Artificial Insemination Through Known Donor
The people who have participated in
this interview will remain anonymous.
Q. What were the problems of getting someone to be the biological
father?
A. The biological mother said that there was no real problem.
The donor, who is the dad, was good friends with the partner of the biological
mother, since medical school. As soon as the couple asked, he said
yes. The father had been asked by another couple but they did not want him
to have any involvement so he turned them down. There were also times in
the process when he wasn't willing because of current boyfriend but when the
boyfriend was out of the picture, the dad was back willing to be part of the
process.
Q. How does the child like the living arrangement?
A. The child whom happens to be a girl loves having two moms.
She also doesn't know any other living arrangement. Her dad has a new
partner and she has spent enough time with the two of them she feels she
is totally lucky in that she has two moms and two dads.
Q. What are the joys of this arrangement?
A. The mother says living in a testosterone free-zone. Never
falling into the toilet because someone forgot to put the seat down. The
joys are all the joys of raising a child, and there are lots. The mother
says that since she is the primary caretaker for her daughter she really falls
into the stereotypical mother and brings her daughter in and close. She
tends to try to keep her daughter safer and risk less. Her partner, the
secondary caretaker because she works outside the home, tends to show the world
to her daughter, and lets her risk more and explore more. The mother tends
to play more with the dolls and teach more domestic skill while her partner does
more sports and rough play. Her daughter loves it all. The dads, who
she her occasionally are still getting to know her, but they tend to be more
cautious. The mother can send her daughter out for the day with the two
dads in her best dress and knows that she will come home clean.