Hatred is self-punishment. Hatred is the coward's revenge for being intimidated. ~ Hosea Ballou ~
Hatred does not cease by hatred, but only by love; this is the eternal rule.
~ Buddha ~
Hatred -- The anger of the weak.
~ Alphonse Daudet ~
Love blinds us to faults, but hatred blinds us to virtues.
~ Iba Ezra ~
Hatred can be overcome only by love.
~ Mahatma Gandhi ~
If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself. What isn't part of ourselves doesn't disturb us.
~ Hermann Hesse~
A man who lives, not by what he loves but what he hates, is a sick man.
~ Archibald Macleish ~
We never get to love by hate, least of all by self-hatred.
~ Basil W. Maturin ~
Hate can only flourish where love is absent.
~ William C. Menninger ~
I have tried -- not always successful -- to remember this lesson: Even people I dislike have a piece of God. My task is to move the junk out of the way so that I can find it.
~ Robert P. O'Brien ~
To be angry is to revenge the faults of others on ourselves. ~ Alexander Pope ~
Hatred of enemies is easier and more intense than love of friends. But from men who are more anxious to injure opponents than to benefit the world at large no great good is to be expected.
~ Bertrand Russell ~
He that will be angry for anything will be angry for nothing.
~ Sallust ~
No one can be despised by another until he has learned to despise himself.
~ Seneca ~
Wisely, and slow. They stumble that run fast.
~ William Shakespeare ~
Hatred is the coward's revenge for being intimidated. ~ George Bernard Shaw ~
From the deepest desires often come the deadliest hate.
~ Socrates ~
Take care that no one hates you justly.
~ Publilius Syrus ~
Hate is such a luxurious emotion, it can only be spent on one we love.
~ Bob Udkoff ~
Hatred is a boomerang which is sure to hit you harder than the one at whom you throw it.
~ Source Unknown ~
Anyone can hate. It costs to love.
~ John Williamson ~
When our hatred is violent, it sinks us even beneath those we hate.
~ Francois de la Foucauld~
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"But why, Mom? I don't want to go."
"Give me two reasons why you don't want to go."
"Well, the kids hate me for one, and the teachers hate me also!"
"Oh, that's no reason not to go to school. Come on now and get ready."
"Give me two reasons why I should go to school."
"Well, for one, you're 52 years old. And for another, you're the PRINCIPAL!"
Source: Jokes4U
In their book "Seven Life Lessons of Chaos (Harper Collins, 1999)," John Briggs and F. David Peat tell us that "perhaps one of the reasons why we experience such secret satisfaction in feelings of anger and hate is that they seem to make the world simple and clear cut. Hatred projects the other as the enemy, offering us the illusion that if we could just eliminate the other, major problems would be solved".
Briggs and Peat warn that such oversimplification creates a false sense of community, an "us" as opposed to "them". This grip on stereotypes and dualities has led to disastrous consequences in the historical past.
Dictators have used this flawed logic to marshal loyalty or fear of the others to keep them in power. One needs only to look back at the mass extermination of the Jewish people during the reign of Hitler. Or Cambodian people during the time of Pol Pot.
Briggs and Peat suggest that their `chaos theory` could provide a means to end these stereotypes. "Chaos suggests that irony, metaphor and humor help us to move beyond duality into a new clarity of vision," they say. Chaos theory simultaneously accepts simplicity and complexity, one and many. In other words, there is no single approach to a problem. In the case of Hitler, think of how many options you can come up with to realize his dream of a pure Aryan race without necessarily resorting to violence.
Following this principle of chaos theory, Tsinoy used `humor` in the above story as a way of engaging the reader to take a second look at the feelings of hate and anger in a different light. Note that the object of hate in the story is the principal. But is it the principal as a person that the teachers and students hate, or the power he has over them?
The next time we find ourselves angry with someone, or at the world, it would be wise to pause and reflect on this feeling. Are we not being duly influenced by our stereotypes or prejudice against others? Remember, anger is the filter that we use to see the world.
James Thornton offers a way out of this situation in his book A Field Guide to the Soul (Bell Tower 1999). He suggests that we confront the `beast,` or the object of our anger. This is the process of releasing them. While they may not totally disappear, Thornton assures us that our relationship with them will change fundamentally. They will no longer control our lives. We can look at them objectively and dispassionately.
A simple exercise that he prescribes is to train ourselves to bless and not to curse those who cause us difficulty. He would like to assure us that this transformation will lead us to gain radical confidence in the way we relate with others, and with the world.
