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-- Alastair Farrugia "Like the Bard's King Harry before Agincourt she
[Princess Diana] captured the hearts of the foot soldiers of a
Our first responsibility as effective listeners
is to understand ourselves
Easy listening exists only on the radio.
The best way to persuade people is with your ears
— by listening to them.
Listening is a rare happening among human beings.
You cannot listen to the word another is speaking if you are preoccupied
with your appearance, or with impressing the other, or are trying to decide
what you are going to say when the other stops talking, or are debating
about whether what is being said is true or relevant or agreeable. Such
matters have their place, but only after listening to the word as the word
is being uttered.
I think the one lesson I have learned is that
there is no substitute for paying attention.
Instead of listening to that is being said to
them, many managers are already listening to what they are going to say
An essential part of true listening is the discipline
of bracketing, the temporary giving up or setting aside of
The way to stay fresh is you never stop traveling,
you never stop listening. You never stop asking people what they think.
The key to success is to get out into the store
and listen to what the associates have to say. It's terribly important
for everyone to get involved. Our best ideas come from clerks and stock
boys.
Listening is an attitude of the heart, a genuine
desire to be with another which both attracts and heals.
"Usually a person relates to another under the
tacit assumption that the other shares his view of reality, that indeed
there is only one reality...."
You're not listening... well, your heart is not.
Careful the things you say, children will listen.
Careful the things you do, children will see. And learn. Children may not
obey, but children will listen. Children will look to you for which way
to turn, to learn what to be. Careful before you say, "Listen to me." Children
will listen.
We need a definite purpose, a specific reason
for listening, other wise we don't pay attention and don't really
The jungle speaks to me because I know how to
listen.
It is difficult for anyone to speak when you listen
only to yourself.
he greatest problem in communication is the illusion
that it has been accomplished.
As friends, we don't see eye to eye, but then
we don't hear ear to ear either.
"The greatest compliment that was ever paid me
was when one asked me what I thought, and attended to my answer."
If I can listen to what he tells me, if I can
understand how it seems to him if I can sense the emotional flavor
"Few people... have had much training in listening.
Living in a competitive culture, most of us are most of the
If the person you are talking to doesn't appear
to be listening, be patient. It may simply be that he has a small
Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative
force. The friends who listen to us are the ones we move toward. When we
are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand.
So when you are listening to somebody, completely,
attentively, then you are listening not only to the words, but also to
the feeling of what is being conveyed, to the whole of it, not part of
it.
The art of listening needs it highest development
in listening to oneself; our most important task is to develop an ear that
can really hear what we're saying."
"One friend, one person who is truly understanding,
who take the trouble to listen to us as we consider our
"When a person knows that he has a good listener
to talk to, he'll share his thoughts more fully, which in turn,
To be listened to is, generally speaking, a nearly
unique experience for most people. It is enormously
A good listener tries to understand what the other
person is saying. In the end he may disagree sharply, but
Opportunities are often missed because we are
broadcasting when we should be listening.
A good listener is not only popular everywhere,
but after a while he knows something.
Small talk deserves small talk responses.
Because of their inner rigidities, fears and anxieties,
these listeners dread the mutual exchange of ideas and beliefs. They listen
only to what they feel they should be attentive to, blotting out larger
areas of wariness and thus avoiding the basic truth involved in issues
an situations. They are constantly suspicious and cautious about other
people's reactions and set up emotional filters which disturb effective
listening. Because of their hypersensitivity to criticism and rebuff, they
are constantly on their guard and on the defensive. They listen with prejudiced
opinions, preconceived notions, condemnations and cynical attitudes.
The time to stop talking is when the other person
nods his head affirmatively but says nothing.
Listening, not imitation, may be the sincerest
form of flattery.
Power tends to corrupt and
No man means all he says, and yet very few say
all they mean, for
One friend in a lifetime is much; two are many;
three are hardly possible.
..Adult listening behaviors become habitual. Our
listening behaviors have been acquired and reinforced over a long period
of time. As adults we rarely think about how we listen or consider that
it takes time to change old habits. We listen the way we do because we
have learned to listen that way.
It is easier to fight for one's principles than
to live up to them.
A crust eaten in peace is better than a banquet
partaken in anxiety.
Be content with your lot; one cannot be first
in everything.
We would often be sorry if our wishes were gratified.
Like walking and thinking and breathing and talking,
like all of the things that we seen to be doing naturally, we take our
understanding of the [communication - mine] process for granted. We assume
we know what we're talking about. We smile knowingly and nod knowingly
at each other when we discuss communication.
The paper burns, but the words fly away.
Leisure time is that five or six hours when you
sleep at night.
I don't want to achieve immortality through my
work. I want to achieve it through not dying.
To see one's self accurately; to understand and
know one's self clearly and honestly’ to have acquired those abilities
an characteristics associated with a strong, wholesome, self-concept-these
objectives are directly related to liking one's self, being confident in
one's self, and in relating and living effectively and satisfyingly with
others.
The difference between sex and death is that with
death you can do it alone and no one is going to make fun of you.
Service to others is the rent you pay for your
room here on earth.
Women like silent men. They think they're listening.
Doing easily what others find difficult is talent;
doing what is impossible for talent is genius.
In any country there must be people who have to
die. They are the sacrifices any nation has to make to achieve law and
order.
Rogers and Farson (1973) note the risks taken
by one who practices active listening in order to empathize with the speaker.
In achieving understanding of a situation from the speaker's point of view,
one risks being changed by the experience to coming to see within oneself
the world as that other person does. One will sense deeply the feelings
of someone else so that one understands the meaning that person's experience
have for him. When one achieves this, one risks a shift in thinking to
the terms of another. One may come to see the world as this person sees
it; to find it threatening to set aside, even for a short time, one's own
beliefs to try to
Most plain girls are virtuous because of the scarcity
to be otherwise.
God is not dead. He is alive and working; working
on a less ambitious project.
Never argue with a fool - people might not know
the difference.
The fewer facts you have in support of an opinion,
the stronger your emotional attachment to that opinion.
You can't walk a mile in someone else's shoes
until you take off your own shoes .
Women like silent men. They think they're listening.
We make war that we may live in peace.
What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two
bodies.
That's one small step for man, one giant leap
for mankind.
To communicate is risky, to not communicate is riskier. Ingratitude is sharper than a serpents tooth.
Hope is a good breakfast, but it is a bad supper.
It is good to be without vices, but it is not
good to be without temptations.
Be careful what you set your heart upon - for
it will surely be yours.
Nobody is more dangerous than he who imagines
himself pure in heart; for his purity, by definition, is unassailable.
Listen When I ask you to listen to me
When I ask you to listen to me
When I ask you to listen to me
Listen! All I ask was that you listen, not talk or do.
The future is like heaven - everyone exalts it,
but no one wants to go there now.
It's the good girls who keep diaries; the bad
girls never have the time.
God has been replaced, as he has all over the
West, with respectability and air conditioning.
Television is the first truly democratic culture
- the first culture available to everybody and entirely governed by what
the people want. the most terrifying thing is what people do want.
Critics are like eunuchs in a harem; they know
how it's done, they've seen it done every day, but they're unable to do
it themselves.
The Wall Their wedding picture mocked them from the table,
these two, Whose minds no longer touched each other.
The most important things to do in the world are
to get something to eat, something
Marriage, n: the state or condition of a community
consisting of a master, a mistress, and two slaves, making in all, two.
People never lie so much as after a hunt, during
a war or before an election.
Universal suffrage is the government of a house
by its nursery.
The first sign of a nervous breakdown is when you start thinking your work is terribly important. -- Milo Bloom An expert is a man who has made all the mistakes
which can be made, in a narrow field.
Improved listening skills will not necessarily
result in improved listening. We must apply these skills. We must be convinced
that it pays to listen. The combination of desire (I want to listen), effort
(I'm going to work at it), and skill (I know how to do it) will result
in improved listening.
The opposite of a correct statement is a false
statement. But the opposite of a profound truth may well be another profound
truth.
If you think education is expensive, try ignorance.
The test of the morality of a society is what
it does for its children.
Because I am a woman, I must make unusual efforts
to succeed. If I fail, no one will say, "She doesn't have what it takes."
They will say, "Women don't have what it takes.
Censorship, like charity, should begin at home,
but unlike charity, it should end there.
No good deed goes unpunished.
The most basic of all human needs is the need
to understand and be understood.
When in doubt, mumble; when in trouble, delegate;
when in charge, ponder.
Laughter is the shortest distance between two
people.
Nothing is built on stone; all is built on sand,
but we must build as if the sand were stone.
It is possible to store the mind with a million
facts and still be entirely uneducated.
"If speaking is silver, then listening is gold."
Ours is a world of nuclear giants and ethical
infants. If we continue to develop our technology without wisdom or prudence,
our servant may prove to be our executioner.
Grub first, then ethics.
I either want less corruption, or more chance
to participate in it.
Please don't ask me what the score is, I'm not
even sure what the game is.
"The principle of listening, someone has said,
is to develop a big ear rather than a big mouth."
To be sure of hitting the target, shoot first,
and call whatever you hit the target.
No science is immune to the infection of politics
and the corruption of power.
Never offend people with style when you can offend
them with substance.
Never do today what you can put off till tomorrow.
"Now a man cannot listen to another while he will
have all the talk and discourse to himself."
As a mother, I know that homosexuals cannot biologically
reproduce children; therefore, they must recruit our children.
Idealism is fine, but as it approaches reality,
the costs become prohibitive.
Before you kill something make sure you have something
better to
We love your adherence to democratic principles.
An expert is one who knows more and more about
less and less.
Friendship is like money, easier made than kept.
The man who lets himself be bored is even more
contemptible than
Any fool can tell the truth, but it requires a
man of some sense to know
One was never married, and that's his hell; another
is, and that's his
The optimist proclaims we live in the best of all possible worlds; and the pessimist fears this is true. - James B. Cabell Men willingly believe what they wish.
It is better to be defeated on principle than
to win on lies.
An honest politician is one who when he is bought
will stay bought.
Every revolutionary ends up either by becoming
an oppressor or a heretic.
When I sell liquor, its called bootlegging; when
my patrons serve it on Lake Shore Drive, its called hospitality.
You can get much farther with a kind word and
a gun than you can with a kind word alone.
Vote early and vote often.
Anyone who can walk to the welfare office can
walk to work.
It is long accepted by the missionaries that morality
is inversely proportional to the amount of clothing people wore.
In time of war the first casualty is truth.
Diplomacy is the art of saying "Nice Doggie!"
till you can find a rock.
As long as people will accept crap, it will be
financially profitable to dispense it.
Everything beautiful has its moment and then passes
away.
A proverb is a short sentence based on long experience.
In some cases non-violence requires more militancy
than violence.
He who asks is a fool for five minutes, but he
who does not ask remains a fool forever.
The man who strikes first admits that his ideas
have given out.
I like a man who grins when he fights. A cat will look down to a man. A dog will look up to a man. But a pig will look you straight in the eye and see his equal. It is a good thing for an uneducated man to read books of quotations. Man will occasionally stumble over the truth, but most times he will pick himself up and carry on. The inherent vice of capitalism is the unequal sharing of blessings; the inherent virtue of socialism is the equal sharing of miseries. Everyone has his day and some days last longer
than others.
Who will protect the public when the police violate
the law?
It may be that our role on this planet is not to worship God, but to create him. Politicians should read science fiction, not westerns and detective stories. Any sufficiently advanced technology is indistinguishable
from magic.
You're either part of the solution or part of
the problem.
The price of hating other human beings is loving
oneself less.
War is much too serious a matter to be entrusted
to the military.
When you have nothing to say, say nothing.
America is the only nation in history which miraculously
has gone directly from barbarism to degeneration without the usual interval
of civilization.
I hear and I forget. I see and I remember. I do
and I understand.
Real knowledge is to know the extent of one's
ignorance.
Imprisoned in every fat man a thin man is wildly signaling to be let out. Slums may well be breeding grounds of crime, but middle class suburbs are incubators of apathy and delirium. Always be nice to those younger than you, because they are the ones who will be writing about you. The past is the only dead thing that smells sweet.
You shall judge a man by his foes as well as by
his friends.
Don't talk unless you can improve the silence.
A man feared that he might find an assassin; Another
that he might find a victim. One was wiser than the other.
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