I was 15 when I decided to come out. I had always known something was
different in my life. I had girlfriends but never wanted to do anything sexual
-- not even kiss them. Online, I had looked at gay stuff just wondering about it
since I never knew anyone gay.
Then I thought "You know, I may be gay." So I ended up telling my
friend and we talked about it some and she was perfectly fine with it. Actually,
I came to find out all of the guys that hung out in our little group of friends
ended up being gay or bisexual.
About a week after I told my friends I planned on telling my mom. Of course,
I thought of the worst possible thing would happen. So we were coming back from
my foot operation and I told her, "Mom, you know how all of our life you
have told us no matter what you will still love us?" and she said
"Yes."
So I told her "Well, I think I'm bisexual," thinking she would take
that a lot better than me being gay. And she pulled the car over and asked me
why I thought that I was bisexual. And I just told her that I liked guys better
than girls. So she went into telling me "Well, you know, the gay guys are
not going to like you because you like girls. And the girls are not going to
like you because you like guys." I was like, "I know, but this is how
I am," and I told her I didn't want to tell dad because he may not be
accepting.
She told me she wanted me to so that they could talk openly about it. So
after we got home, I think she told him -- but she never told me if she had. She
made me go to the store with him. And i just told him, "I think I'm
bi." And his exact words were "So? I still love you." I was
shocked. Here I had been worried sick about my parents beating me up and kicking
me out of the house. But they didn't.
Then I had a date with my first boyfriend. We were both 15, so of course I my
dad drove us. It was so cool. But it just wasn't right. I felt good about it and
knew it was what I wanted., but we ended up breaking up about one month after
getting together because we never got to see each other.
Then I hooked up with my next boyfriend and we went to the movies. Well, it
was the same movie my parents were at so they met him the same night I did. That
lasted 6 months. He would come see me everyday and hang out with me and my
family. He ended up spending Christmas with my family. and I spent New Year's
Eve with him and his friends. Everyone was really accepting of us. It was
shocking.
I never thought it would have been that easy. But then again, it is not
always easy. I am just a lucky person. I am out at work, and I do find the
occasional person that has a problem with it. But I just stay away from them.
It's really cool because as long as you don't hit on them they won't bother you.
That is what I have found in life.