Various Thoughts #1
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							I have always wondered why a person feels lonely even if they have many friends that they can call on at any time of the day or night.  There are two answers that I can come up with...  1. Physical contact.  2. Emotional support beyond frienship. The first, physical contact is probably the easiest to explain.  When I talk about physical contact here, it goes beyond the normal handshake or high-five that you get from friends.  Now I know how unmanly it sounds, and I might be the first to admit it, but truthfully, guys do like to cuddle as well.  In a relationship, that is really only when a guy is forced to cuddle....  he may not admit it, but he really does like it...  women think that men don't like it because the most often time that women like to cuddle is as they fall asleep.  Guys need their own room to sleep...  must have some roots into ancietn history when the men were the protectors of the group and "cuddling"  took too much concentration when they should have been watching for predators...  its an in-born trait among most men, so women, please forgive us for it.... Anyways, being touched by someone in a romantic way does have certain senstations that can't really be reproduced.  Someone of their own free-will has decided that you are someone of some significance, and that is why I think cuddling is so important...  it makes you feel good about yourself, in a way that can't be reproduced by any other way.  What a feeling, eh? The second reason...  Emotional Support Beyond That of Friendship.  Some might disagree with me here, but friends only tell you so much...  and the good ones tell you what you need to hear....  but not matter how long a friendship lasts, the person that you are romantically tied to; most often than not, is the mouth closest to your ear.  You could have a friend for 10 years, but the woman that has been with you for 1 year can influence you far greater than your friend would.  This can be good or bad...  but let's all hope for the good shall we?  The reason I think this, is because with that you're romantically involved with you tend to let down the barriers far more easily than with close friends.  You have a reputation to maintain as being the guy who can get the parties started or be a key ingredient for a party....  with such responsibilities, you can't let the bad emotions take control and appear weak in front of your friends. This last one always puts people in awkward situations...  you just have to trust you gut instinct, and hope the person you put your trust in, whether be signihicant other or best friend, to be the on in the right.