If I believe other than you, at least pause before you correct my view.
If my emotion is less than yours, or more, given the same circumstances, don't ask me to feel more strongly or weakly.
If I act, or fail to act, in the manner of your design for action, let me be.
I do not, for the moment at least, ask you to understand me. That will come only when you are willing to give up changing me into a copy of you.
I may be your spouse, your parent, your offspring, your friend or your colleague. If you will allow me my own wants, emotions, beliefs, and actions, then you open yourself so that some day these ways of mine might not seem so wrong, and might finally appear to you as right for me.
To put up with me is the first step to understanding me. Not that you embrace my ways as right for you, but that you are no longer irritated or disappointed with me for my seeming waywardness. And in understanding me you might come to prize my differences from you, and far from seeking to change me, preserve and even nurture those differences.
from: Please understand me, Keirsey and Bates.
For Herman I will always love you.
