Stop~N~Think

Violence is an act of rage that has existed for centuries and
sad to say that it didn't solve anything then, nor is it solving
or helping things today. When problems arise there are better
ways of working them out effectively than hitting on a woman.

Now when I say violence I should be specific.....(rage) meaning
pent up anger inside and releasing it all on someone like a wife
or girlfriend. There are men who suffer at the hands of abuse too
from their wives that is why my page is about STOP~N~THINK for
domestic violence, violence in general.

Let's see Cain killed his brother Abel according to the Bible this
was the first violent act in a family circle and it caused a death.

Over the years people have closed their blinds, stopped up their
ears, turned their backs on those being abused and never stopped to
think that could be their sister, daughter or niece. Violence can
befall anyone but the home should be a haven, yes, a protection from
the world outside. No one should be subjected to a life of pain
physical and mental daily.

The questions are what do we do to help those being abused? How do
we help them to see they are precious and don't have to stand the
violence anymore? Can we take the responsibility of being there
for a victim to ensure they live another day? Think! The answers
to these questions might seem simple to a kind hearted person but
most often than not alot of people don't have the time to read this,
to extend themselves to help someone for they are tapped out
themselves from work, their own families, etc.... As we all are
Brothers and Sisters we must find the time to help and not turn our
backs on this growing plight in society. Children and Women are
losing their lives!

"A Poem of Hurt"

For all the times you left us,
when you never gave us food.
The time you pushed me down
the basement stairs and put
a knife to my very throat.
I hurt! The memory is still
fresh in my mind. You fed
the drug man's pockets and
neglected your family, gave
me grief instead of love.
The times the children went
without wasn't much once I
saw you wouldn't ever change.
Yes, I hurt! Trusting no one
to ever mistreat me or mine.
You embarassed me in front of
friends and tried to stop me
from working many times.
Didn't you know I am a person?
That all your actions would hurt?
Well I am telling you now, I have
moved on long since but still I
hurt and will make it my promise
to save other women from that now.
Why? Because no person especially
a women, princess or Queen should hurt!

Come Join me in spreading awareness and action in taking this ribbon
back to your site, display & link it to this site or a link below.

There is not just physical wounds that are put on a victim but there are
emotional ones too! This is just as bad for it can cripple a person.
These are things to look for or recognize if you or someone you care
about are experiencing emotional abuse:

1. Being put down all the time.
2. Feeling guilty, being told that everything is your fault.
3. Playing mind games.
4. Not allowed to handle money or financial affairs of your own.
5. Told you are stupid and humiliated alot esp. in front of others.
6. controls you, the children to the point of intimidation.
7. uses the children and visitation to harass or hurt you.
8. Keeps you inside most of the time, says has reason to be jealous.
9. Abuses the pets, harms the children, keeps you away from family.
10. Denying that abuse took place and that you are the crazy one.

There are more signs and facts that are provided below in the links.
This is a serious problem, since it is hidden too many people leave it
unnoticed or unchecked and it can cause damaging pychological health.
For the person being victimized and if there are children they too can
be affected by the emotional abuse because of the subtle but constant
bombardment of negativity. It is like a person being swallowed in a
dark and deep hole each day with no chance for fresh air or daylight!

It has taken me years to finally address publicly the emotional abuse
I went through in my marriage. It has been 11 years since I have been
rid of my husband. I'd like to say that you move on and get over it
however, it is not the simple. Alot of days, months and years of repair
to my mind has taken place but my body has suffered traumas. I am happy
now not just because I left him but I am my own person now and it feels
good! I wish the same for every abused person in domestic violence,
that their day of violence, emotional abuse and pain (scars too) cease!!!

Please spread the word....tell all you can to all you know and support
the ACT you will find information in the links below. It is important
that people get involved in order for the victims that have died to be
heard and to save countless of others from dying. Uncontrolled rage
and bitter, spiteful words can stab deep and the healing needs to start!

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Phenomenal Women of the Web

Here is a site created by a special young lady
You will admire her courage and faith as I do

Ashley

For a fallen angel in death too soon.
One who fought against domestic abuse.
A special and loving person, Rachel.
You are gone but your deeds not forgotten.
A candle will burn always in dedication to
your memory. Peace I wish you for we all
will finish your work and make sure others
will know your story and take courage to do
something to end domestic violence. Thank
You Rachel you will always be in my heart!

"Ode to Rachel" by Felisa Whitfield

Please visit Rachel's Site
Just click on the Award to go there

Here is a brother angel, Glyn's Site
Please visit here about Child Abuse

Please sign the petition to strengthen laws
against Domestic Violence, Thank You!

Petition Online

Don't Blame The Victims

Links to other sites on the Web

Emotional Abuse in DV
National Coalition Against D V

Men and Domestic Violence

Mens' Rights

Domestic Violence Unit(Mass)

Safe Horizon

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