The Power Of A Massage Definately A Must For Romance
Start with conversation. Without even touching the person, talk to them. Get attuned to how they're feeling etc at the time of the massage. Find out how their day,week,month has been (Depending on how often you talk to them.
Ask them if there are any areas that are painful or sensitive that they'd like avoided or paid special attention to. Remember that if they're not comfortable with you, they won't be comfortable with the massage they're recieving from you.
Ask them if they would be uncomfortable with taking their clothes off. Let them know that you won't see them completely nude, but the purpose of the removal of clothing is so that lotions or oils can be used and so that the friction between cloth and skin won't cause discomfort for either the masseur/masseuse or massee. If they're uncomfortable with taking off their clothes, let them know that it's okay to leave them on.
Again, they have to be comfortable in order to enjoy the massage. If they do wear clothes, don't use lotins or oils, but instead decide (Depending on the type of clothing) if you're going to cause the friction between your skin and the cloth or the massee's skin and cloth. If the clothing is very loose, you're best to keep the cloth with your hand. If the clothing is tight, it's best to keep it with the skin of the massee.
Assuming that not everyone has a massage table available, the floor is the next best thing (In some cases, it's better, IMO). Lay out an exercise mat or similar pad if you have it. If not, a blanket or comforter will work fine. Make sure that the surface that the person is lying on won't hurt their skin. (Don't use a rough feeling blanket... The smoother, the better.)
Make sure that there's room enough for the person to stretch out on and spread their arms and legs out a little on without falling off the edge. Tell the person that after you leave the room, you want them to take off their clothing and lie on their stomach on the matt, covering their butt with a towel. Have another towel handy to cover the breasts of a female massee when she turns over. When they're lying on the floor properly covered, they should call you back into the room to begin the massage.
You should have a natural oil or lotion ready. If possible, have a warm water bath that you keep the bottle in (A bowl of warm water works good). You'll want to use an organic oil or lotion rather than an animal fat-based oil or a mineral oil. These can harm some people's skins. Vegetable oils and lotions work best. Personally, I use a Keoki Papaya Aloe Lanolin lotion. You can usually find a good natural lotion or oil at GNC or any health store.
Start by rubbing the lotion between both hands to warm it up if it isn't already warm. Gently spread it across the upper back and shoulders, getting the massee used to your touch. IMPORTANT: Once you have touched the person, never lose touch til you're done. You want to create a bonded feeling between you and your friend through touch and if you break contact, that feeling is ruined. Keep talking to the person while you spread the lotion across the upper back and shoulders.
Spread the lotion in a circular motion of each hand for a few rotations, gradually moving your hands to the shoulders, cupping the hands over the tops of the shoulders, pulling down on the muscles between the neck and shoulder joints with your four fingers and pushing up with the thumbs on the same muscles, pushing up along the back of the neck muscles.
Use circular motions with the thumbs along this area while gently pulling these muscles with the fingers. Move the hands down the shoulders, pulling on the muscles with fingers and pushing with the thumbs.
IMPORTANT: Don't push on the spine! Keep the hands on either side of the spine, working down along the muscles.
Work your way back up the back with both hands cupped to the sides of the back, thumbs along either side of the spine. Pull out from the spine with the thumbs, working back to the top of the back. Return to the shoulders, again cupping the hands over the shoulders and pulling with your four fingers and pushing with the thumbs.
Starting at the top of the back pull down along either side of the spine with the four fingers, pushing down with some force, being careful not to hurt the massee. Work back up the back and use both hands on each shoulder, switching from side to side. Repeat the above as nescessary.
When you get bored working on the back [kidding] move gently down the sides to the legs. Rub gently down to the ankles. Cup both hands over one ankle, moving your body around to one side of the feet.
Holding both hands over the ankle, knead the legs by pulling up on one side of the leg with the thumb of one hand while pulling back with the fingers of the other hand, keeping both hands next to each other. Move back and forth like this with both hands up and down the calf of the leg. Rotate the hands ninety degrees so that both thumbs are in the middle of the knee and the fingers are cuppping over to the sides of the thigh.
Pull away from the center of the leg with the thumbs, using the fingers as leverage (but not pressing too hard so as to hurt the person). Work up and down the thigh pulling out from the center with both hands.
When you reach the top of the thigh, pull down the center of the leg til you reach the bottom of the thigh and start working back up. Work back down to the ankle and swithch legs. Repeat on the other leg.
Work back up the thigh to the back, cupping the hands over both thighs with the thumbs off center to the outside of the leg, pressing with the fingers. As you move your hands up, your thumbs will rub along the buttocks and the fingers along the sides. You will be cupping each hand on the side of the lower back of the massee. Work up the back repeating what you worked on before.
Move down the arms, gently rubbing lengthwise. Work back to the back and rub the neck. Rub the fingers up into the scalp, moving back and forth with all your fingers as if scratching, but without the nails of your hands. Show the person the other towel and move your body around, placing yourself above their head. Have them turn over, keeping your hands on their head. Move down their arms, rub the fronts of the legs in a similar way as to the backs of the legs, and rub the feet, if you have the knowledge.
Unfortunately, it takes a lot of explanation to properly describe a foot massage, but as long as you're careful, you can't hurt the person, so experiment.
In order to maintain contact, you'll have to apply the oil or lotion with one hand, but have to warm it before you apply it. To do this, use one hand to pick up the bottle and squeeze some oil or lotion into the nape of the opposite hand, then rub the hand that held the bottle ove the nape to warm the oil, gently working the oil onto the skin.
Just remember that you're free to experiment with these different techniques and don't have to follow this description exactly.
Sex Quiz
How Well Do You Know the Nine Hidden Erotic Areas On A Woman?
So everyone and their younger brother believes that they are the next Valentino and loudly profess to be a pretty good lover.. Well, now is the chance to put your money where your mouth is!
Fill out on a separate piece of paper what nine spots are commonly called women’s hidden erotic areas, and we are NOT talking about the three obvious spots you learned about at summer camp or in the backseat of your first car when you were 17.
When you think you have written as much as YOU think is the Nine Areas, come back to this section for the answers. What you find out may pleasantly surprise you, and your mate!
Answers to the Sex Quiz.
Okay, put those pencils and pens down! And for your reading pleasure we have the official list compiled with the help of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counsellors and Therapists and Judith Seifer, Ph.D., R.N. President of the American Association of Sex Education. Read, enjoy, learn something new, and most importantly put those new found areas to the test!
1) Small of the Neck
Most women find light tongue flicks on this area highly sensual, however, don’t get carried away and give hickeys! Remember, we’re adults, not highschoolers!
2) Scalp
Ever wonder why SO many women seem to wash their hair? And why does your girlfriends visit to the Hairdresser seem to send her into tizzies when she describes the simple experience of getting her hair washed and how good the jets feel on her scalp? Now you have the answer! Massaging the scalp or scratching it even ever so lightly according to scientist alleviates stress and also happens to have a built in bonus: Endorphins are released (pleasure hormones). So the next time your girlfriend tells you she is too stressed out to relax, play hairdresser. You’ll be glad you did.
3) Outside of the Ear Lobe
Okay, we can hear you moaning all ready. But we all ready knew that one. No, we do not mean the WHOLE ear or whole earlobe. With the various protective substances and complexities of the inner ear area, most see to forget hundreds of sensitive nerve endings and blood vessels reside in the outside of the ear lobe. Bonus tip: Instead of blowing or doing the old tongue in the ear trick, Use your fingertip and lightly stoke it. It may work wonders!
4) Inside of the Arm
This is an area, according to many sex therapist and counsellors that seems to be over looked entirely in foreplay as well as in cuddling with loved ones. The trick here is to LIGHTLY run either your nails or the pads of your fingertips across the area of skin halfway between her elbow and wrist. According to those who have enjoyed this experience, it feels highly similar to someone tickling your palms lightly as well as producing warm sensations in other parts of the body.
5) Sacrum
No, this isn’t a Latin test. And don’t make a mad dash for Gray’s Anatomy. The Sacrum, known to some as the “Bermuda Triangle of Lust” is the area found roughly above the crease of the buttocks near the base of the spine. Do not apply hard pressure. It will feel as if you are trying to give a spinal without anaesthesia. Massage it lightly with a thumb and ask her how much pressure to add.
6) Inner Thigh
Now don’t go totally wild in this area. Too much of a good thing can ruin the impact. Lightly track a small to medium sized triangle from around 2-3 inches below the crotch to the inside of the knee and back up again. Hopefully, by the time you are ready to move you hands a bit higher, she will be ready as well.
7) Behind the Knee
One of the top totally neglected erotic areas on women. It has some of the softest, thinnest, and sensitive skin on the exposed body.
8) Achilles Tendon
This is a HIGHLY sensitive spot. Do NOT immediately go here soon after foreplay. Save this spot for much further along. Softly stroke just below the ankle bone (your choice inside or out) and then work slowly up toward the back of her knee.
9)Breasts
Totally obvious choice, and hence the reason it was left for last. Everyone and their grandmother knows that the breasts are highly erotic, however, when starting to move into this area, ignore the nipples. Some other techniques you can use is to use all five fingers to stroke each breast in different directions, and instead of working your way from ground zero, being starting at the breastbone or just about underneath the arm and slowly, slowly work your way toward the nipples. But, just stop short of it.