THE MORAL ADVANTAGES

Going back to he days when men respected women

These should be quite obvious and require no explanation, but to some they are not so obvious.  Many of the women I have "talked with" on-line do not see these advantages and even have concerns that Domestic Discipline is immoral.  What I have found through those conversations is that such an attitude is usually the result of an erroneous understanding of power.  In these women I have found an underlying belief that power is bad, that to want power is worse, and that to actually exercise power is evil.  It has been ingrained in these women that they are not worthy of power. My message is that power is all over the place and cannot be avoided.  If you do not exercise power somone or something else will.  It is not only your privilege to exercise power but a moral duty as well.      Domestic Discipline is a wonderful way to re-energize a stagnant sex life in a marrige.  If that were its only purpose it would be worthwhile, but it does not stop there.  Domestic Discipline secures a marriage on moral ground.  Even Freud recognized this when he wrote that; "A marriage is not secure until the wife takes a maternal view of her husband."       For some women this is a difficult concept to accept becuase we tend to confuse morality with convention.  In America today discipline of any kind has become unconventional, but the tide is turning.  We are starting to appeciate again the benefits of traditional discipline and the value of submitting to authority in our lives.       While most women understand their own need to submit to authority, they do not understand how important it is for their husbands to do so as well and the difficulty they have submitting to an authority that is not tangible.  If we look at the history of church in Western civilization we find that most of the truly steadfast submission to God and church has been practiced by women.  Men have sought to make church an opportunity to gain and exercise power rather than to submit to it.  Maybe it's easier to submit to a God of the opposite gender, that a quality of "otherness" is necessary to truly submit to another, or that there is an element of sexuality even in our spirituality.       We do not hear Domestic Discipline spoken of publicly by society's moral standard bearers and we certainly don't hear about it in most churches.  It is practiced, however, in many more homes than you would think.  Except for the few select friends with whom I have shared the disciplinary aspect of my marriage,  no one has any idea that my husband and I are practicing this.  Others do envy my marriage, the devotion my husband displays toward me and the ease with which we get along.  I hear such comments with some regularity. Those who make those comments sometimes ask me for my "secret."  I usually just smile and tell them how lucky I am to be married to such a good man.  And I am.  The honesty and vulnerability my husband shows by accpeting my authority are gifts that most men are afraid to give their wives.  He truly is a good man and he gets better all the time because I see to it that he does.       I have strayed a bit from the purpose of this section.  The following are some of the moral advantages of Domesic Discipline:             + A husband who is more faithful to the marriage in               heart, mind and body.            + Safe, supportive and fun ways to release anger and                tension in a marrige.            + Motivation for a husband to coninually improve                himself (He who stops being better stops being good -                - Oliver Cromwell).            + Increased vulnerabilty and intimacy in the marriage            + The moral authority in a marriage in is the hands of                the partner with the greater tendency toward                traditional morality. *            + Stronger marital bonding            + The power struggles that can arise in a marriage and               cause great problems are replaced with the peaceful               acceptance of authority. * Throughout this site, as I promote women as dominant partners in Domestic Discipline, I rely upon generalities.  In some marriages it is the woman who has more difficulty with self-discipline and the man who needs to take the dominate role. There are sites devoted to male dominant/female submissive relationahips and I encourage those interesed in such a relationship to access them through my Links page.

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