Should He Stay or Should He Go Now

I live with my parents, boyfriend, and my eight month old daughter. My relationship has been through the ringer and I had decided to end it. However, the other night I was fighting with my boyfriend because I didn't want to have sex with him and he did. We both went to sleep angry. I later woke up in the middle of the night to find that my night shirt had been pulled up to my neck and he was touching me everywhere. This put a new light on my situation. I am now scared to break up with him because I don't want what happened to me, to happen to my daughter. I don't have any proof of what happened, so, if we go into a custody battle for my daughter we will both probably receive partial custody. I stay because I can make sure that nothing will happen to her, but I don't want to be with this guy. Please help

The Truth As I See It!

Always keep in mind that the child and the child's well being come first and foremost. That said, from what you wrote, I think you're making a huge leap in rational judgement. You have your boyfriend going from being a horny, angry guy to where he's become a child molester! What you described to me sounds more like date rape then anything else; that in itself is a chargeable offense and may be a recourse if he tries it again. Has there been any signs at all that he may possess the tendencies to touch your child in inappropriate ways? Perhaps you didn't fill me in enough. If that's the case and there is more to the story then meets this one man's eye, the solution is only one plausible thing. GIVE HIM THE BOOT! Give him the boot anyway! You staying with him is doing no one any good at all.
Seeing as how you are all staying at your parents house, I would surely hope your parents would see clear to back you up on this. If he is a danger to you or the child, get yourself down to a legal aide centre as well as a single mother's type of facility where can give you the proper one on one counselling you require. Even if he isn't an apparent threat to you or the child, you should do what I just mentioned anyway. The legal aide can set you straight as to your rights and how you would go about filing for custody rights, make the first step yourself. Speaking to other women in your situation will also be a large help in the process you are about to embark on. Take it slow and do it right for the best results. I think you're staying with him for the wrong reasons, sooooo, good luck and get moving!
But keep in mind, if there has been no foul play, do NOT go about branding this man as a child molester falsely! A big no no! If he hasn't committed any primal sins, he has every right to be a part of his child's life. A child needs a father.

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