actions may have caused him discomfort and
I just wanted his life to be as painless as possible. I had to give him back to the nurses, because my placenta would
not come out. Doctor made several attempts to
manually remove my placenta – I was not given anything other than shots that
dulled my wits for pain. Anyone who has
survived through this procedure knows what I’m talking about. I can only said it made a terrible ordeal
horrific. I will never allow a doctor
to attempt that procedure again. My
husband was distraught, I was screaming praying to God to just take me. While my son was dieing not 4 feet
away. Finally, my doctor realized
that she could not pull the placenta out and I was rushed for an emergency D
& C. I don’t blame my doctor for
trying I’m sure she wanted me to be able to spend time with my child. Cody lived until approximately
8:30pm. His father remained with him
until his death. I woke up in recovery and my angel was gone. He
blessed our lives with his presence. On August 20, 2002 we added a new member to our family. Ryan Matthew was born full term. In fact we had to induce and the doctor HAD to break his water!!! Click here to see photos of Ryan. |
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