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A Good Communication Skill & Building a Meaningful Relationship |
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| Developing Meaning Relationship |
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| Growing in a relationship involves personal as well as interpersonal growth. Relationships make life meaningful. To develop a meaningful martial relationship, you need to know yourself, your partner and learn to grow together. |
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| Know Yourself |
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| In order to grow as a person you first need to know yourself and develop a healthy self-concept. Self-knowledge includes identify your values and priorities, expectation and views as well as recognizing your skills and abilities, likes and dislikes, strengths and weakness, preference and prejudices. We are shaped by the significant events and the relationships in our lives. Our friends and families, our educational, religious and work experiences all contribute to the development of our self-concept. |
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| Understanding yourself involves a process of self-reflection, self-disclosure to, and feedback from others. |
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| 1. Self-reflection |
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Consider carefully what is important to you. For example what is your ambition? What do you think of yourself? Reflect also on what others think of you. You may also make a list of your likes and dislikes. |
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| 2. Self-disclosure |
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This involves sharing your thoughts and feeling with others, As you express yourself verbally, you will begin to organize your own thoughts and understand yourself better. |
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| 3. Feedback |
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Be open to what others say about you. You will learn about yourself and be able to decide if that is what you want to be. The exciting thing is that you can change and grow. |
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| Know Your Partner |
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| To know your partner as he/she really is , you need to find out what he/she is really like at work, at home and at play. Here are some ways to know your partner better. |
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| 1.Observe your partner in different situations. |
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Create opportunities for interaction with your partner in different social contexts. Observe how he/she behaves with family, colleagues and friends. |
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| 2.Observe how your partner handles stress. |
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Sometimes, in a courtship in which partners interact with each other to the exclusion of other people, both may be extra pleasant and agreeable and fail to show their true self to the other. You need to see your partner in the reality of tough decision and stress. |
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| 3. Develop opportunities for your partner to open up. |
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Use questions in ordinary conversation to help you understand him/her better . Ask your partner about his/her childhood , for his/her thoughts or opinions on things you are doing, or whatever you may come across in life. |
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Find out how your partner is feeling. Not only do you need to understand his/her social and emotional condition but his/her physical heath is also important. |
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In understanding your partner, consider his/her interests and family and cultural background. Don't expect your partner to do things you do. Be sensitive to how your action affects the other person. Relationship may involves giving up old habits that make the other person unhappy. It certainly would involves adjusting to a new and mutually acceptable lifestyle. Mutual thoughtfulness and consideration are foundations for satisfying relationship. |
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| Building the Relationship |
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| The marital relationship, when developed to its full potential, can be immensely satisfying and enriching for both partners. For this to happen, both of you need to work at building such a relationship. Direct your efforts towards the following: |
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1.; Building trust |
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Create and maintain an atmosphere of trust, love and sensitivity so as to get to know each other better. In a more threatening environment, share with each other your hope and fears. The extent to which you can accept and trust each other will determine how much you can confide in each other. |
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2. Sharing confidences |
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Confiding in another person is risky and courageous act. However, unless both of you are prepared to share your inner thoughts and feelings, your relationship will remain at superficial level. As the relationship grows, each should become more sensitive to the needs and aspirations of the other. The more secure you both feel about the relationship, the stronger will be the bond. |
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3. Handling differences |
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An essential process in developing the martial bond is working towards an understanding and acceptance of each other's differences. Differences in expectations, role perceptions, temperaments and interests are inevitable. |
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4.Resolving disagreements |
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Deal with disagreements in a constructive manner. Don't put each other down. Rather, see the positive value of being different. |
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