Doing the Deed......
	Ok, so you've exchanged emails. You both fancy each other something rotten and you live close enough to make it work. That's it isn't it? Far from it ...... This may sound obvious, but start thinking about what it is you want and what you are prepared to do. And remember too that it isn't all about pleasing yourself. Letting your partner do what she likes is not only likely to get you a return match but is also very nearly an erotic necessity (or it is for me, anyway). Anyway, we girls have a pretty wide range of tastes and they don't always match up. If you're new to all this, you may be about to fall into the classic trap of letting your fantasies run riot.
	So.... back off and think of it as real for a while. The first thing you need to come to terms with mentally is that you are planning to have sex with another man. Forget all of the softporn gobbledegook about 'clittie-sticks' and other rot like that. Trannie or not,  gorgeous or not, she's still a male. Think long and hard about that, huh? The next thing to think about is what you want to happen. Do you really want to be tied up and thrashed to within an inch of your life? Do you really want to have penetrative intercourse? 'Cos if you think you want either of those and you've never done them before, there's a good chance it'll HURT! Potentially, lots. I cant speak for being spanked, because it doesnt appeal to me, but being sensitively and gently penetrated can be blissful as long as you are physically and mentally ready for it. Do you really want to do it on your first ever date with another TV? You may want to settle on something a little less heavy. If your newfound girlfriend can't handle that by the way, dont bother. Sensitive and caring TVs respect limits. So, you've got a date. Next question is 'where'? All the dating agencies, straight or otherwise, recommend neutral ground. Trouble is that you're unlikely to be able to meet in the pub or local curry house. I'm not sure that neutral ground is that necessary if your potential lover is known in the transgender community so if she's got her own place, great! Just a thought about personal safety. Violence and rape are not totally unknown in our community although they ARE rare. If your partner is ok with you having meetings, tell her where you're going. Or if you have a close TV friend - tell her. And make sure your new contact knows you've done it too! If she cant accommodate and neither can you (and a lot of people who CAN accommodate tend not to on a first date), there's a lot to be said for  hotels, particularly the cheap and cheerful big chain hotels like Travel Lodges. All the things that are wrong with them in the usual run of things are actually in your favour. Very impersonal, so unless  you actually turn up in full drag they'll not remember you. They're also unlikely to stop your new lover marching straight through Reception and up to your room (although beware of Days Inns who have a remote lock on the door which forces everyone to go to Reception, which could be embarassing!). Wherever you decide to meet, arm yourselves with your mobiles, know each others numbers (and rules about when its ok to ring), and off you go..... Go to The Big Day