Meeting and dating Korean women can be alot of fun, but like any female of any culture they have their own unique personality brought on mostly by their upbringing. While there are of course exceptions to the rule, most korean women are instilled at a very young age traditional roles of men and women. This can be both an advantage and a drawback when it comes to dating.
Most Korean women are taught, in typical Asian attitudes, that they are not as important as a man. Even with several movements to improve the rights of women here, women are still second rate citizens and secretly they know it. So, when you are dating them, they generally are more submissive than western women. They will generally let you control the flow of the evening and will seem interested even if they are secretly bored.
Korean women I have met tend to be overly shy as well. They have developed the "broken mirror" complex and even while you might be amazed that such a beautiful woman has agreed to go out with you, they don't understand your reaction. Korean men tend to take their beautiful counterparts for granted and pay alot of empty compliments at first and then basically ignore them after they have them wooed..
Women here tend to be shy and afraid to really let loose in a social setting. They become embarrassed when they laugh out loud, hiding their beautiful smile behind a demure hand. Physical pleasure can actually make them feel uncomfortable as again most Korean men don't care about whether their partner is enjoying themselves. "How long does it take a Korean women to have an orgasm?", I once jokingly asked a close Korean friend. He replied, "Who cares!" Yes, this is a standard western attitude as well, so all you 60 second studs should feel right at home.
Another attitude is that women tend to act more like our mothers than our girlfriends. This seems to come from most men being so helpless around the house. Korean men often go from their parents house to their own, wife included, and lack any domestic skills whatsoever. Momma boys should feel right at home here.
Once again, I seem to be looking at the glass half empty and that's just me. I had a Korean girlfriend for over a year and I can tell you that dating a Korean women can be a wonderful experience and that they have many qualities that make them great. So, stop being a wallflower and ask that young, Korean beauty out. You might be happily surprised.
Are we, foreign men, just an experiment to young Korean women? I heard from one friend that a Korean woman he was casually dating and sleeping with told him one night after some bedroom gymnastics that she was still a virgin. He laughed and asked what she meant. She replied with a straight face, "Foreign men don't count!" I thought this to be an amusing singular comment, but I have heard the same comment from countless foreigners and even some Korean women. For those of us that would give a mighty "Hurrah" to this intriguing if somewhat racist attitude, don't assume your date has the same attitude.
Sex is an important step to many Korean women and they generally reserve their virginity for their future husband. Many Korean men still want their brides to be pure for their wedding bed and can actually annul the marriage if this isn't the case. Though, again, attitudes are changing, most Korean women are very conservative when it comes to being intimate. Depending on her own level of self worth, she may or may not want to have a foreigner fling, even if we don't count. That's not to say that all Korean women are stand offish.
If this is the case, where do all the young, nubile beautiful young women come from that line a red light district or work at a naughty bar? Many of them are college students who need to pay thier way through Korea's expensive universities. They view this as an easy way to get through financially and of course once they have graduated seek a more mundane life with a Korean or foreign husband. Unlike many Asian countries, Korean hookers aren't, for the most part, coerced into the profession, except by economic reasons. This often leads a single mother down this path as a woman who has a child out of wed lock is often seen as an undesirable mate. The average Korean man would never think of marrying a woman with another man's child.
Another view of women here, is that they want to get out of Korea and into a society which will treat her as an equal. Tales of women's power or status in the west may lure some to us. Or they want to study in the west.
In any case, we have to ask ourselves why is this Korean women with me? Does she view herself as unfit for a traditional union with an acceptable Korean man or is really looking for a foreigner as a potential husband or does she want to escape her subservient role in Korean society? Does she simply dig foreign dudes? It's up to you to find out if you're going to do more than the bounce and tickle with your Korean girlfriend.
I am the king of stating the obvious and was in a Fusion bar talking with one of the most beautiful women I have ever seen, Asian or otherwise, and so said to her, in true drunken blunt fashion, "You're beautiful!" To which she replied, "Of course, everyone tells me that!"
Another time I was invited to hear a young female Korean friend, who I thought had a crush on me, play with her all girl band at a nearby bar. I arrived early, I usually do, and was watching them play, when four of her other male foreigner friends showed up all thinking the same thing. I stayed, cause the band wasn't that bad and the draft beer was cheap and hoped to chat with her at intermission. Well, her set ended and she didn't even come close to us foreign types. She hung out with her Korean firends at the front. Oh well, once more assumption is the root of all evil.
I was once infatuated with a lovely Korean lady and so i asked her out to dinner. She declined saying if her parents found out they would kill her.
Another female bartender, who I had just met, told me that I would be really handsome if I wasn't so fat.
There are a lot more stories, not trying to brag, but they'd fill up a website. Maybe I'll write a book someday, though now I am out of the dating scene. Which lucky Korean lady did I tie the knot with? None, I wound up meeting a wonderful Thai woman in the land of smiles and we've been happliy married for a couple years now. Who would have thunk it? Not me.
One of my favorite female bartenders, who spoke little English, but was always very friendly to me, one night became rather distant. I had just started in a relationship with a Korean woman and she, for some unknown reason, was upset, though we had never dated. She was a beautiful, it slightly wild (by Korean standards) young woman in her mid twenties and while I always wished I was a younger man, even then doubted if I stood much of a chance.
Later that year, I broke up with my Korean girlfriend and the bartender forgave me and became her usual friendly self. We never did have a date. Guess I am more conservative than I'd like to admit.
