An Intersexed Mother
Pregnancy Being Intersexed
I received this from a woman who went from being intersexed to FTM.
I don't consider family to be just a pale copy of a nuclear family-me, my mate,
and my kid. To me, family is a tribe, clan, a web of loving
relationships. I've always considered my friends and lovers family, and my
child has been raised by all of them to some extent.
That said,
raising a child has been a wonderful and terrible expertise. It taught me
huge amounts of patience and gave me incredible joy and made me realize how
powerless I am in may ways to mold the fate of this small person I love so
much. She anchors me to this world-even in the darkest periods of my life,
I realized I had to keep it together for her, and I managed, where Ii might have
given up otherwise. My life is much richer for her presence.
I had
Jessica in 1985. I'm an intersexual with congenital adrenal hyperplasia;
it was very difficult for me to have a child and she was born prematurely.
After that, malformed female reproductive organs had to go and I am now
sterile. At the time, I was living as a woman married heterosexually to a
man. We divorced when she was 5, and I became lovers with the MTF who is
now my wife. I transitioned to male 5 years ago, when she was 10.
She is now 15.
I'll let her
tell you in her own words. Here's the URL to her website;
http://ivanandsilver.homestead.com/transgendered_one.html
They are not
my family. They are people that I happen to be related to. They
don't give me any shit about it, because they know that if they do, they will
never see their oldest grandchild again. So they are polite to me.
That's all I ask. My family are the people I choose to be around, who
accept me as who I am. Period.