Feel out the Groove

Question:

1. The next time we go out, what are some ways that I can let her know that I'm interested in her?? Keep in mind I'm a shy guy when it comes to women.
2. What do think is the best way to make the first move?? Should I just kiss her, or should I flat-out ask her what she thinks of me (ie: are we Just Friends, do I make your palms sweat, etc).

TheTruth As I See It!

Simple? You want simple? Sorry but that is not something I can deliver to you today. If all men and all women were alike in their likes and dislikes, it would be a different story. But they're not so you're stuck with the following gems of wisdom for which I'm likely to get a pile of feedback telling me I'm a jerk. Won't be the first time!:
(As for being friends first? Don't have to be, but it sure beats being enemies!)

You say you've been out on three dates and that you met on the Net. I'd say that the fact that you've done those two things so far means that you have a pretty good chance that she likes you already. She's probably feeling you out, testing the comfort levels, making sure you don't drool when you talk and important things like that. I also think that the reason she no longer talks about this "other guy" shows an in plus for you; telling you that she is available without actually saying the words.

Now the tricky part, what to do next! Everyperson reacts differently but I'll tell you what I think, and backed up by "The Book", you should try next. The key words are "body language", yours but especially hers. Invite her out on date four to dinner. It doesn't need to be that fancy, but it needs the ambience (love that ambience). As you're making your way to the table, touch her. I don't mean paw at her, just touch her shoulder or elbow. During dinner, touch her hand as you talk to her; soft touch, hold two seconds, remove. See how she reacts, how she feels. Cold fish hand and you can forget it. If she doesn't jerk hers away or she smiles or plays with her hair (hair playing is a big good sign), wait a while and do it again. Be nice, be kind, don't drool. Watch her and listen to her and let yourself feel her out on her emotions. By the end of the dinner you'll know if you've been watching if she has any feelings for you.