An agreement between the two individuals must be arranged.
The male would contact the female's family, house or protector and offer a Companionship Price.
Often this is in the form of golden tarn disks but can be of anything that both Male parties agree to.
The payment of the Companionship Price is to be made prior to taking any further steps.
A contract is the next step. This would include the Companionship price, length of Companionship which is usually one year, distribution of property and anything needed to guide the relationship.
Copies of the Companionship contract is handed to the Female's Representative as well as her family. All parties involved should have such a copy.
A ceremony may be performed after the contract has been approved and signed. Normally all that is required is the offering of a cup of ka-la-na, sharing of any written vows, and the removal of the females veils for the first time. This can be done in private or in public.
Understand, that as a Free Companion and being female you are technically "owned". You will have rules and orders to follow, and obey.. being a Free Companion does not protect you from being ko`lared. It only states you are property of your Male Companion. Males can chain, unveil or ko`lar their Free Companions on a whim.
Normally this is done only in extreme cases and if ko`lared it can be forever, meaning, you would lose all freedom as well as be required to learn the kajirae ways.
It solely depends upon the Male, as females are trained from birth to please men. Gor is a Mans World, females are only free because of a males whim, freedom is a gift that can be taken back at any moment.
"… the Gorean attitude is that she would be dead were it not for his brave action and thus it is his right, now that he has won her life, to make her live it for him precisely as she pleases, which is usually, it must unfortunately be noted, as his slave girl, for the privileges of a Free Companionship are never bestowed lightly. Also of course a Free Companionship might be refused, in all Gorean right, by the girl, and thus a warrior can hardly be blamed, after risking his life, for not wanting to risk losing the precious prize which he has just, at great peril to himself, succeeded in winning. The Gorean man, as a man, cheerfully and dutifully attends to the rescuing of his female in distress, but as a Gorean, as a true Gorean, he feels, perhaps justifiably and being somewhat less or more romantic than ourselves, that he should have something more for his pains than her kiss of gratitude and so, in typical Gorean fashion, puts his chain on the wench, claiming both her and her body as his payment."
---Priest-Kings of Gor, page 16
"There is no marriage, as we know it, on Gor, but there is the institute of the Free Companionship, which is its nearest correspondent. Surprisingly enough, a woman who is bought from her parents, for tarns or gold, is regarded as a Free Companion, even though she may not have been consulted in the transaction. More commendably, a free woman may herself, of her own free will, agree to be such a companion. And it is not unusual for a master to free one of his slave girls in order that she may share the full privileges of a Free Companionship. One may have, at a given time, an indefinite number of slaves, but only one Free Companion. Such relationships are not entered into lightly, and they are normally sundered only by death. Occasionally the Gorean, like his brothers in our world, perhaps even more frequently, learns the meaning of love."
---Outlaw of Gor, page 54
"When I returned to Ko-ro-ba with Talena, a great feast was held and we celebrated our Free Companionship. A holiday was declared, and the city was ablaze with light and song. Shimmering strings of bells pealed in the wind, and festive lanterns of a thousand colours swung from the innumerable flower-strewn bridges. There was shouting and laughter, and the glorious colours of the castes of Gor mingled equally in the cylinders. Gone for the night was even the distinction of master and slave, and many a wretch in bondage would see the dawn as a free man."
---Tarnsman of Gor, page 216-217