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Actually it was the night of December 6th. Technically, my mom was pronounced dead after midnight so it was the 7th. But that day before everything happened was also one of the best days of my life because I remember the whole day so well . And I had spent the whole day with my mom, the last day she was alive. If only I had known.
I guess I'll start with a little bit of history. For months and maybe even longer, my mom had been having dizzy spells, seeing spots, or having a bit of blurry vision. I wonder if there may been more and she just didn't tell us. She didn't want to worry us. That's the way she was.
Well, it seemed like she was always at the doctor, they did so many tests, and could never seem to find anything wrong with her. A few months before she died, they did find she had very high cholesterol(over 500) and she had changed her eating habits and brought her cholesterol way down to I think around 200 and something. She had also lost some weight in the process, even though she wasn't really that overweight in the first place! She seemed to be doing well, but she continued to get dizzy spells. It certainly didn't seem to be anything serious, at least not life-threatening.
She'd had so many tests, a brain scan just to name one. And she was scheduled to go to the University of Michigan Hospital to have a full body scan. She never made it to that appointment, she died the night before.
So... Sunday, December 6th, I remember waking up when my boyfriend at the time(now my hubby) came over. It was pretty late, I had slept in! It was almost afternoon, mom was wrapping Christmas presents. She decided she was going to go out to do some Xmas shopping and she asked Chuck and I if we wanted to go. Of course we wanted to! We did this a lot. Shopping was one of mom's favorite things to do!
She was also babysitting for my brothers kids so they came along too. At the time, they were about 3 and 4 yrs old.
Well, I won't include every single detail, although I do remember I think every moment of that day! Even after 5 yrs! Basically, we spent the whole day shopping, we had a trunk full of stuff, and headed home to eat dinner! We had picked up some subs, and had subs and homemade chili for dinner! :)
Something that really stands out in my mind was something on the drive home. I was sitting in the front with mom, she was driving. Chuck was sitting in the back with the kids, feeding them some candy Grammy had bought for them :) There was a comment made about the kids being spoiled. Chuck said" well if we ever have kids, they won't be spoiled"
And my mom said "they will be if I'm still around" At the time I didn't read anything into that comment. But after the fact, so much can be read into it. Like maybe she knew something was wrong, that she was dying and just hadn't told us. Or maybe she just had a feeling and was really scared she wouldn't be around or was really afraid of dying. Of cpourse I'll never really know exactly what she was thinking when she said that. But I just wish to God more than anything that she WAS still here to spoil my kids!!!!
Ok, here's the part I've been dreading, not that it bothers me to talk about it, actually just the opposite. It's always helped me to talk about my mom! It's just that it's been quite a while since I've told the whole story of the night I will never forget. The night that changed my life forever.
I was getting ready to go to bed that night. Mom and dad were already in bed. Their room was downstairs, mine upstairs. I was in the kitchen getting ready to go up. Mom started to come out into the kitchen but saw me and said "can you unplug the xmas lights for me?" (mom was really into holidays and had already decorated the house at the beginning of december!) Well, she asked me about the lights and I said "OK" she said "goodnight" and as I was on my way up the stairs I called out "goodnight" to her. I'm not even sure if she heard me, oh how I wish I had hugged her and told her I loved her that night. That was the very last conversation I had with her.
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