November 1999

*Nov 20, 1999*

Welcome to the newest feature of the Haven, inspired by the successful online journal of a friend. Although I don't have near the following she does I thought.."what the hell?"...

This will likely be a place for me to vent more than anything. I'll also be posting any changes I make to the Haven (and why) in here as well.

I am considering using ICQ in the future to advise those interested in updates to the site. Most days I am far too busy for idle chatting but it would be the easiest way to get the word out. Anyone who would be interested in this feature is asked to either email me, post a message in the forum or in the guestbook to let me know.

However anyone whois interested in chatting with me can do so in two ways:

#1 goto www.mirabilis.com and enter their chat server, IrCQ-Net ... or...

#2 add IrCQ-Net to your IRC chat program (ircqnet.icq.com port 6667)

Either way you will find me in the following rooms

#Web, #roses, #icqfriends

Well, I think that's enough for a first entry don't you?

*Nov 21, 1999*

Today for the very first time my Family tried out ROLLER BLADING. The only non novice of the day was my son.

Years ago I did alot of ROLLER SKATING and only recently purchased a pair of skates from a local consignment store. I quickly discovered that my skills and my sense of balance had completely deserted me! I nearly blew out my knee attempting to go up the street.

At my son's behest (and for a friend that had accompanied us for the day) I gave in and rented a pair of blades for the day with visions of hospital trips in my head. Alas, was not meant to be. I found the blades much easier and by the end of the day was rather comfortable and having a great time on them. We spent the majority of the day "buzzing" the kids and of course being snarled at for it! A most satisfying experience to be sure. My son is still trying to figure out why Mommy was so good her first try... >snicker<

For those who don't already know, both of my children have a disorder known as ADHD and surprised me greatly by having a wonderful day filled with courage and determination. It is so rare I get to see such calmness in them that I couldn't help but feel pleased and very relieved. My boyfriend's son is now about to be tested for ADHD or perhaps a similar disorder so we were very grateful for a day of family fun and stress relief.

*Nov 23, 1999*

Today has been rough. I've been down sick for the past few days. I spent most of the day in bed. My throat was so sore I could barely speak. By midday I had no troubles but the sun has set and once again my throat is aching.

*Nov24, 1999*

Have updated the DUNGEON and added a very special link belonging to a new found friend...the one with the successful journal... :) Enjoy.

*Nov 27, 1999*

~WARNING...RANT IN PROGRESS~

Can someone please tell me why it is that SOME people need to control their partners? I see it everyday!! I left my own husband nearly four years ago for it and now I am plagued by watching friends go through it. (Now I have a greater respect for those who waited nine years for me to smarten up!)

What kind of a world is this where some people must control others before they establish a sense of self worth? Maybe I'm just an idealist or maybe it's that "LIBRA" nature of mine but I really fail to see why people like this can't be helped more often! If they can put a man on the moon why can't they abolish this need to negatively dominate others?!

*Nov 28,1999*

Now that I have upgraded the Haven, I feel at a loss as to what to do. I have considered an FAQ section to answer some common questions but am wondering if it's worth it in the long run. If my little Cyber Home ever "catches" on it would be. Descisions, descisions....

This site has been up for over a year now and in that time it has had four major revisions and won four awards. I am pleased with it's current "feel" for the most part....still I quest to make it better.

The suggestion I get most often is to add pictures of myself somewhere. This is next to impossible as I don't on a scanner...yet...nor do I have access to a digital Camera. I have no intentions of EVER putting up a WEBCAM for the following reasons:

#1 They are alot fo work. That kind of time I ain't got, maintaining the site as it is now is a full time job.

#2 I am NOT one of those "thin & sexy" types. I am a full figured woman who's more than a little self conscious about it. I originally rejected the idea of PICTURES because of it.

#3 Expenses. My budget is at the moment extremely limited.

*Nov 29, 1999*

A rather late night and a lack of "sustenance" has left me struggling for coherent thought. So...

~RANDOM THOUGHTS~

I have to wonder why it is so many people think that making promises and not keeping them is better than saying "I can't do it".

Is the grass really that much greener on the other side? Is it an optical illusion designed to sucker you into giving up what you have or just an eternal longing for more?

I'm not prejudiced, I hate all assholes equally.

You will never have what you need but you will need what you have.

Why is it no one EVER changes the empty toilet roll on the holder for a full one ?

*Nov 30, 1999*

A strangely rewarding day. Back to work..sort of...and it feels good. There's nothing like a job to increase your sense of self-esteem. For once in a long time the outlook has a light at the end. The day went fairly well and I came home with a sense of "contribution" for a change. It will take awhile for things at home to level out and adjust themselves but hey...it just might be worth it....