I am sorry that I have consistently ignored your needs, and wants. I have put other people's needs before yours, and as a consequence, you have developed resentments.
I am sorry that I have blamed you for your divorce, not realizing that you were doing the best you could. I know now that your husband could of done something about the divorce, but he chose not to, and therefore, was not the poor deserted martyr I thought he was. I know now that you were very confused and hurt, and didn't know what to do.
I am sorry that I kept up the relationship even though it was emotionally very hard for you. I did not realize that it was my unnecessary quilt that kept you from completely seperating from him.
I let him use you until he found someone else to take care of him. I will try not to let people use you ever again.
I am sorry that I have labeled you lazy, when you were depressed. I will try to do something good for you when you are depressed now. I will take the time to think of the good things about you, and I will try to remember you are a good person, despite the fact that you mess up sometimes.
I am sorry that I judge you continually and watch for your every fault. I know that you do not claim to be perfect, or even close, but I still have been disappointed in you everytime you do not perform perfectly.
I have called you stupid, and lazy when you were tired and depressed. I have called you ignorant, and unprepaired when you were inexperienced. When you were afraid to meet people, I called you antisocial, and when people were put off by your shyness, I called you unlikeable. And if you stood up for yourself, I called you selfish. My perfectionist tendencies have made you anxious and tense most of the time.
You don't have to be right all of the time. You don't have to be miss AlA-non goody-to-shoes all the time.
I will try to love you, and accept your faults as much as I can, in this atmosphere of acceptance. You will probably be able to enjoy your life. I will make your needs my most important priority. I will let you accept praise and compliments with grace. You deserve them. I will make sure that you get all the help I can find for your continued growth of body, mind, and spirit. I will make time for exercise, continued education, meditation, and prayer. Your Happyness will be my first priority.
Most importantly, I will seek the help of my Higher Power (God), and he will show me His will for you, and give me the strength to carry it out.
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