I know too well that not all abuse that happens comes from the stereotypical psychotic stranger lurking in the bushes. People can be and are subjected to abuse from people they know, every day. This doesn't mean it's OK to let your guard down, however. There are ways to protect yourself from being harmed by a stranger. While this isn't fool-proof and can't avoid all situations, there are some things you should be aware of. Some of these things may seem common sense. Some of them may seem silly. But here they are for your judgement.

• Always be aware of your surroundings. Sounds simple, right? Well, you don't want to be a paranoid wreck, but an occasional glance behind you or, if you are in a place well-lit enough to see your shadow, watching your shadow, can help you be aware of what's around you. Listen to your surroundings, as well.

• Have your keys in hand when you're walking to your car or home. Having the key you need ready saves time and keeps you from getting distracted looking for them when you reach your destination.

• If you think someone is following you, find a public place fast. If it's late at night and you can't find a policeman try to find an all-night grocer. Tell someone there you think you're being followed. Another option is a hospital emergency room. . .preferably BEFORE you need medical treatment; I mean as an option to report being followed.

• Never walk alone at night. If it sometimes can't be avoided try to find out if a security escort service is available. Some college campuses and workplaces offer such a service.

• Don't visit an ATM at night, or, if it cannot be avoided, try to have someone with you. There are also ATM machines now in many all-night grocery stores and gas stations. Please check this out as an option. You may be charged a dollar or two from your account, but this is well worth the price of additional safety.

• If you are attending a party or are in a bar, NEVER, and I mean NEVER leave your drink unattended. As a general rule, I don't leave my drink unattended, and I try when possible to make sure I'm watching the bartender mix my drink. No, I am not overcautious. I'm not hawking the bartender; and in fact, the couple of bars that I do attend on a regular basis are places where I *trust* the bartenders. But I do not leave my drinks unattended. Rape drugs do exist. It's a sad but true fact.

This list will be edited and/or added to periodically. It doesn't, of course, guarantee that you will always have 100 percent safety. What is mentioned here is as a way to help raise the safety level. Please notify me if you have any suggestions.

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