Questionnaire: Did You Grow Up With A Problem Drinker?
Al-Anon is for families, relatives and friends whose lives have been affected by someone else's drinking. Many adults question whether they have been affected by alcoholism. If someone close to you has, or has had a drinking problem, the following questions may help you in determining whether alcoholism affected your childhood or present life and if Al-anon is for you.
1. Do you constantly seek approval and affirmation? ____
2. Do you fail to recognize your accomplishments? ____
3. Do you fear criticism? ____
4. Do you overextend yourself? ____
5. Have you had problems with your own
compulsive behavior? ____
6. Do you have a need for perfection? ____
7. Are you uneasy when your life is going
smoothly, continually anticipating problems? ____
8. Do you feel more alive in the midst of a crisis? ____
9. Do you still feel responsible for others, as
you did for the problem drinker in your life? ____
10. Do you care for others easily, yet find it
difficult to care for yourself? ____
11. Do you isolate yourself from other people? ____
12. Do you respond with fear to authority figures
and angry people? ____
13. Do you feel that individuals and society in
general are taking advantage of you? ____
14. Do you have trouble with intimate relationships? ____
15. Do you confuse pity with love, as you did
with the problem drinker? ____
16. Do you attract and/or seek people who tend to
be compulsive and/or abusive? ____
17. Do you cling to relationships because you are
afraid of being alone? ____
18. Do you often mistrust your own feelings and
the feelings expressed by others? ____
19. Do you find it difficult to identify and express
your emotions? ____
20. Do you think parental drinking may have
affected you? ____
Alcoholism is a family disease. Those of us who have lived with this disease as children sometimes have problems which the Al-Anon program can help us to resolve. If you answered yes to some or all of the above questions, Al-Anon may help.
