Saturday, June 14, 2003

I found on the net on a news site about what my brother did. They fail to mention he is a paranoid schitzophrenic and Ironically the people that diagnosed him as such and he had been on medication for nine years for schitzophrenia been held in Marlborough house for months the top secure unit at the back of the hospital and they found him to be of sound mind to stand trial I just cannot work that one out at all! any ideas?If it was an ordinary member of the public it wouldn't be going to crown court because they wouldn't be arsed to bother and my brother will not ever acknowledge his illness ,whole thing is a mess but he has been in and out of mental hospitals for nine years after being on put mental acts one after the other yet when they attack a doctor all of a sudden he is found fit. It is more then likely that he saw her as the devil initially as he always sees devils and demons coming up through the floor and they are constantly mentioned and he says they are trying to get him one year he believed he was Jesus Christ.
Please don't get me wrong that poor doctor I cannot imagine her fear and the fact she may loose her eye is absolutely fucking tragic . He must have realised after the commotion what was happening he went to London and told a policeman what he thought he may have done and the police man checked it out for him. The system doesn't have any kind of hostel type housing for paranoid schitzophrenics to live in , time and time again it is proved they cannot and do not survive well in the community, and the community and families unfortunately pay the price he had gone in the hospital to listen to some music allegedly.
I havn't heard anything to be honest since the police were at my house and I was telling an on duty social worker of his history , Where are their damn files I have spoken to so many social workers dealing with him in the past they have his history surely? I have had nine long years of it I and when the person who used to be your dear little brother is alien to you it is very hard especially when they are so unpredictable. Here is the news.

Doctor may lose her eye


A WOMAN consultant may have lost an eye in an attack in the middle of a busy out-patients clinic at Milton Keynes Hospital.

Horrified patients watched helplessly as Mrs Joan Haynes was allegedly assaulted by a man, believed to be an out-patient from the adjoining Campbell Centre psychiatric unit.
Colleagues and members of the public rushed to her aid and she was taken directly to the hospital's Accident and Emergency Department for treatment to a serious head wound.
Minutes later A&E colleagues made the decision to transfer her for specialist care to Stoke Mandeville Hospital in Aylesbury.
But it is too early to say whether she will ever regain sight in that eye.
Mrs Haynes, a specialist in genito-urinary medicine, is believed to be back at home recuperating after the alleged attack, under the care of her obstetrician husband Peter, who also works at the hospital.
A Milton Keynes Hospital spokesman said: "I can confirm there was a serious assault on a member of staff.
"On Wednesday a female member of staff was taken to Stoke Mandeville Hospital. We are investigating."
The incident has raised questions from other staff over the hospital's security measures.
One hospital volunteer told the Citizen: "Security is absolutely diabolical. There are always lots of people sitting around in the entrance or milling around on the steps.
"I wonder if anyone ever asks them who they are?"
But a hospital spokesman added: "We have security people on the site, we have CCTV.
"But thousands of people come through the hospital every day, it is a public place.
"It's very difficult to guard against an unprovoked attack in a public area."


A man has been charged in connection with the assault and been
remanded in custody to appear at Aylesbury Crown Court.
12 June 2003


(Not changed the wording) http://www.miltonkeynestoday.co.uk/ViewArticle2.aspx?SectionID=415&ArticleID=531710

Friday, June 13, 2003

TEACHERS REUNITED:

I wrote an email to my old school teacher to see if it was her and she asked me to tell me all about me and when I read it back it sounded such a sad and personal old email but I sent it anyway, no airs n graces just me being me.

BELOW IS WHAT I WROTE

I don't know where to start really. Your the first teacher I have seen join any list , I know that is because you were so good and always happy and all you St Lukes teachers had a great sense of humour! I doubt any kid left your class with anything negative about you, but instead nothing but nice memories . My brother John used to kiss you goodbye after his class whenever possible and you were my favourite teacher of all time too. There was a message board with lots of messages about our old teachers and nice words of thanks etc but because there were many abuse messages on other school boards about past teachers the whole lot on the friends reunited site got wiped and they started them all afresh.

Ok well I am now 34 I am married to Peter an ex public school boy backgrounds are chalk and cheese, I have five children the youngest is only three and half months, and the eldest is nearly 15 in September. I expect after working it out you must be retired or almost retired now, probably living in the south of France skiing every day well If you are hope your enjoying it!What Part are you in and why France? Must beat Kent anyway! See I have a damn good memory (I think).

I've only ever really been in the caring sector nothing glamourous despite always wanting to be a chiropodist or a teacher , (which you told my mum at parents evening I was capable of ) residential homes, brain rehabilitation and hospices.Unfortunately but fortunately(work that one out) my mum left my father who for all our lives was a very nasty piece of work just after my secondary school mock exams and we left London to flee to Milton Keynes. The school exam syllabus etc was all different and no plans were made to perhaps keep me with family at such an important time for exams so motherhood has become my main career really, and I wouldn't have it any other way and came out with 2 O levels and a btec diploma in prevocational education.

So I have been in Milton Keynes now for 18 odd years . My Mother died of breast cancer at 43 after a brave five year battle. My dearest little brother John is no longer the person he once was lovable extremley good looking and sensitive he is now a diagnosed Paranoid schitzophrenic and quite often resembles a scruffy Jesus. In fact he has made front page news today in Milton Keynes although it doesn't actually say his name I know it's him for assaulting a lady doctor in hospital and she may have lost sight in one of her eyes.It is awful.So to me really for 9 years now I have a person in my family that I can no longer relate to most of the time. We have done and tried to do so much for him over the years but with five children and one of them disabled (from a stroke aged 2) the time and hitting too many brick walls in the system the energy faded over the years and led to complete worry frustration, most of the time anyway.

Oh what a downer of an email so far! I am always really happy and jolly but I never come across in emails that way .I have had some contact with a few from our old class in St Lukes a few good conversations with David Reeves over the last year although not lately as I have a new baby and a bit of a giggle over the microsoft messenger network and we share the same sense of humour and we figured that it must have come from St Lukes and Camden teachers combined humour! I went to lunch with Ian Rice but he was a few years above and he didn't have you as a class teacher so you may not remember him but was Christine Rice's brother.

Did you ever have any contact with Mr Mcdonald or Mr V after leaving St Lukes and going to work in Glouester Grove?
How is James, youngest of the boys wasn't he? Do you still threaten to pull off his duvet if he doesn't get up when he stays with you? There is a picture of you on David Reeves notes have you seen it yet? What do you do with yourself now.
I have a quote from one of my secondary school reports "French is not Connie's strong point". Did you know that Mr Mohan was a bit of a pervert? hehe, true!

P.s Please don't correct my grammar and spelling hehe!I did alway's like SRA though.
Connie.

"Those school girl day's of telling tales and biting nails are gone"

Wednesday, June 11, 2003

FRIENDS REUNITED:

Oh I am so excited I think one of my favourite teachers of all time as appeared on my old schools list. She was my brother's favourite teacher of all time for sure and for years he has gone on about Mrs Bevan he used to kiss her goodbye after school she was lovely like that and used to have cuddles etc. I have written a short email just incase it isn't her , can't see that it isn't though.

Quite a lot of the old friends from primary school seem to have the same sense of humour and can understand each other on msn (no misunderstandings ya know) . I was gettting to thinking it was perhaps the sense of humour that flittered about the school with all the teachers. It was a small school but it was lovely, shame about the dinner ladies though. I don't remember one nice one and If there were their memory has been wiped by the nasties.


When I first went on the list for my primary school there was hardly anyone on it and had to get Friends reunited to add the school properly there was names for our year that were mixed up with another school. It is amazing what minute details the brain can recollect after emails and chatting. My brain hurt for days as the old memories stored away on a disc in the mind that were dusty had been repolished.

Monday, June 09, 2003

TRIVIA BUFFS:

I am sick to death with people who think they are top of the class because they know a lot of trivia. Somebody needs to tell these people to take their head out of their arses, that it merely shows one skill and usually the only skill these people possess. A lot of these people couldn't drive a car can't sing in tune can't add up and usually live on the dole for a long time because they need to catch up on their trivia or because there isn't a job out there that is GOOD ENOUGH for them or because really the reality is they are not actually intelligent . If you an all rounder at everything it show's far more intellect then someone who can only remember trivia.

For example somebody that can remember a hell of a lot of song lyrics to hundreds of songs is no different to the person that has remembered the trivia it is merely a different topic. It has been drummed in because if the quiz was just on song lyrics doe's the person have the right to say " Well that isn't my specialist subject if they were beaten"?.
The people that usually participate in this kind of activity on a regular basis have very normal and ordinary jobs, so why is that? if they have one at all, they consider theirselves to have a high IQ heeh REALITY CHECK , an IQ test does not exist only of trivia questions far from it you cannot consider yourself to have a high IQ that is why you are tested. So don't ever feel intimidated by trivia nuts. I have learnt lots of useless information in the past two years using internet quizzes but would never intimidate someone it matters not when you learnt it , you are no less intelligent then someone who knew that fact two years before you. I bet I could beat them in a game of chess, because they probably never learnt to play it or set the board up with all the useless information they were collecting.

If you do know a question those type of people say" How did you know that" well hey I went to bloody school till I was 17 I didn't walk around with my eyes shut . Maybe they did and learnt their trivia at home on weekends. Checkmate.

Sunday, June 08, 2003

TRAINERS���
I am waiting for some more tranquil moments in the Gurney household. Each set of midwives that came when Janey was born all said that we had a very calm and tranquil household and that we gave off a very calming atmosphere and that they felt able to walk around the house or fetch what they needed from the kitchen without even having to ask or to use the toilet. I have been told this when I have been at work and Pete is so laid back I swear he could fall off of the floor.
I agree that we are very blas� about many things especially Tim's situation but hang on, they havn't heard me shouting in the streets at ermm other peoples kids and I have a loud opinion for everything when watching the tele or generally ranting within my own home.
Chaos , shopping for three of the chavvies today, one in need of new trainers seeing as she lost her Kappa at school. "Ok, no fashion statements this time please sensible trainers money don't grow on trees and I am not overspending just to please some 'look you all up and down kid' whose mum is on the blinking dole anyway and fiddling it at that'.
Kayleigh turned into new trainers for Amy as well. Two sports shops and they shook their heads at any trainers I suggested or they didn't have the size 8 Kayleigh needs. Two shops and I was raging knowing I don't have much time at all when Janey drops off to sleep and Pete is watching out for her whilst rubbing down some skimmed walls. I am breastfeeding still and she wont have it any other way. I was pretty cross at both girls because it proved to me that it was all about fashion status and that really it was �60 trainers that were wanted, wasted my time and came back to a very miserable Janey.
Out again later with the whole family and trainers for Kayleigh and Amy turned into trainers for Ashley too , caps are in fashion too so they all wanted new ones and got them . So much for putting my foot down and saying NO to fashion this month. Trousers and t shirts starting emerging new socks for school and we went home �300 less in our budget. Me? I was happy with a �2 pink donnay tshirt and �6 trousers( what a bloody bargain) in size large to knock about the house in and which I am in great need of I have next to nothing to accomodate my new size since having Janey (three and half months) so any women out there with size 18 clothes that have just changed to a 12 would you like to swap? :)
THE RAIN CURSE:
Call me mad if you like. We have a beautiful lake around here and lovely countryside streamed pathways so when I can grab the chance for a walk with Janey and anyone else who wishes to join us I do I need the exercise . Everytime and I mean EVERYTIME I start our walk, it rains. Today just took the biscuit it was hot and shiny and beautiful perhaps a tad windy so I thought yep time for that walk. "I aint coming " said Ash it will rain. "Yea , your right you got a rain curse " said his mate Daniel "when we come with you it end's up raining, my mum said she will get you to come do the rain dance instead of getting her hose out hahahahahah cos when I come back and she asks why I didn't take shelter I say I been half way round the lake with Ash and his mum no shelter there". They both started jumping around chanting "Oogga Bogga" as if they were tribal. But they came with me and the grey clouds emerged and were following. We took shelter before we actually got wet under an underpass going to a next estate and it stopped. It was a con to get me back out I tell ya! It pissed down and I got wet right through nipples showing the lot. At least it isnt hail stones.


"Why doe's it always rain on me , Is it because I lied when I was seventeen"