Silver and I became aquatinted the summer of 1997. I had placed a personal ad in the Yahoo! Personals. Being the lead singer for a fairly successful band, most of my time was spent in bars, setting up gigs, playing or setting up equipment and the fact that I do not drink left the possibility of meeting someone while doing these task that I would get along with was slim to none. The other problem I had was that I look much younger that my age, and being around the "typical" aged people that hung around, went to see, or were attracted to the type of music we played (Alternative Rock) meant that those that ask me out were usually 10 to 15 years younger than me. While we could have fun, there couldn’t be any real connection. SilverKnight answered my ad. We wrote for quite awhile, sorta getting to know what we liked and didn’t like...the typical get to know each other stuff. I learned that he too, was an ex addict and also went regularly to NA & AA meetings (that was an a + to me) he loved animals the way I do, (Big +) our religious views were pretty much the same (a +) and we basically liked a lot of the same things as far as movies, outings etc, (another +) I also found that I was 10 years older than he was, (that was not a +, but a -) After much urging on his part, I finally agreed to meet with him some where and we settled on his place of employment at "Radio Shack."

I walked in and ask to see him, he came out and I was instantly attracted, he said that he turned around to his co-worker he said, "Oh my God!" cause he was feeling the same thing! We hung around just a bit, then the store closed and we went out to my car. He said, "and she even drives a Ford" (he is die hard Ford guy). When he saw I was driving a Mustang. I agreed to go back to his apartment with him, I thought we had written enough and talked on the phone enough, plus I felt at ease.

Once at his duplex, I was impressed at the fact that everything was so neat and tidy (Something that, in the future would sometimes be a pain LOL) and not decorated too terribly bad for a guys place. He showed me his fish & his cat Salem and we talked for awhile. I was finding myself being WAY to attracted and thought that it would be best that I make up an excuse and leave, which is what I did. I avoided contact with him for weeks, other than a couple of his e-mails that I answered. He told me in the first e-mail after we met that my presence had lingered in his apartment for hours after I left. That just reinforced all the fears I was experiencing. I though, "shit! This guy and I have been old souls that have known each other through many lifetimes!" I though that if he and I continued to see each other, we’d end up in a big love affair, we’d have fights and make up a million times, finally separate, and I’d be hurt again and I just couldn’t go through all that... again. I told him that I was looking for someone to just casually date, not a relationship and that I thought it best we didn’t get too involved. He ask me if we could stay in touch and just be friends and I said yes. Well, I dated up a storm trying to avoid him for about a year or so, and he was seeing people too.

Right before Yule 1998 my band started having some problems and I lost a couple of members. At 45 I was wondering if I really wanted to put it back together or maybe knock it off for a bit, or for good. I was seeing a lot of people but they we’re empty relationships and Silver continued to call and write me. Sometimes I would answer his e-mails, most of the time I would see his name on the caller ID and tell people to tell him I wasn’t home, which he later told me he could sense I was standing right there.

Well, for some reason, one day when he called one of kids said, "its him, I’ll tell him your not home," and I was like, NO! No, give me the phone. The next night I went over to his apartment....and so for my fourth time and his second, we were Handfasted/married, June 5^th 1999.

Note: Almost on 4 years and going strong...it’s a great marriage, bout time!

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