| On August 13 1961 Mary was born into this world. Nothing special happened, just another birth in the projects of Baltimore Maryland. Mary was the oldest of 4 children. Here is where some things start happening. Her mother and father was separated /divorced. And at the age of about 8 years old Mary's mother dies. Some think that Mary was alone in the house with her mother, There is some mystery about her mothers death. Mary blocked the whole thing out of her mind. Mary had to take on all of the house hold chores. At a later age she is taken away from her father. She is placed in many different foster homes and finaly ends up in a girls school in Washington DC. Her Aunt Betty and Uncle Ray of Richmond Virginia take on the role as mother and father, at least it is in Marys mind. One of Mary's uncles was an instructor in the U.S. Army at Fort Lee Virigina. That is where I came it to the picture. I was an instructor in the other end of the same building and I lived on the same block as her uncle. Me and her aunt and uncle socialized. He was reasinged to German, and Mary did not want to go back to Richmond to live with her aunt and uncle. She wanted to get out on her own. At about the same time I broke my back for the second time and I was in and out of hospital's from November 1979 to March 1981. While I was in Walter Reed Hospital located in Washington DC, me and Mary became what was called an item. That was January 1981. I fought the medical board to stay in the Army an won my case. I was sent to Fort Bragg North Carolina. My back got worse and I was medicaly retired from the Army. Our son Scottie was born 3 October 1981, and our Daughter was born 21 November 1982. In 1983 my mother had a heart attack and we moved toPortales New Mexico to be close to her. Mary started going back to school to get her GED. The G E D program was transfered through so many people that it looked like Mary would never get her GED. Then some people started a school ( Broad Horizion) where you could get a high school diploma through them. Mary graduated from there in May 1992. Mary started going to collage but between my back and our son Scottie's Muscular Dysphory she had to drop out. In 1990 we lost my Father, Mother, and Mary's Aunt Betty. It was a hard blow to Mary. It was like losing her mother all over again. Also her and my mother became very close. It was a blow that hurt me and her for a long time. When we got word that Mary's father was dieing we moved to Baltimore Maryland to be close to him and a chance to get to know her family again. It hurt Mary that she could not get close to her father. He would not let her. Also it was not working out between her and the family she had in Baltimore. While in Baltimore I was injured again and had to go on morphine pills, so my work days was over. So we moved back to Portales to live. Mary took care of us and my brother when he became ill. Mary was always into doing crafts, but she did not beleive in her self. We finaly talked her into putting some items in the state fair, and she won second prize with one and first prize with the other. We got a computer and got an internet connection. At first Mary would not do any thing except play games on the internet. Then she started watching me build web pages and saw how eazy it was. Many hours later she built her first web page. As time went along she got better at it and she found a site called "The Site Fights". There Mary met many people that she called friend's, and she spent many happy hour on the internet building web pages and a lot of other stuff. She was so happy when some of them built their own web ring. While Mary was moving things around she hurt her back, and started going to the doctors with it. They found out that she had female problems and that she needed an operation to correct it and a bladder problem. I know you have seen to ad that says, gota go, gota go. That was Mary before the operation. When they got in they found a herina that they did not know about and fixed it. Every one was telling her that she would enjoy it a lot more after the operation. About a week after she was operated on Mary started getting sick and throwing up. She would get better and then start all over and worse than the time before. She went to see many doctors about it and no one could find out what was causing it. On June 10th 2002 I took her to the doctors office in Amarillo Texas, about 120 miles from home, to get the results of the test he had done. All of them came back negative just like before. He gave her some samples to try and it looked like they was working. Now all along I was taking Mary to the ER so often so that they could give her an IV and fill her up on liquids. On the way home from the doctors Mary said to me " Honey I dont think I can make it". I told her that she had to because we was just a little ways from home. Mary was acting in a weird way. Then she told me that she could not feel her legs. Then her arm started acting in a weird way. I turned around and went back for help. |
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| This is a picture of Mary and her mother. It was taken in Baltimore Maryland. |
| This picture was taken a little before me me and Mary becoming an item. It was taken in front of the hospital at Fort Lee Virginia. |
| I will be adding more pictures as I find them. Mary had a way of putting things up and being able to find them again. The rest of us had to look for a long time to find them and some times we never did. Mary was my wife, mother of our children, best friend, lover, and my sole mate. We hit it off when we first met. We was together for almost 22 years. We never had much money but there was a lot of laughter and love in the house. When we went places people would follow us to see what we was up to this time. Everone would have a good laugh if she gave me her purse. I will tell some tails of what her and the kids and me would do later on. There was a lot of love in the house, and Mary was always talking about how she would make sure the kids knew that we loved them. Love was not a word that me and Mary heard while we was growing up. At least not toward us any way. We both had a hard life and I guess that is one of the reasons that we got along so well. We was each others sole mate. We was lost with out the other one around. Mary was my whole life, all of my hopes and dreams was for her and with her. |
| If Tomorrow Never Came If I knew it would be the last time that I'd see you fall asleep, I would tuck you in more tightly and pray the Lord your sole to keep. If I knew it would be the last time that I see you walk out the door, I would give you a big hug and kiss and called you back for more. If I knew it would be the last time I'd hear your voice lifted up in praise, I would vidio tape each action and word so I could play them back day after day. If I knew would be the last time I could spare an extra minute or two, to stop and say I LOVE YOU! instead of assuming you would KNOW I do. If I knew it would be4 the last time I would be there to share your day, well I'm sure you'll have so many more, so I can let just this one slip away. For sure there's always tomorrow to make up for an oversight, And certain there's another chance to make everything right. There will always be another day to say our I Love You's, And there certain there's another chance to say our "Anything I can Do's?" But just in case I might be wrong and today is all I get, I'd like to say how much I LOve You and hope we nevr forget. Tomorrow is not promised to any one, young or old alike, And today may be the last chance you get to hold your loved one tight. So if you are waiting for tomorrow why not do it today, For if tomorrow never comes you'll surly regret the day. That you did not take the extra time for a smile, a hug or a kiss, and you were too busy to grant someone what turned out to be their last wish. So hold your love one close today wisper in their ear tell them how much you love them and you'll always hold them dear. Take time to say "I'm sorry, please forgive me," "thank you" or it's ok" And if tomorrow never comes, you'll have no regrets about today. |
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