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Question:
Right now I feel so bad for everything I've been doing. I'll start from the beginning. OK, in the summer I met this guy, he was nice and all. But later I met another guy and didn't tell the first guy (to make things easier lets just call him Josh). Well when school started I broke up with the guy for various reasons. Then Josh found out what I was doing behind his back and dumped me. Right then I feel like a total b***h. I mean doing that to 2 sweet guys.
Anyways after about a month went by I met ANOTHER guy. Lets call him Steve. Well, I start going out with him (even though I was still hurting from Josh). Amazingly enough Josh phones me and says he wants me back! But it didn't take him too long to figure out about Steve. So, he changed his mind.
Now, about 3 months later Josh phones again telling me how much he misses me and all. By that time I still had feelings for him, but not as much as before. So, I dump Steve for personal reasons and go back to Josh. Now, here's the tricky part! That is if you're still with me. Here goes! Steve tells his friend I dumped him and asks him to phone me to tell me off. Well, he phones planning to do just that, BUT...yes BUT!!! But we start talking and find out we've got a lot in common. More than I had with Josh and Steve put together! He's like my significant (I'm not sure I spelled it right) other! We're like so perfect for each other. But, (there's that BUT again!) I'm going out with Josh and promised not to cheat on him and he's Steve's friend and he promised to mean to me. It's such a confusing love triangle! Please
help me get through this before I lose all sanity!!!
Before I dispense with any sage advice, let me just say that perhaps it's time for you to stop playing with men. You've got yourself into a vicious game of musical chairs, not to mention playing Russian roulette with your health if you're having unprotected sex with all or any of these people.
That said, let's consider your sanity for a moment. I say that you should say goodbye to Josh as far as dating him goes. Do it nicely but do it anyway. There is obviously little between you two or you wouldn't have been fooling around on him originally nor would you have dumped him the first time. This friend of Steve's, seeing as how you didn't name him lets call him Rupert, may be the first male you have something in common with. That may be a new thing for you to try out in the dating world and a highly recommended route to take. Keep in mind there will be dating friction between the two of you seeing as how he is a friend of another of your dates. Of course you are already thinking of dumping Josh for Rupert even though you've never even met him. So give old Josh-o the boot and try Rupert out. If he isn't the main man for you once you meet him don't go back to Josh, or Steve, guys don't like to be played for the fool like you've been doing.
Though you've never said it, I'd guess you are young and youth is the time for at least a little bit of sampling what the world has to offer. So be nice to the guys, try out Rupert and give him a fair shake. The other thing you could try is NOT having a boyfriend for a while instead of jumping from relationship to relationship. The world doesn't end if you don't have a date for one weekend.
Good luck Marie, and slow down a bit! You'll enjoy life a lot more.
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