After reading about 1st Lt. Ryan Berry’s case of morally objecting to sharing a two-person shift with a woman, the compulsion to write of human sexuality and laws could no longer
be ignored.
Let’s get real for a change. Both men and women are driven to reproduce as are all animals. If we could do it asexually, we would not have need for laws such as sexual harassment and the like. But, we don’t reproduce asexually - (and thank the Heavens) - we reproduce sexually.
It is really no big thing. Men’s bodies are designed to penetrate women’s bodies and deposit sperm in the safest, most assured method of producing offspring. To assure this
happening, hormones are directed to essentially forcing both men and women to find suitable mates. Or, in some cases, to engage in sex even if the partner isn’t necessary suitable as a life-mate.
The big thing is trying to control the hormones so that one behaves in a civilized manner. Women are, and always will be, sexual objects to men. Even if they verbalize otherwise,
forget it. Sex is the underlying basis for nearly every man liking a woman.
And, if the truth be known, women also only like to be around men who sexually stimulate them. That is the way it is in the world of sexual normalcy.
Both sexes search for partners. Dress, actions, and thoughts (especially those in the subconscious realm guiding a lot of those behaviors you aren't even aware of), direct both sexes to attracting sexual partners. We are sexual beings and we are not going to change. The continuation of Mankind as a species depends on it.
Oh, I know there are biological sexual deviants, otherwise called gays, but sooner or later they will depend on the opposite sex if they wish to procreate their own line, whether it be by depositing sperm mechanically or receiving sperm mechanically. But, for purposes of this essay, the intent is to show the absolute futility of laws in which people must deny their sexuality and ignore their hormones.
Now, Lt. Berry has enough common sense to know that men and women in confined quarters are under the risk of becoming sexually attracted to one another. My gosh, look at
all the office and work romances and they are not under close working conditions in which there is little privacy.
Besides that, there is also the potential for abusing laws concerning sexual harassment. The woman could, if provoked, accuse when there isn’t any basis for any allegation
whatsoever. It has happened before and it is sure to happen again. And again. And again.
So, on moral grounds, Lt. Berry requested to not share his shift with a woman. I don’t blame him. Not only is there the potential for the above but there is also the risk that
his wife might suspect it without cause other than her own perception of what might happen when any man works closely with any woman.
No matter the uniform worn, or whether or not there is a uniform, the sexes are different and must not be treated the same. Actually, that hardly ever happens, anyway. Women are treated differently by men than other men and men are treated differently by women that other women. Laws aren’t going
to change this nor will forcing close working conditions.
But, that doesn’t help Lt. Berry. His career has essentially been ruined because of his refusal to serve in compromising conditions. His evaluation has assured he will not be
promoted to Captain. So, a man of integrity and honor is lost.
I know some person is going to say, "if he is that moral, ifs he loves his wife, then it should not be a problem to work with a woman in a situation of little privacy." To that, I must say ‘hogwash’.
If a man is normal and if the woman he would work with is normal,
with hormonal systems dumping their products into their respective blood streams, then the compulsion to mate might become too great even for the most moral of sexually normal,
sexually active people.
Women libbers won’t like this but I can hardly help our biological design and neither can they. I scoff anytime I hear women say they don’t wish to be treated as sexual objects and
then turn around and do all possible to be as sexually alluring as possible.
I also scoff at married men and women who deny hidden desires for women or men other than their wives or husbands.
Biologically speaking, it is such a joke for the military to put a few women on a ship that sets to sea for several weeks or months and expect all to treat each other as sailors, not opposite-sexed people.
Just because the people are in the military doesn’t mean their sexual hormones become inactive. During my military career I would have went stark raving mad if I had had to work with military women while no other women were available for sexual release.
Lt. Perry should be commended. He recognized the failings we human beings have and he wished to exercise his morality the only way he could, by refusing to serve shifts with a
woman in close, working conditions. His integrity remained intact, as did his marriage (At least, at the time of this writing).
Isn’t that more important than some silly-ass rule that requires opposite-sexed people to work together in confined space AND expect them to remain Sexually Neutral no matter what. It just ain’t gonna happen the majority of time and we might as well accept it.
Sex is, as the saying goes, the Nature of the Beast (male and female).