Tech monkey with Renaissance spirit and Latin blood

• background/bio "meet the family" thing
  • born and raised in Havana, Cuba, by a politically (against 'the powers to be') involved family of 5; my mother, my dad (who wasn't around much), my brother and my sister. I was the "responsible" eldest.
  • my mother is a very well educated and sensitive person, part of her education she did in America in the 1950's. She also has an exceptionally strong character/drive (she has scored the (measurably ;-)) most poetic/intellectual slurs I have ever heard) she is a very good music teacher
  • my dad is a really nice and super social guy. I mean my ex girlfriends keep in contact with him after more than 20 years!!! the (super) 'social' gene I am apparently missing :-(
    I am not mean/unsocial, but I don't tend to hang out there/socialize much. I would rather go and spend some time with you together in the rain forest than go to "social gatherings". Just letting you know, if you are more of a social butterfly that would be OK, too; in a sense we would complement each other.
    To me, an easy way to see if someone is good dealing with "people" is, if you are good at explaining to them why 2+2 is not 5 (instead of just explaining why/that it is indeed 4) then you are good with people. BTW, when I work as a teacher my students somehow love me anyway. Even though as a director told me once, "I don't tend to personally tune into my students when I teach".
  • as a child I tended to be quite difficult and inpatient/not so inclined towards learning. (Thank God, my Mom would just rather wack me than medicating my character/personallity flat) Once my mother stopped that and taught me "fractions" ... I ended up becoming a theoretical Physicist... Thanks Mom!
  • my brother, an exceptionally good musician/composer, used to practice violin first and then flute. By environmentally not having other option than paying attention to his drills, I learned to naturally love -iterations-, I mean, I didn't find his drills that interesting once his practices passed executional mastery. By interacting with him, I also learned from an early age "people are the way they are"


• age
  • me: 45
  • you younger: They say 'love/attraction/liking someone' does not have to do with 'age', but life definitely does ;-) The way I draw the line is, if Beatles' songs matter to you, you are fine. (A teacher told me once a story about one of her students saying "I hate this commercial" while she was listening to Beatles ;-))
  • you older: as I said; -I do want a family with children of our own in our lives at some point-.


• cultural things
  • I have been culturally exposed to ('my mother' ;-),) Cuba, Germany and the US (I have been living in NYC metro area for 10 years). From Cuba I love the way my people see everything through jokes and their rich and extended family ties. I also like that my people are very easy regarding races, ethnicity, religions and such things. Germany (in a sense the opposite to "Cuba" within the Western culture), other than being "some other place" and give me a reference/reflexive view into what we all consider "basic", endowed me with a top notch education/technical training (an der TU Dresdens/Rossendorf nuclear research centre).
    In a sense I came "ready-made"/less impressionable to the US, but I have learned here quite a few things, both through comparison to "my best known hell" (Cuba) ;-) and through some new reasoning. I have learned my way through this new age capitalism, the Open Source Movement (as heralded by Eric S. Raymond, Linus Torvalds, ... and kept alive by many, many indeed, people).
    I think I -might- be looking forward to spending some extended period of time overseas in ... hmm! Asia maybe? and I would like to relate to a person, who wouldn't be apprehensive of such things
  • I speak Spanish, German and English (know how to read and write music, too and looking forward to learn a non-Western language. Perhaps Mandarin)
  • I grew up as a child in a hostile social environment/not exactly liking what "luck" gave me, as if I were (depending on your take) a Jewish person growing up in a Muslim country or an Arab in Israel.
    My mother would forcibly take us every Sunday morning (baseball time for all children in the neighborhood) to church and enrolled us for communion classes and that in the Cuba of the 60's was quite a statement! I never actually did my communion (I would go to the huge church "San Juan de Letrán" (Havana, Vedado, 19th Street % I and J) and play with my friends there. One day my mother asked the father how we, my brother and I, were doing and he told our mother he had seen us in the church but not in communion classes and asked her not to reprimand us for that. Thank you Father! Thank God! ;-)). I do believe in God "my way", which, other than sharing the same name, does certainly not have much/nothing in common with, e.g., what President Bush refers to when he says about "God" telling him things.
    As I see it now, I find it kind of cool and as a very enjoyable personal skill "trying to do the best out of it" without giving up your true self. It has even served me well as a scheissauslaender/spic/black/Hispanic/whatever person (believe me, being on the other end (the dogs one (as in 'kick the dogs')) is not entirely that annoying/uninteresting)
  • I tend to be very strongly attracted by cultural differences, but it is quite a bit taxing and in some cases it becomes a missionary-native kind of power relationship, which I don't find that enticing. Usually I have seen multikulti children, endowed by this gift, love belonging/relating to more than one culture (like my lovely niece (chilanga/(from Mexico DF)), who during one of her birthdays told us to wait for her to finish saying her wish in English -and- Spanish (if one set of Gods don't pay attention to you the other certainly will ;-)))


• children
  • the happiest dream of my life has always been having a little girl (my daughter) happily run to me saying "daddy, daddy, daddy, ..." jump on my neck and hug me when I come home
  • I do want them at some point and I would be cool with the fact that you might have children of your own. If I love -you- I would love whichever way you come to me. I am not so social, but I tend to interact well with/not be aggravated by kids.
  • I do have a 17 years old son living with his mother overseas, whom I am looking forward to bring to live with me at some point


• background/profession/mind
  • theoretical physicist graduated from the Technical University of Dresden in the former DDR (Deutsche Demokratische Republik). Not that I am trying to play the smart little ass around. The most interesting part of my profession actually is that, right after graduation, I ended up working as a garbage man (So you can tell your girlfriends when you have your 'ladies talks' you are trying out/dating not only a garbageman, but a Cuban one @@ ;-)
    I mention these "intellectual issues", because, to my amazement, I have been told stuff like "What? Are you giving me homework?" by some girls out there, when you tell them about a book twice (!?!)
  • I have been obsessed with semiotics and the, to me, not so obvious ways communication works. Once a teacher showed me how a physical magnitude/concept changed its mathematical expression. He mentioned that during the class as a historical marginal fact. I have found it fascinating ever since
  
  
• What do I do? I work as:
  • an ESL, citizenship, Math, Physics teacher (I do love seeing/gauging how my students actually learn. I mean some of them I can tell were barely literate and I make them write and read English!!!)
  • an "independent" software consultant
  • a private tutor
  • Also, regarding what you do/who you are. Yes, one should try to keep separate spaces for family/private live and business/work, but in a sense and to a certain extent, thing is that you have got only one life and both end up somehow relating to each other


• last true relationship/why did we split?
  • 5 intensive and good years of a relationship that ended like a year ago. even though I am not exactly a 'soft cookie', people you love have an incredible power over you and "my ex was always right". Also we had little constant issues that accumulated to a point that made me burst. Yes, I missed and miss her, but we were not building a future for ourself and the proof is, we did not remain as friends (her choice (even though my family and friends keep relating to her in a friendly way as if nothing had happened, her family trashed me after "the contract" expired)).


• other things
  • I literally hate smoking
  • I generally dislike fat girls. BTW I am 6 feet tall and weigh around 185 lbs
  • I don't own a TV set (for whatever is worth anyway ;-)). There are people that just can't functionally live without "the box" (they even need the TV in order to get asleep @@)
  • I have succesfully kept myself cell-phone free so far
  • I can definitely NOT picture myself having sex with a 'Republican' chick (something new in my life ... (and they say people don't change!)) Not that I am such a politically minded dude, my take on politics is more of a moral one. I do like diversity (and here I don't mean the nice, garden-variety type, but the one that is "taxing" to deal with and cause you problems) and I am cool about other people's opinion and "mathematically/logically" speaking there are always reasons why people think/are in certain ways, but that doesn't mean you would like to spend your personal time with them. E.g., personally I couldn't care less about someone being a racially-minded person, but I don't like sharing my life with idiots.
  • No drugs of any kind! My only thing is that I like to eat raw garlic once in a while (They say all men/people need a vice. Well, this is a pretty healthy one I would guess ;-))
  • My favorite work out is walking long distances
  • My ideal of feminine beauty are middle eastern women, but I am a pretty easy to see beauty through and at some point you start actually finding sexier/more erotic people's brain/heart and my friends have always joked me around telling me 'women' are like modern art to me ;-)
  • I am more of a "let's-do-it-together" guy. Not really looking for "settled" girls and definitelly NOT for "sugar mommies" ;-)
  • I try to steer away from -regular- gring(o|a)s (notice the adjective) and no I don't "hate America" as some kind of people like to say. To me Kastro chronies in Cuba are in that sense "-regular- gring(o|a)s" also
  • favorite news source: "The Onion" the newspaper, it really makes me LOL. to me the truest and most thorough reports of what -really- goes on in America
  • Why am I doing this? Well, at some point in your life you know what you want and in a sense I haven't had the opportunity before. Also, good friends, whose judgment I trust, have told me 'it may work' and as the English saying goes "it is -where- -you- find -it-". The amount of noise you must swamp in on a daily basis in our modern times is amazing. let's see if this works or to which extent it does


• Here is a picture of me at Wagner Park, Downtown NYC/US

I look forward to hearing from "you" and meet "you" at some point if -you- feel like we could make a good "match" and would be able to work out a good "case" for love

Thank you very much
tekmonk2005@yahoo.com