-- Never change your life around to suit her requests. Keep doing the things you want to do to be happy, no matter how much she says she doesn't like it. She will respect you for being solid. If you change shit for her, it will cause you to resent her and that resentment will cause a blow up down the line.
-- Try to have sex on a daily basis. She will be much more relaxed and secure-feeling about you. Long periods without sex will make her wonder about your attraction to her or whether or not you are having an affair. Stay away from porn if doing so cuts down on your sexual activity with your wife.
-- If you find yourself feeling like you want other women it is usually because you are not giving your wife enough attention. Give her more attention -- she will blossom into a more beautiful creature before your eyes -- and she will be all the woman you need!!
-The problem comes when you start to think of the apparent fact that there is a better one out there for you and you are in essence denying yourself the experience of the better one because you are either a coward or a pitying zombie. The line of thought is, of course, mistaken and fallacious. Even if she is ugly and overweight, you can make your wife into the hotest hottie provided you pay the right kind of attention to her. Fail to do so and you are only poisoning your OWN garden with liquor, fastfood. and newports -- ie, all the things that might replace your much desired attention and all the things that make other men's gardens look so good.. You must attend to your thangs. Don't treat your girl like some old jalopy that you roll around in drooling, marvelling at all the Mazarattis, Ferraris, and Lambourginis. Any car can look hot with a little attention : "Pimp my Ride" has proven that time and again.
--YOU STEAL TIME FROM YOUR SOLITARY ALLOTMENT BY BEING UNPLEASANT IN ANY WAY EVEN IF YOU ARE RIGHT! Do it in public and you will look like one of the great FOOLS OF THE AGES to both your friends and complete strangers alike. You will have to smooth it out with her afterward no matter what. This can NEVER be a prelude to a break-up -- it can ONLY be the prelude to MAKING UP LATER. Breakups occur in the rarified atmosphere of sleeping indifference. This state, that we all fall into from time time, provided the only true backdrop to a parting of ways. It is in fact, proof of its necessity. All highly charged arguments are PROOF that genuine emotional connections have been established -- therefore they speak to preserving the union. Indeed, the highly charged breakups are always instead MAKING UP preludes of one sort or another. And sometimes the MAKING UP CAN TAKE WEEKS. Don't overdo it though -- that is, do not do shit for her that you REALLY don't want to do in some kind of over-dramatic play of making it up to her. You'll risk blowing up again, destroying not only the memory of the original gestrue, but also the memory of several PAST POSITIVE gestures. This kind of negation is properly called Proto-Monsterboy Behavior.
--Don't be a dick. At all costs. Lobby like a winner, with calm and grace. Hyperobole here will actually reverse the intended result. Your rage is well founded but innefective and -- it bears repeating -- counterproductive. The goal in a marriage is to keep the general level of the relation, a positive and ascending one, for this kind of process will cleanse you both of many demons. MORE COMING