"Lachesis Laments
Not in the Nick of Time"
by Susan Dunn
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The Three Fates |
What good would it do to be mad at him?
I'm furious with you for asking;
He wouldn't stop doing what he was doing
Which drove me mad
And then he went away and left me
And neither will you, and so will you,
And all I'll have is madness.
But to be mad at a child
Who never even got to be a man?
He was caught in a series of events
And was born with certain attributes
And had the family he had
Which made his life hard
Like everyone else's
But he was learning and growing
And there was still plenty of time.
Born with a naturally gentle disposition But unable to stop his rage when hindered A disturbing enthusiasm for nursing The morphine in mother's milk just the beginning An urge to merge, a pleasure in pleasing And never able to handle teasing; Post-mature, c-section, difficult birth Hours alone in an isolette; Why didn't he want to be born? Why didn't I want to let him? Those questions are stupid and have no answer; The timing was just screwed up. Born with a naturally gentle disposition But unable to stop his rage when hindered A disturbing enthusiasm for nursing The morphine in mother's milk just the beginning An urge to merge, a pleasure in pleasing And never able to handle teasing; Post-mature, c-section, difficult birth Hours alone in an isolette; Why didn't he want to be born? Why didn't I want to let him? Those questions are stupid and have no answer; The timing was just screwed up. Parents divorced and then depressed And people just kept leaving; Baby-sitters, best friends, brother off to college, I kept everything as stable as I could And that probably made things worse But parents recover and children do too; New friends come and one adjusts. Time heals. A mathematical brain, a genius With awesome stamina and focus When he thought something should be He acted as if it would be; Naturally graceful and cautious He
never had bruises, cuts, He just nearly killed himself twice Because he thought he could fly But eventually he learned, With time. An almost supernatural beauty in a nearly perfect body With bonding eyes and a centered calmness He captivated others and drew them in With a dangerous sort of power A gift that needed mastering But eventually everyone loses Nature always teaches The odds run out -- Eventually everyone hits a wall, Even Golden Boys; All he needed was time. If only life were as perfect and predictable As the absolute symmetry of his face And his hair that was never re-arranged By sleep, sweat, wind or water, Like the rest of us mortals; But even that went the way of all flesh Growing
in coarse and dark In sworls at the base of his neck Eroding the blond silk of earlier years Like the depression that circled coarse and dark around him Eclipsing the sunniest of dispositions. It wouldn't do what it used to do He wasn't as he used to be But it could all turn again; Time changes things. Time changes everything. He could drop kick and run backwards Before he was a year old Things the pediatrician told me were exceptional And when he was 6, I ran out of room on his soccer shirt For the stars from all his goals; A
one-man team, But that was soccer, not life. Even the exceptional need an audience And in time he would learn the difference. Time passed and on he went To amazing academic awards and honors And
became more beautiful, Effortlessly
cruising through life, And every obstacle I manufactured to throw in his path Because life wasn't providing any He vaulted over like an Olympic hurtler All except his father But
every boy defeats his father That time would come. And then came drugs and tough times But through it all he kept mostly ahead; Excellent grades and plans, Staying in touch with family, Falling down, getting up, Taking a hit, bouncing back. Surely he would learn to manage it As time went by. So what went wrong? Other kids have been through divorce And
spent a while with And had impossible fathers And impossible mothers And moved around And lost dogs And
others Have wallowed in it and returned Like half the litigators in this town, And
his grandfather, And
he was close to seeing With
honors and opportunities And his gentle soul mostly intact Maturing,
working full-time Finally
agreeing to mop floors Lurching through adolescence; It's the bullet-proof age You hope they get just enough bullets Just
strong enough to impress, And eventually they learn to BE the man Not FIGHT the man And he was getting there It
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So who blew it?
What went wrong?
Who do I get mad at?
Lachesis.
She's the one.
She measured the string too short
And we simply ran out of time.
Susan,
when she tries, always learns faster and harder than anyone I know. She
just always could grock things . . . . I wonder what she will learn from
all of this and when she will return to help those of us still trapped
below.
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Clothos, Lachesis and Atropos |
- Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes |
The Three Fates Clothos, she spins Lachesis, she measures Atropos, she cuts |