So you're happy to get in touch? Maybe meet? Ok, here are some pointers:
1/ If you are new to all this, you don't have to wait to be asked. If you see someone you really fancy, mail them and say Hi. Compliment them on their looks maybe.
2/ For goodness sake, don't just say you want sex. It may well work sometimes but sometimes you'll just appear crass. Personally I'm a sucker for the gentle approach. Just for fun here are a couple of examples of the right way and the wrong way....
First the 'subtle as a flying mallet' approach:
'Saw your pictures. I have a huge c****. I'm in XXXXX this week. Lets F***..... Kevin'
Alternatively:
'Hi Trisha, love your pictures. You are so feminine and a beautiful mature woman. I've attached mine. It would be lovely to meet some time if you'd like that. Love and kisses, Felicity...'
3/ If you do approach another girl, don't be over ambitious. Read what they have to say and take heed. If they say 'Guys only' - forget it. If they want smooth young girls you're probably wasting your time if you're hairy-legged and 50. Not that I used to do so badly, by the way, but its a question of realistic expectations. The 'smooth' thing is a case in point. 'No Hairy Panty Wearers' is a pretty common qualification that a lot of girls use on profiles or descriptions. Everyone has their own standards and they should be respected - its no good at all getting bitter and twisted about it. On the other hand, if that description comes from someone whose pic looks like a Wookie in nylons, I'd have to suggest that they're fantasists and are unlikely to turn up for a meet.
4/ If you do get approached, please reply even if you don't fancy them or you don't like their style. Its quite nerve-racking coming on to someone, and pure politeness says reply even if its 'thanks but no thanks'. And anyway, they might have a drop dead gorgeous mate and trannies DO gossip....
5/ If it's you who's asking, and you get a negative reply, leave it. 'No' means 'no', right?
6/ Quite a few girls are into cyber-sex. They dont want to meet but do want to exchange explicit emails. Nothing wrong with that (although in my opinion it's like eating chocolates with the wrapper on) as long as it's not disguised as a desire to meet face to face. If you don't want it though, you have the right to say so.
7/ It's always a good idea to talk on email, chat, IM or whatever before arranging to meet. But I'd also strongly recommend that before you actually commit to a meeting, you arrange a time and phone them for a chat as well. Refusal to speak by phone can be a good indicator that you have a timewaster on your hands. But a phone call also can help you make your mind up too. If they sound nice ........
8/ And talking of timewasters....... Sometimes people don't show up. It's hugely annoying, not to say frustrating and not a little upsetting. I once spent an entire afternoon sitting in a slightly seedy hotel room, dressed up like a dog's dinner waiting for someone who never showed up. I was pissed off, quite a bit out of pocket and felt deeply humiliated and it really knocked my confidence. I felt like a sleazy, ugly old slag. But it happens. Some people just get carried away with the fantasy and promise the earth and simply don't deliver. Its not a particularly nice thought, being reduced to someone's masturbatory aid, but there you go.
9/ And still talking of timewasters .... Apart from not wanting to talk on the phone (which CAN just be shyness), be very suspicious of someone who spends their email time with you going into the gory details of what the two of you are going to be doing. Get the picture? Most people like that do at least have the grace to vanish without trace before a meeting is actually set up. They've got what they wanted and good riddance.
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