MrSelfDevelopmnt: try to be a bit more cheerful
MrSelfDevelopmnt: life is a good thing..you know
Xxxx: not for me
MrSelfDevelopmnt: it is an art that can be learned
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I teach internal development
MrSelfDevelopmnt: learning to become alive
MrSelfDevelopmnt: in the here an now..
MrSelfDevelopmnt: look at my site and maybe it makes some sense to you
Xxxx: i am
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I am not talking about the life you live..I am talking about the life you are blessed with
Xxxx: yea..
Xxxx: well I’m not exactly "blessed" with it
MrSelfDevelopmnt: well
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you are alive..aren't you
Xxxx: of course i am but sometimes I wonder weather or not i should be
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you can learn to look at things differently
Xxxx: the part of your site that makes most sense to me is the second paragraph on the innerfreedomhow page
Xxxx: well kind of anyway
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and once you do...life will look very differently
MrSelfDevelopmnt: good
Xxxx: i thought having strong beliefs and viewpoints was a good thing...
MrSelfDevelopmnt: well...not if they keep us from seeing a different perspective
MrSelfDevelopmnt: there is a lot to be said about this
Xxxx: i've never thought of it that way
MrSelfDevelopmnt: yeah..I try to get people to look at life in a different way
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I think attachments are bad
MrSelfDevelopmnt: they only get us to defend what we stand for
Xxxx: so do i but beliefs aren't
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I think openness is the key
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I think to belief in life is the key
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and to develop understanding is possible only if we are open
Xxxx: i don't understand a lot of things....life in general
MrSelfDevelopmnt: yeah
MrSelfDevelopmnt: it can be very confusing
Xxxx: well I’ve found my own way to look at if, if that's they you want to put it...
Xxxx: and it's the only way i can understand it
MrSelfDevelopmnt: most people have their own way of looking at life
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and trying to make sense of it all
Xxxx: well mine is definitely different
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I would love to know about it sometimes
Xxxx: why?
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I always was interested what is on people's mind
MrSelfDevelopmnt: always thought of it as interesting
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and important
Xxxx: but why?
MrSelfDevelopmnt: because I think people matter
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and what they think about
Xxxx: well i think it matters too...
Xxxx: but
Xxxx: what other people think just matters more than what i think
MrSelfDevelopmnt: that is how you feel
Xxxx: yea
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you seem to give that a lot of weight
MrSelfDevelopmnt: what others think
Xxxx: i'm scared of it
MrSelfDevelopmnt: try to look at what you think as important
Xxxx: what other people think
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and try to understand what other people think
MrSelfDevelopmnt: instead of taking it personal
Xxxx: but it is personal
MrSelfDevelopmnt: this has nothing really to do with you
MrSelfDevelopmnt: no no
MrSelfDevelopmnt: it is them
MrSelfDevelopmnt: most of the things what people think has less to do with you
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and is more about them
MrSelfDevelopmnt: their thoughts are separate from who you are as a person
Xxxx: i wish everyone would say what they are thinking
MrSelfDevelopmnt: me too
MrSelfDevelopmnt: that would make it much easier
Xxxx: that way it would be easier to understand
MrSelfDevelopmnt: right
Xxxx: yea..

MrSelfDevelopmnt: but the thing is, we can learn how to understand people
MrSelfDevelopmnt: even though they do not say what they are thinking about
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and are many times very fake
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and unreal
MrSelfDevelopmnt: we can learn to look beyond that
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and see the person behind the facade
Xxxx: when people don't say what they are thinking it most likely means it's because they are thinking something they don't want you to know
MrSelfDevelopmnt: good point
MrSelfDevelopmnt: they are not being honest
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and open
Xxxx: like what they think of you
MrSelfDevelopmnt: most people have a hard time with that
MrSelfDevelopmnt: yeah
MrSelfDevelopmnt: honesty is a rare commodity these days
Xxxx: well I have a feeling that most people think differently about me
Xxxx: than they do about other people
MrSelfDevelopmnt: they sure do
Xxxx: why..
MrSelfDevelopmnt: let me ask you first
Xxxx: what?
MrSelfDevelopmnt: what do you think they think about you
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and what scares you there
Xxxx: that i'm different
MrSelfDevelopmnt: we all are
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I know I am
Xxxx: that there's something wrong with me...that kind of different
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and I am proud to be different
MrSelfDevelopmnt: yeah
MrSelfDevelopmnt: question??
MrSelfDevelopmnt: do you think something is wrong with you
Xxxx: different from the way most people are
Xxxx: yes
MrSelfDevelopmnt: see
MrSelfDevelopmnt: that’s the problem
Xxxx: i really do
MrSelfDevelopmnt: not what other people think of you
MrSelfDevelopmnt: but what you think of yourself
MrSelfDevelopmnt: that's the key
MrSelfDevelopmnt: your self concept
Xxxx: i think that because it's like I can hear other people thinking that, and if they think that they must be right
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I think you scare yourself and what you think of yourself more than what others think of you
MrSelfDevelopmnt: but you can not hear that...you only imagine that
Xxxx: it's the feeling they give me
MrSelfDevelopmnt: most likely these are your own voices telling you something about yourself
MrSelfDevelopmnt: yeah
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I hear ya
MrSelfDevelopmnt: it's highly interesting
MrSelfDevelopmnt: but if you think about it, the feeling other people give you
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I mean....is that real...?
Xxxx: yes
Xxxx: it's totally real
MrSelfDevelopmnt: the feeling
MrSelfDevelopmnt: yes
Xxxx: yea
MrSelfDevelopmnt: but
MrSelfDevelopmnt: that is all it is
MrSelfDevelopmnt: a feeling
Xxxx: yea and it makes me feel pretty bad
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and this feeling keeps you from being you
Xxxx: exactly
MrSelfDevelopmnt: well...
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you need to learn to get passed that
Xxxx: i can't

MrSelfDevelopmnt: and stop looking at yourself in terms of how other people make you feel
MrSelfDevelopmnt: yes you can
Xxxx: why?
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I know you can
Xxxx: what I think doesn't matter, I’m only one person, right?
MrSelfDevelopmnt: listen
MrSelfDevelopmnt: did you hear anything I was saying
MrSelfDevelopmnt: see. that is where it all begins
Xxxx: it's what everyone else thinks that matters
MrSelfDevelopmnt: if you give your own thoughts more credit..you will learn to pay less attention of what other people think
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and begin to understand that what you think is important
Xxxx: i don't want to, it's what other people think that matters
MrSelfDevelopmnt: get that
Xxxx: at least i can see that
MrSelfDevelopmnt: no no
MrSelfDevelopmnt: it is what you think that matters
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I mean...we can argue all night
Xxxx: lol
MrSelfDevelopmnt: but if you want to make some changes, you try to understand that
Xxxx: i can't
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you focus so much on what other people think because you do not think of yourself as important
Xxxx: right
Xxxx: and I’m right about it too
MrSelfDevelopmnt: stop saying can't
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you want to give me a hard time...don’t you
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you want to get better, cause if you don’t...I mean...why talk..?
Xxxx: no I’m just trying to say that I don't see how you can change my mind, but if you think you can....
MrSelfDevelopmnt: no no
MrSelfDevelopmnt: not me
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you can change your mind
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I only can point you in the right direction
Xxxx: if you think you can get me to change my mind
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you have to do the work
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I can help you to look at things differently
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and to help you change the way you think
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I actually can not do that
Xxxx: that's what I’m saying
MrSelfDevelopmnt: this is all up to you
MrSelfDevelopmnt: if you want to ..I can try and help you with that
Xxxx: i don't know...
MrSelfDevelopmnt: but that is gonna take some time. and quite a bit of effort
Xxxx: I don't see how you can help me
MrSelfDevelopmnt: well. it is your life Lady
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and as that...it is very important
Xxxx: no it's not
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and it would be a shame to think of it as any less
MrSelfDevelopmnt: well
MrSelfDevelopmnt: that might be hard if you have this attitude
Xxxx: i know...
Xxxx: but i know I’m not important
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I mean...you have to begin by listening a bit, and letting go of your resistance
Xxxx: i can't
MrSelfDevelopmnt: see, that is what you need to work on
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and stop saying you can't
MrSelfDevelopmnt: that is only an excuse
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you can do it
Xxxx: no it isn't an excue
Xxxx: *excuse
MrSelfDevelopmnt: are you willing to pay the price
Xxxx: what?
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and do the work
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and are you willing to learn
Xxxx: what work?
MrSelfDevelopmnt: self examination
MrSelfDevelopmnt: introspection
MrSelfDevelopmnt: self discipline
Xxxx: i guess so..

MrSelfDevelopmnt: can you do that..?
MrSelfDevelopmnt: well, then you can do it
Xxxx: I can try but I really don't think it'll get me anywhere
MrSelfDevelopmnt: listen...I know it can
MrSelfDevelopmnt: stop being so gloomy
Xxxx: I know it can't
MrSelfDevelopmnt: today is the first day of the rest of your life
Xxxx: it's called depression
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and let’s make some effort to make things right

MrSelfDevelopmnt: neah
MrSelfDevelopmnt: depression is a label
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and may times people hide behind it,

Xxxx: well i don't call it gloomy
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I believe people can master any kind of challenge
MrSelfDevelopmnt: but you know....if you keep saying I know I can’t one more time
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I am gonna jump thru that screen
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and do something to you
MrSelfDevelopmnt: lol
MrSelfDevelopmnt: just kidding
Xxxx: lol
MrSelfDevelopmnt: anyway Lady. you have your whole life ahead of you
MrSelfDevelopmnt: it’s a new start
MrSelfDevelopmnt: a new beginning
MrSelfDevelopmnt: come Lady...what ya say
Xxxx: i don't know
MrSelfDevelopmnt: life has so many great things in store for you
MrSelfDevelopmnt: but you gotta have the right mindset
Xxxx: no...
Xxxx: i gotta..
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and a can do attitude would be definitely helpful
Xxxx: I don't know
Xxxx: lol
MrSelfDevelopmnt: lol
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you think about all of that
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and think about it good
Xxxx: ok..
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you wanna continue living like that???
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I think not
Xxxx: well there's nothing i can do about it!!
MrSelfDevelopmnt: there you go again
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you are a piece of work
Xxxx: no i'm not lol
MrSelfDevelopmnt: when people say there is nothing I can do about it
MrSelfDevelopmnt: that just get's to me
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you can Lady
Xxxx: well it's true
MrSelfDevelopmnt: it’s a lie
Xxxx: like i said..
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you can do everything about it
Xxxx: I have strong viewpoints and beliefs
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you have totally control over yourself
MrSelfDevelopmnt: so do I
Xxxx: and no one...
Xxxx: no one at all has even begun to succeed in changing my mind about anything
MrSelfDevelopmnt: well, we talk about that some other time
Xxxx: so the more i talk to you
MrSelfDevelopmnt: well..maybe you give me a chance
Xxxx: the more I’m convinced at I’m right
Xxxx: therefore the harder it will be
MrSelfDevelopmnt: well....I know I can help you
MrSelfDevelopmnt: there is no doubt in my mind
Xxxx: do you understand what I’m saying?
MrSelfDevelopmnt: but
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you have to let me
MrSelfDevelopmnt: yeah..I understand what you are saying
MrSelfDevelopmnt: loud and clear
Xxxx: lol
MrSelfDevelopmnt: can you voice chat
MrSelfDevelopmnt: that might be good too sometimes
Xxxx: no i can't
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I see
Xxxx: yea i can but i won't
MrSelfDevelopmnt: lol
MrSelfDevelopmnt: see..there she already changed her can't to a won't
MrSelfDevelopmnt: very good
MrSelfDevelopmnt: there is a big difference
Xxxx: that's funny...
MrSelfDevelopmnt: it's true
Xxxx: lol
MrSelfDevelopmnt: like you said there is nothing you cannot do about it
MrSelfDevelopmnt: maybe you do not want to do anything about it
Xxxx: i don't want to feel so bad anymore
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I do not think there is anything people can not do, if they put their mind to it
Xxxx: but i also don't want to change the way I see things
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I believe that where there is a will...there is a way
MrSelfDevelopmnt: well..that might be a problem then
MrSelfDevelopmnt: actually..there is only one way to see things
MrSelfDevelopmnt: as they are
Xxxx: yea sure where there's a will there's a way
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you got that..?
Xxxx: but where there's a way
Xxxx: there's not always a will
MrSelfDevelopmnt: good point
MrSelfDevelopmnt: lol
Xxxx: yea...
MrSelfDevelopmnt: but stop making it so complicated
MrSelfDevelopmnt: it all begins with your will to change
Xxxx: the way I see it you're the one making it complicated

MrSelfDevelopmnt: I hear how hard this is for you..but I hope you consider what i said
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you have no clue how interesting and important it was what we talked about
Xxxx: how is this important to you?
Xxxx: you should be frustrated by now
MrSelfDevelopmnt: it can help people who go thru something similar
Xxxx: oh i see
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I am actually very thankful that we talked
MrSelfDevelopmnt: it helped me a lot
Xxxx: like what kind of similar things...?
MrSelfDevelopmnt: people who are controlled by how other people make them feel
Xxxx: ok..
Xxxx: if there are other people who think that...
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you would not believe how many
Xxxx: then what I think of myself just got worse
MrSelfDevelopmnt: it should not
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I mean...I spent all this time with you...and I think that should tell you something good
Xxxx: you don't know me
Xxxx: you just know the way I think
Xxxx: sort of, anyway..
Xxxx: but these are just words on a screen
Xxxx: that's why I have no problem with talking to you
Xxxx: if i really saw you or heard you
Xxxx: i wouldn't talk to you anymore
MrSelfDevelopmnt: don't say that
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I have a way with people
Xxxx: why?
Xxxx: it's true..
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I am good at making people comfortable
Xxxx: not me
MrSelfDevelopmnt: well thank you for your compliment
Xxxx: everything is different with me
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you are not helping really
MrSelfDevelopmnt: well
MrSelfDevelopmnt: God knows I tried
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I really did
Xxxx: i know
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you do....??
MrSelfDevelopmnt: really
Xxxx: if you didn't care
MrSelfDevelopmnt: not worried what I think about you
Xxxx: because it's the Internet
Xxxx: you don't really know me
MrSelfDevelopmnt: oh do not give me that
Xxxx: i thought I made that clear
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you sit there somewhere and type all this stuff
Xxxx: yea...
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I know it is you
Xxxx: so?
MrSelfDevelopmnt: so..dont give me this it is just the internet
MrSelfDevelopmnt: another excuse
MrSelfDevelopmnt: just like that >I can't<
MrSelfDevelopmnt: dang
MrSelfDevelopmnt: anything else
Xxxx: no i might be able to...but you have to understand something too
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and what's that
Xxxx: if you try to convince me
Xxxx: that you know me
Xxxx: then I probably won't talk to you
Xxxx: but if you can see that I don't care what you think of me because you don't know me personally then that's ok
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I would never say that
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I know a few things about you
MrSelfDevelopmnt: but that is it
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I do not know you at all
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I mean.,...how could I
Xxxx: no you don't understand what I’m saying though
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I think I might understand you a bit
MrSelfDevelopmnt: what are you saying then
Xxxx: a bit...lol..
MrSelfDevelopmnt: tell me woman
MrSelfDevelopmnt: what are you saying
Xxxx: the Internet is different
MrSelfDevelopmnt: it sure is
Xxxx: it's the only real way...
Xxxx: to communicate
Xxxx: because when people don't care
Xxxx: it's easier that way
Xxxx: but they always care
Xxxx: unless they don't know you
Xxxx: and if they see or hear you
Xxxx: they judge
MrSelfDevelopmnt: people always judge
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you do too

Xxxx: not on the internet
MrSelfDevelopmnt: oh yes
MrSelfDevelopmnt: always
MrSelfDevelopmnt: even on the net
MrSelfDevelopmnt: if they would not, everybody would get along with everybody
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and nobody would yell and argue
Xxxx: and that would be perfect
MrSelfDevelopmnt: right
Xxxx: that would be right
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I could not agree more
MrSelfDevelopmnt: being non judgmental
Xxxx: then what the hell is wrong with "normal" people??
MrSelfDevelopmnt: that is the key
MrSelfDevelopmnt: there is not such thing
MrSelfDevelopmnt: as normal
MrSelfDevelopmnt: normal means judgmental
MrSelfDevelopmnt: greedy
MrSelfDevelopmnt: competitive
Xxxx: everybody is normal.... except people like me.....
Xxxx: lol
MrSelfDevelopmnt: lol
MrSelfDevelopmnt: neah
MrSelfDevelopmnt: listen to this now
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you might be one of the few ""normal " people left
MrSelfDevelopmnt: everybody else is nuts
MrSelfDevelopmnt: look at it this way
Xxxx: then are you telling me not to change?
MrSelfDevelopmnt: the system is far from perfect
Xxxx: sweet...
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you are definitely a piece of work
MrSelfDevelopmnt: dang
MrSelfDevelopmnt: lol
MrSelfDevelopmnt: how old are you again?
Xxxx: no one has been able to get through to me yet....
Xxxx: 17
MrSelfDevelopmnt: but I love a challenge
Xxxx: lol
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and I think you and I ...maybe we can start talking more
Xxxx: sure
MrSelfDevelopmnt: I think I see the way you think in certain ways
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and how this has caused you to be that
MrSelfDevelopmnt: HARDHEADED
MrSelfDevelopmnt: lol
MrSelfDevelopmnt: stubborn
Xxxx: that's me...
MrSelfDevelopmnt: well...it's cool
MrSelfDevelopmnt: anyway, you think it is cool if I split now; I really have to get some sleep
Xxxx: lol you can go whenever you want
Xxxx: it's not up to me....
MrSelfDevelopmnt: well..and I just wanted to be polite
MrSelfDevelopmnt: anyway....it was definitely interesting
Xxxx: don't bother...being polite won't get you anywhere
MrSelfDevelopmnt: it's not about that
MrSelfDevelopmnt: getting you somewhere
Xxxx: you'll just get completely fustrated
MrSelfDevelopmnt: it is a way of life
MrSelfDevelopmnt: being polite and friendly is the way to go
MrSelfDevelopmnt: oh no
Xxxx: lol
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you have no clue of what I am dealing with in my life
MrSelfDevelopmnt: it takes a lot for me to get frustrated
Xxxx: ok then...
MrSelfDevelopmnt: but let’s not push that theory
Xxxx: lol
MrSelfDevelopmnt: you have a good rest Lady
MrSelfDevelopmnt: and I will talk to you later

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