Then that's it, dont even try to force it, as it will break up your relationship. As much fun as this lifestyle is, it isn't worth giving up someone you love for.
2) Jealousy
The old green-eyed monster is very quick to appear and a lot of couples will find that it soon can destroy their relationship. Don't do this just for you, as you or your partner will soon get jealous unless you're both are on the same wave length.
3)Honesty & Communication
If you can't talk to each other and be honest about your feelings in the relationship then you really shouldn't be together anyway, let alone be thinking about this. Enjoying this lifestyle will just make it worse. We talk about everything before and after. Most times its easier to set ground rules before getting into anything, so both of you know how far you can go. There will be times when one or both of you may not get out of it what you thought you would, this also needs to be talked about as to how it can be corrected.
Whos's morality? If it was yours then you would have stopped at reason one in category A as the idea would have offended your morals. But as you are here it can only be other people's definition of what is morally wrong and right that you are worried about. I am a very moral person. I give up my seat on buses. I am anti war. If someone drops some money in the street I stop them to return it. I am against the death sentence. I could go on and on. Just beacuse Tracy and me have sex with others then this makes us immoral? In who's eyes? Get real, morals are something that you live your life by and if other people don't like them tough. As long as you aren't hurting or forcing your moral values onto others then this isn't even an issue.
Not quite as cut and dry as morals but down the same lines. I can honestly say that me and Tracy have not lost one true friend yet, that have found out about this side of our lives. Most of our friends know, Tracy's sister knows even Tracy's mum and dad have strong suspicions. Also on top of this we have made a few good special friends enjoying this way of life. There are two ways to do this. a) You don't have to do a web site and you don't have to tell anyone about your sexlife, it's yours to enjoy. Most people don't. Its private, secret, something naughty, a thrill that the idea of geting caught makes it even more fun. There are lots of ways to meet like minded people without the world and his wife knowing. b) If you want to be open with other people and they can't accept you for who you are then they aren't worth knowing in the first place. Most people don't understand why you would want to give openess a try rather than the fact they can't accept it. We have found after you have chatted to people about being open as you would any other normal part of your life then they become intrigued rather than offended
When I was 18 I nearly became involved in the church in a big way. I still consider my self to have strong ideas about faith and God. So how can that be whilst living this life? The problem starts not with God but with organised religion. All organised religion and I am not singling out one faith here, all of them are the same and have the same purpose. That purpose is to control and suppress the masses. This is in fact a good thing in some ways, as it gives alot of people structure to their lives and hope in times of need. I do have a problem however when a person like myself takes a step back and sees the bigger picture. I am not trying to force my views on anyone about ourlife style so don't expect the religions of this world to force thier views onto me. In all forms of religious text people inside and outside of marriage are fucking other people like crazy. Sex isn't outlawed by faith and God, its there to be enjoyed by honest, loving, fatihfull people and thats just what we do. Its only that in this last century that the crazy idea of sex being a dirty, un-godly and terrible thing, has been promoted by religion. Its Not, Its Fun and God loves us anyway, so they say. Lets face it the worst thing one man (or woman) can do to another is the act of rape or taking of innocence, and time and time again these things happen within them same organised religions. These are the same people that would preach to you about the way to live your life and the road to God. If you believe in a God the best way to find him is to be true to yourself, treat others with respect and love, and enjoy your time here. Who knows how long it will last.
