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October 9, 2003 Community
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DruBlood writes an insightful entry about building community. It's an issue I've been grappling with myself, although only theoretically, I have to admit. I myself don't belong to any community other than the very immediate circles of my home life with Mike, my friendship with Richard and few others, my connection with my old boyfriend, Bill, and my family, which in this country is comprised only of my parents, my sister, her husband, and their 4-year-old son.
I read a book recently written by a man who grew up in Afghanistan: West of Kabul, East of New York by Tamim Ansary. His description of that country in the 1940's provides a great example of solid community. Afghan life was defined and structured by family and kinship ties. Each extended family lived together inside a walled compound, within which all life was intimately shared. There were very few personal possessions. Being alone was unheard of. Eating, sleeping, talking, discussing, and learning were all shared activities. "Being at home with the group gave them the satisfactions we associate with solitude -- ease, comfort, and the freedom to let down one's guard." [p. 17] Because the landscape was so harsh and life difficult, it was understood that the broader family would always offer help when there was a need.
Now, I'm not suggesting that mid-20th century Afghanistan is some kind of ideal model for society. There are several drawbacks associated with that particular culture, not the least of which is the second-class status of women. But what strikes me as a common thread among this society and so many others - possibly all others - is that the community is based around the family. Within families, there are almost instinctive bonds that determine that you will take care of each other no matter what [maybe grudgingly...]. At the very least, it's unlikely that you would irreparably shatter ancestral ties on a whim, over trivialities.
The problem I've seen with communities that are created artificially is the fickle nature of the relationships within them. I've been a part of activist community groups in which various members turned on people within the group, time and time again, over the flimsiest of disagreements, often with vicious nastiness and venom. I watched it happen in puzzlement and disbelief until they finally turned on me. I should have defended the people who were being vilified sooner, of course, but when it first happened I thought it must be for good reason. I didn't think people who were committed to equality and collectivism would attack someone merely out of spite and glee. And then when I did try to defend someone I became a target myself.
Richard and I have written a whole book [well, a short one...] on this subject, so I won't go into every detail now. Suffice it to say that this is a very common pattern in egalitarian activist groups, and this uncomfortable and unfortunate fact raises a real concern in our common desire to build just communities based on equality and collaboration: How do we create communities that do not degenerate into petty power-struggles, lockstep group-think and Machiavellian maneuverings?
I don't know the answer to that, except to say that I believe meaningful communities, imperfect as they may often be, are and always have been based on kinship and family ties. They are not created but have always existed, sometimes for millenia. When I was growing up in Italy I always believed, instinctively, that my relatives were in my corner. And they were. My parents and my sister are to this day unfailingly generous. [I know not everyone is blessed with a supportive family.]
The subject of community is a difficult one for me personally, because while I believe that mutual aid, collaboration, and togetherness form the essential basis for a just society, I myself don't like people. Except for my closest compatriots, people have generally proven themselves to be selfish and vicious. I don't like to believe this. It even goes against my principles and my most cherished tenets about what's important in life.
Although I'm generally a quiet and enclosed person, I tried to be part of a community when I first moved to New York. I joined an egalitarian collective for arts, activism, and community service [or so I thought]. I was open and giving and supportive, to the extent that I was able. I helped as much as I could with whatever I could. In return, no one extended their friendship to me. And ultimately, I was kicked in the face, hard.
In 1940's Afghanistan: "Going back to the ancestral village meant going home to a warmth and belonging that today, in my basement office in san Francisco, I can only imagine.... In this Afghanistan, this lost world, no one left the home village, or wanted to, and the concept of 'dysfunctional family' had no meaning. Oh, quarrels and disagreements abounded, and they were never really buried; they were hashed and rehashed till they had been thoroughly mulched into the clan soil." [p. 31]
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October 8, 2003 Everyday Poverty
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I know I probably will not earn myself any sympathy from the downwardly mobile and underemployed when I say that in spite of being 39 years old and a college graduate myself, I have never - except for one year when I made $10,072 - earned a yearly income that broke the five-figure mark, including gifts and other sundry sources of cash [I am currently a landlord, for instance, which earns me $300 a month]. Whenever I tell people this, they usually respond with a chuckle. I'm not sure if they think I'm joking or if they see me as such an incurable eccentric that my personal experience doesn't count in their minds as a real-life example for any "normal" person to consider.
We live in a world that is self-destructing. To try to reduce the environmental degradation and human suffering that result from the greed for money and power of the few, the least we can do, as individuals, is not support the structures that make this destruction possible. That means opting out of the system of money and greed whenever possible, by not needing or wanting or buying its products and services. I myself am far from perfect in that regard. I'm typing on a computer right now that I don't strictly need. I just ate most of a box of chocolate chip cookies made by a company that I am told is owned by the Moonies. Nevertheless, in spite of my lack of perfection or consistency, I choose poverty as a positive force for social change and as a positive way for me to live that is unencumbered and low-stress [at least when it comes to worying about money...].
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October 7, 2003
  "Underemployed: a euphemism for violent lifestyle change"
[Richard]
Over at infoshop.org, ChuckO pointed out another great article that some of us can relate to oh-so-well: "Underemployed: a euphemism for violent lifestyle change," by Barbara Card Atkinson. Infoshop shows the beginning of the article and leaves room for comment; you can find the full text of this very moving article at the Christian Science Monitor.
The second paragraph of the article goes right to my heart and pretty well parallels my own journey into Living on Less:
"My husband and I are two of the almost 1 million 'underemployed' in this country -- a demure label for a violent lifestyle change. We, with our college degrees and previous incarnations as latte-swilling yuppies, are now attempting -- and failing badly -- to keep our family of four afloat on an average combined income of substantially less than $1,000 a month.
There are some differrences between my own tale and Atkinson's. For one thing, though I also worked in publishing at my last real long-term job, I never reached quite as high a socio-economic status to fall from (possibly because I did not have a spouse of higher socio-economic status from the dot.com boom, and possibly because I never even envisioned myself as being upwardly mobile). I therefore don't have anything like equity to fall back on, just several hundred dollars left on my credit card. On the positive side (sort of), I do not have a family to support, and I never did go into low-level retail and entertainmnet-outlet work. I think I would have tried this kind of work if I did not have a kind of a phobia about it, which comes not from snobbery but from dread of the constant public contact all day. I have tried a couple of downwardly mobile stints, though, including a very part-time $10-an-hour gig last year, reading out loud to a legally blind guy who was trying to finish college because he wanted to go to law school (which work I actually felt good about, even though the guy himself was kind of a jerk), and a more recent part-time job at the same wage for somebody we know from our local political circle, working my ass off trying to type stuff into his data base. (Unfortunately, that last stint ended pretty badly, as this "comrade" turned out to be an abusive and utterly incompetent boss.) I also tried a couple of times to help Mike out on the construction site, but I found out that I would have a long way to go to get anywhere near the pace that he needs to work at (an idea with which I'm sure he would agree). And, I have sent out countless applications for $8-to-$10-an-hour jobs at offices, for secretarial work, data processing, etc., most of which were completely ignored...
As readers of this journal should know by now, I've kept myself in underemployment mainly by running out, usually in the middle of the night, upon a moment's notice, to do "ASAP" proofreading jobs that pay twice or three times the hourly wage of standard low-level retail work but are available an average of only one-fifth to one-quarter of the time. Given the choice, of course, I would always much rather work fewer hours to bring home the same total poverty wages. But I am really starting to get tired of the extreme job insecuity, and this lifestyle is starting to cause severe damage to my body clock (not because of working midnights, but because I now need to be open evenings and afternoons too sometimes). Considering, also, that I still can't find healthcare coverage, this limbo is beginning to seem more and more unsustainable. Should I look into flipping burgers too, or might I be able to get a job at a produce stand, like my roommate? I really do have to consider the other, dreaded choices now and then. (I have thought about a job at Virgin Record Stores or something like that -- though they're probably demanding some kind of retail experience, I would guess. I have also looked into working as a security guard, but for some reason, I don't think the security industry would be very happy to receive me. But, you never know...)
Regarding this whole issue of underemployment, as well as the bigger issue of our whole sinking (and stinking) economy, ChuckO really knows how to find articles that tell it like it is... Chuck originally mentioned the above-referenced tale on his blog, Monumental Mistake, where I have found quite a few rants that I could relate to. Chuck and I have had similar experiences in terms of both our economnic hardshp/downward mobility (Chuck's hard times have been going on for almost exactly the same amount time as mine) and our simultaneously increasing frustration/disillusionment with various aspects of the anarchist/activist scene (not exactly supportive, let's say). It's no wonder that sometimes when I read Monumental Mistake, I feel as though he's just taken the thoughts right out of my mind.
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October 6, 2003
  Personal Musical Discoveries -- and Rediscoveries -- Caused By Poverty
[Richard]
One positive by-product of my own condition of unemployment and chronic underemployment is that it's led me to make unexpected discoveries and rediscoveries in music. Back about five years ago, when I had a regular $30K+ job, I used to go buy a new CD just about every week. I would generally shell out $15 to $20 on some artist that I knew about or some compilation that had stuff on it that I knew about. For the most part, the experience was enjoyable, but also both predictable and expensive. And about eight years ago, when I had a few regular CD-reviewing gigs for small music magazines, I would acquire CDs through comp lists as well as regular purchases. This helped me to find a few more surprises, but I was also a bit impatient in my music listening and, like many people hooked into new-music culture(s), a little too stuck on the quest for the latest-greatest thing. In both situations, I think I never really stopped long enough either to discover some of the more subtle contemporary pop pleasures or, especially, to rediscover things.
Nowadays, the only time I'll get myself new music is through incredibly cheap bargains. (I can't really do the file sharing thing, because I don't own a computer with a sound card, so I guess I'll have to miss out on that experience and spare myself a threatened lawsuit or two.) Otherwise, I am simply left digging through my CD/tape/vinyl collection to rediscover things. But both approaches actually have been surprisingly fun and illuminating for me.
My last music bargain-hunting experience happened about two weeks ago, when I found a three-tapes-for-a-dollar sale at the J&R Music World discount outlet over by City Hall. As an aside, let me say I am amazed at how much people are sold on the digital format as the only way to get their music. If you ask me, CDs are really overrated, especially if you're the kind of person who leaves recordings lying around a lot so that they get scratched. My 25-year-old vinyl plays through better than my two-year-old CDs. But I've really come to appreciate cassette tape. It doesn't get scratched, so even though it's never quite as crisp-sounding as the other formats, it actually lasts better than them. (Though once in a while, a cassette will get destroyed if my cat gets his paws on it. For some reason he has a very strong taste for cassette tape and on several occasions, he's gotten at a cassette, eaten a bunch of tape, and puked it all over my couch. But that doesn't happen all that often.)
In any event, I couldn't be happier with the cassettes that I picked up for 33.33... cents each. I got one compilation of house music, one compilation of techno, and one cassette from the "trip-hop" DJ Tricky. It's a good thing I live on the first floor, because otherwise I'd have downstairs neighbors raising hell over all the dancing noises in my livingroom.
The house comp is Warning: Maxi-Mum Dancefloor Capacity, from Maxi Records, copyright 1995. It opens with a real house music classic, "(Why is it?) Funk Dat," by Sagat. Some people might remember this song; it hit as high as 63 on the pop music charts. It consists of a number of verses that begin with the phrase, "Question: Why is it that..." and go into a description of frustration over one everyday thing or another that most not-so-happy, not-so-rich, bugged and harried urbanites can relate to easily enough: Why is it that bums come to me asking for money when I ain't got no money... Do I need to be reminded that I ain't got no money?... Why is it that one neighbor's...always looking at me as though I'm the one who go her daughter strung out last week?... Why is it that every time I turn on the radio, I hear the same five songs fifteen times a day for three months? And after every instantly recognizable observation comes the exclamation, "Funk dat!" followed by an irresistibly funky piece of music, followed by the next question... This has got to be one of the most fun singles I've ever found on any compilation, and in true Living on Less style, this song by itself cost me under three cents.
Other songs on the house compilation are also very good. I particularly like Cocodance's operatic "Angels of Love." The other eleven songs are almost equally enjoyable and danceable, though once in a while, like much house music, it does get a little close to...disco, but I can look past that if I'm in a real house music mood. (It's hard to say what, exactly, separates house from disco. Maybe a higher tech quotient, combined with a little more jaded wisdom and irony. And much more room for weird, unexpected innovations, I think.)
The techno comp is from Nervous Records, Euronervous Techno Travel. The title kind of describes it -- fast, nervous energy driving pure, relatively uncomplicated technological dance music. It's good, and it's danceable, with compelling beats and lots of fun synsthesizer sounds. It's got no lyrics, so there's no poetry to inspire you but also no dumb lyrics to distract you (as is much more often the case). It's much better than lots of techno comps that I used to pay $18 for as new CDs.
The Tricky cassette, Grass Roots, actually features Tricky and a couple of other artists working with him, in the Tricky "trip-hop" vein. As with all Tricky stuff, it's a little funky, a little jazzy, definitely bluesy, and alternately -- or sometimes simultaneously -- mellow/chill and hard/grating. It's accessible music, but it's often got a refreshingly experimental edge. This is another recording that surpasses lots of CDs that I used to buy back when I was a real middle-class person caught in the earn-and-spend trap.
I've been digging through a lot of my old stuff and have come to rediscover -- and further appreciate -- a lot of things. I'll probably get to much of that other stuff in future posts, but right now, I wanted to spend some extra time to talk about the British band Saint Etienne.
I think I've developed a special new appreciation for Saint Etienne. I always liked their first album, Foxbase Alpha but never got to appreciate the second one, So Tough. Now I've come to realize that both albums, which came out about ten years ago, are brilliant. Foxbase Alpha is a deliberately spacey yet surprisingly catchy kind of album, combining good dance-club rhythms with dreamy pop meolodies, odd snippets of dialogue from movies, and near-ambient, psychedelic sound effects. It produced something of a hit, a somewhat off-the-wall cover of Neil Young's "Only Love Can Break Your Heart." So Tough used to seem too dance-popish to me, but that's because I didn't have the patience or time to really listen to it. Now I realize that along with the disco-ish rhythms on this album, Saint Etienne do some very interesting, more subtle things with dub-reggae-based rhythms and recording techniques. And the singer, Sarah Cracknell, may sound overly popish at times (she reminds me most of Petula Clark, sometimes with a touch of Debbie Harry); however, if you listen to Cracknell closely, you'll find that her pop singing is chock full of offbeat humor, strange sophistication, and her own unique, melodic sensuality.
I've got three other Saint Etienne albums, most notably their third release, Tiger Bay, which is an odd mixture of pulsating techno, very sweet folk-pop, and movie soundtrack music, with short, often ironic little stories in almost every song. (This,incidentally, is the album that earned them the most critical acclaim.) I've also got You Need a Mess of Help to Stand Alone, which consists mainly of alternative mixes from the first two albums and related singles. And I've got Good Humour, from 1998, which delves a lot more into the '60s pop sound but, like all Saint Etienne, isn't always exactly what it seems.
I don't know why I didn't appreciate this band more before... I think, for a while, I was looking for bands that did more obvious things on the surface. I spent a lot of time in the late '90s listening to Chumbawamba. Like my roommate (who's always listening to politically correct music) I was captivated by Chumba's tendency to combine accessible pop music with anarchist politics. And their politics are good, and they do have a politically terrific Web site. But for me, the politics don't always make the art, and while digging through my old Chumba collection, I've come to realize that they have just a few top-rate pop songs and some vaguely more interesting experiments (such as their a cappella folk album of Rebel Songs). The downside of Chumba is that even their experiments are pretty obvious. What you see is what you get. In other words, since they generally do most of their work on the surface, they're not the sort of band that you can rediscover, going back to the music later and unearthing new things.
But I think the deceptively popish Saint Etienne is exactly such a band. They're not overtly profound or political, but they are sometimes startlingly innovative, and cleverly disrespectful of familiar divisions between different niches of pop. I'm kind of glad that I was left digging through old music for lack of ability to buy much new stuff...so that I could rediscover good stuff such as this.
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October 4, 2003 Phone Bill
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Having a phone in New York City is outrageously expensive. You have to pay for every single local call that you make from home. The per-call fee used to be 10.6 cents during the day, 6.4 cents after 9 p.m. and during part of the weekend, and 4.6 cents after 11 p.m. and during another part of the weekend. Now it's 9 cents per call all the time.
This is the bill we just received:
Monthly Charge for Dial Tone: $8.61
Surcharges and Taxes: $15.73
Local Calls (275 calls at 9 cents per): $24.75
Total: $49.09
That's not including long distance nor any premium services.
I may have to switch to the unlimited service, which is relatively new and would cost about $41 a month. The thing I don't like about it is that there is never any possibility that we might pay less than the flat rate, for instance if we went on vacation for part of a month.
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October 4, 2003 Contents of Our Fridge
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Contents of our fridge:
Door:
plastic tub of sour cream, unopened
box of cinnamon buns (3 left)
partial bottle of barbecue sauce
partial package of cheese
partial jar of relish
can of beer
mustard squeeze bottle
mustard packet
partial bottle of ketchup
partial package of margarine
mustard packet
soy sauce packet
duck sauce packet
Freezer compartment:
2 ice cube trays
Top shelf:
teacup of salsa
partial container of cake frosting, vanilla
covered pot of leftover yellow rice
pot of leftover refried beans, covered with a plate
partial box of margarine
1 eggplant
mustard squeeze bottle
bunch of fresh cilantro
6 already-toasted tortillas, some with cheese, on a metal tray
Lower shelf:
partial plastic tub of sour cream
small saucer with 4 hot peppers on it
bowl of fresh guacamole, covered with small saucer
2-liter soda bottle (diet wild-cherry cola flavor)
1 dozen eggs
one bell pepper
can of beer
Crisper drawer:
4 tomatoes
2 cans of beer
partial package of tortillas
partial jar of mayonnaise
(beer is left over from guests)
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October 2, 2003 The Joys of Unemployment
[asfo_del]
Thank you to ChuckO for this link: The Surprising Benefits of Being Unemployed. He recommended it on his blog specifically for us! I should mention that Richard and ChuckO are old friends. I have only met ChuckO once, but I have enormous respect for him [readers may know that he is the driving force behind Infoshop and has contributed to or initiated countless other activist projects and activities].
I myself am not, strictly speaking, unemployed, since I am not looking for work. The U.S. government certainly does not consider me unemployed, since it only counts in its statistics people who have been looking for a job in recent months. [U.S. unemployment figures are kept artificially low by discounting part-time workers who want but can't get full-time work, people who are not looking for a job, either because they've given up, can't find work, are disabled, etc., people who work but are still living in poverty, and people who can't work at a regular outside job because they are in prison.]
Although I'm so exhausted sometimes that I can't take on simple tasks like taking a shower or doing the dishes, I still feel badly about not being able to support myself. Years ago, when I had just finished college and felt it was my ethical duty to go get myself employed, I thought it was simply a moral failing on my part that I could not muster the energy to get up, get dressed, go out every day at dawn, and spend the entire workday, every day for five days in a row, doing whatever.
I can sympathize with folks who are struggling to find employment because, at that time, the search for work was for me a bewildering puzzle. I had just graduated from an ivy league university, where I had been constantly harangued with the information that I, along with the tens of thousands who are graduated every year from the ivy league alone, was special and anointed, simply for having had the institution itself open its hallowed doors to me for a very hefty fee. At the time [the mid 80's] the popular refrain from the college's career counseling office was that employers prefer to hire liberal arts graduates, as opposed to graduates of professional training programs, because the former have been broadly educated to apply their knowledge to any challenge at hand. Apparently, no one informed employers of this.
I was turned down for jobs as dishwasher and cashier because I did not have experience. One store owner actually told me that she did not think I would be able to figure out how to use the cash register. I also applied for more professional jobs, primarily as a teaching intern at private boarding schools, a job which usually paid between $3000 and $7000 a year [plus room and board], but received no offers. One reason may have been that I was painfully shy and generally confronted interview questions with panicked silence. Having an obtuse personality is enough to make one unemployable.
Through persistence, I did stumble into a part-time job teaching high school English at a small - tiny, in fact - private religious school in Providence. I had sent them my resume, and when one of their teachers suddenly quit only one week into the school year, they called me in desperation. My fancy education actually helped this time. I made $6300 that year teaching two ninth grade English classes and one elective. It was difficult and exhausting but actually quite wonderful. We moved away at the end of that school year, so I did not continue in that job. I tried to stay with teaching, even going on to take most of the required courses for teacher certification, but in the end I had to give it up because teaching adolescents and having chronic fatigue just don't mix.
I was not unhappy with working as a retail sales clerk after that - a job that even an exhausted person can more or less sleepwalk through [and this is meant as absolutely no offense to people who work retail; I know full well how infuriating and offensive customers can be, not to mention employers who don't respect workers whom they can get away with paying so little] - but as my condition progressed even that got to be too much.
So now I'm in the ranks of the not-employed. And I can certainly relate with the ruminations offered by David's essay on the benefits of non-employment. Perhaps the greatest gifts are humility and clarity. Humility because whatever pretensions we may have had are probably no longer in our budget. Clarity because when you don't have a lot of money and are not constantly being pulled by the struggle to work at a job, you find out what matters to you. Since a more comfortable life is no longer affordable, there is a lot you have to strip away. As a result, you have to figure out what you can discard and what you will choose to keep until it's humanly possible. And because now you have the time to ruminate.
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