Click Here To Go To Home Page         Click Here To Go To Page 2 A Bitter Sweet Morsel         page one “What can you tell me to get over years and years of abuse and neglect?” A bitter sweet morsel in the mouth of the Spirit of God. Unforgiveness, Resentment, Anger held over day after day. I repeat, a bitter sweet morsel in the mouth of God's Spirit which lives in us! Note, I said God who lives in us. I did not say in our mouths. Why? We are made up of carnal things. The flesh corrupt. These are the fruits of the carnal man. The kind of things we learned a long time ago, before we were born of God's Spirit. The old man is still present. Correction. The experiences of the old man are still present. The carnal man whom we once were is everything God is not! When we were born again the carnal man was put to death but still the knowledge we possess remains. Be that as it may we are still living in this flesh and the experiences we once knew of the carnal  are still very much a part of our being. We still have the same thought process which has been so much a part a our lives since we were born. These are the things that got us into that mess to start with. What I am saying is, Our thought process gets stuck in the mode of the flesh if we do not keep on top of it and keep God daily renewing our heart and minds to fit His Glory! And dear child That is where I think you are at this time. Stuck in the old ways and not letting Him have His way fully in your heart. Could it be my friend that somewhere you missed full circle or complete comprehension of God's demand to turn it over to Him? Everything! Let's look at your question. "What can you tell me to help me get over years and years of abuse and neglect?" First I praise you for the balance of your letter! It appears that your doing so much right! For the most part your striving through study, prayer and obedience to be a faithful servant of our Lord. But several things come to mind which raises my eyebrows. Let me ask: While you were married to your most recent ex did you put him first or God? In all the instruction the bible directs about the spousal relationship it is in the pretense understood that God is the  NUMBER ONE PRIORITY weather spoken or not. My concern stems from what you did not say. Know this: If you were doing this or that to please him and feeling it sin,  then you were putting him ahead of God. OOP'S, Wrong thing to do. God blesses only those things which He ordains. You are correct, the bed shall not be defiled by outsiders. God joined the couple to be one flesh. He never intended for the bed to be of the many. Your ex was unfaithful to you by the mere act of suggesting others to be with you. Jesus said to lust is doing it. Click Here To Go To Index Page                                                                   Click Here To Go To Page 2