Anyway, I am in a much better mood. I like the idea of how this week worked... two days each and we share him one day. That was cool.
Jessica's responses to my responses:
Being selfish or feeling selfish? Do they expect you to be happy a
bout giving up time with him or something? Being selfish
would be refusing. From what I can see, this isn't what you are doing.
You're just not terribly happy about having to give up
time. Yeah, it may be more fair to Zoe, but that doesn't mean you have
to be thrilled about sacrificing.
Well, I'm supposed to be quiet, and not mention that I'm upset, because it's all reasonable and agreed to. I'm not supposed to be this upset, I think, and be talking about it.
It sounds like you're talking about scheduling time when Zoe isn't around, as well ("You can't see him this day because he needs time to himself that day, but you can see him on this other day.").
I mentioned this to Remington on IRc today (yes, I was baaaad), and he said "if we didn't schedule it, I'd never get a day to myself" and that spontaneity would drive everyone nuts. Thinks we just need to be less restrictive with the scheduling, griping that it's not right that we never get a weekend day. He has no suggestions, but somehow hopes that his getting more time to himself will "throw a wrench in" and it'll work out better. I think he was just pulling it out of his ass... yeah, like that's going to solve the problem?
He admitted that he's "seeing her on weds more or less" (told 'em) and he says it doesn't work according to the plan anyway. Well, it does on weekends I think, not weekdays anymore. I commented on how it's all adjusted to her getting three and me too, but he didn't say anything about that. Other than he's planning to alternate weekend and weekday offs- I'm surprised at that somehow, I thought it was going to be that he always wanted two off.
If she's getting more time than you are by having both a weekday or two and the weekends, I don't see why you can't ask to have a weekend day with him every once in a while. Her needs are not more important than yours. And if she's invading your territory, I don't see why there is any reason why you shouldn't invade hers. That sounds really negative. I don't mean that you should ask for weekend time simply because she's asking for weekday time, simply that you shouldn't feel its unreasonable to ask for weekend time just because it's traditionally her time.
Yeah, well, I'm just a shy non-forceful wuss. Who says nothing even when justified. I'm so used to being controlled by others.
Heh, the concept of wanting to be around someone all the time is completely foreign to me. Maybe because I've never met someone I liked that much, maybe because my personality is different. I just get in moods sometimes when I just want to be alone.
I can't explain it really. It doesn't make sense.
Does he want time alone in this way (private time to himself) or time alone so he can get work done? It sounds to me more like the first. I don't know, he mentions both pretty often.
Less hurt feelings or just feelings that aren't hurt by him directly? I think that's a kind of selfish attitude on his part...
Yeah.
Weird tonight to show up to class without Remington...I brought Zoe along for a bit (we had dinner together), he ran in at the last minute. He did offer me a ride home after all (he didn't want to, apparently), but seemed to want to get me out of the way when we got to my place.
He said he was going to pull an all-nighter in the lab, which since he was likely to go on IRC, I was fine with. And that was fun, till Bill came on wanting to go out for ice cream. Remington went, without saying a word to me. Ugh. I keep thinking what I'm missing out on. Grrrrrr. Not like they'll miss me really, but I'm still annoyed at this.
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