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The rights you have are the rights given you by this committee. (House Unamerican Activities Committee) WE will determine what rights you have and what rights you have not got. -J. Parnell Thomas
YOUR PSYCHOLOGICAL
BILL OF RIGHTS
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A human's needs for a good life are his/her human rights. - - Mortimer Adler
You have the right to expect something done for you as you would have done for someone else. (tho it might not get done!)
(Hart's Golden Rule Corrolary.)
Your freedom depends on all other people, of all kinds and ages, having these same rights.
Other people (especially parents) have desires, comforts, that they would like you to fulfill. You may do that, but you are not required to!
. . You may have accumulated "shoulds" that sound like requirements --if you are even aware of them.
And yet, just because you're not required to do all these things, you still may want to--it may still be best to --but first, just replace that tired old (supposed) motive. Replace "I should..." with "I want...". It will feel vastly better. If you find that you want not to, then you learned that! (See the "Should" essay.)
Go for simplicity. A great psychological maxim from vaudeville: "If it hurts when you do dat... don' do dat!"
("hurts", here, means more emotional than physical pain.)
I want to help you digest this. This list is certainly not me giving you permission. Rather, it is permission that you've always had, and society may have given you the impression that the subject was banned, or their permission was needed. Not so!
Picture this: nine dots on paper, arranged in a 3--by-3 square. The puzzle: run a pencil in four straight lines, without lifting the pencil, that hits all nine dots.
This is the source of the phrase "thinking outside the box". Most people assume a certain extra rule --one that was not given-- and thus limit themselves so much that the puzzle is impossible to solve. One of the greatest goals in life is to discover what rules you had merely assumed --rules that have no reason to exist. Now you can erase many inscriptions on your identity-map that said "Here be dragons!"
Responsibility is not obligation. (Perls)