The Love Test - Tickle Personality Tests

Ileana, when you're in love, you're an Independent Spirit. Approximately 11% of people share this type with you. What does this title say about you? Read on to find out.

If you had a theme song it would probably be "Don't Box Me In." independent spirits like you typically aren't fond of being crowded. On the contrary, you appreciate having the space to do your own thing and aren't one who often feels swayed by what others are up to. You're not the type who typically feels the need to hang out at the "cool" clubs or sample the latest restaurants. In fact, you may not even know the latest buzz about those things, since they really aren't important to you.

You probably prefer to come up with your own ideas of places to go and people to spend time with. Others are naturally drawn to your sense of creativity and mystery that surrounds your life. Sometimes you will treasure their company, but only if you avoid super-dependent types who want to be with you all the time. Finding a like-minded spirit like you, someone who prizes their independence as much as you do, will probably bring you and your mate the most happiness.

Now that you have general sketch of your love personality, you should understand the 7 core personality dimensions that determined it.

Your love personality type is a composite of seven personality dimensions. Together they make up your love personality type, and individually they offer insight about particular aspects of how you look at the world and those around you.

Be aware that some people with the same personality type will have different dimension scores. Only by looking at both someone's type and dimensions can you get the full picture of who they are.

Here are your scores relative to others who took the test:



	Modern						Traditional
	Down-to- earth						Dreamy
	Easygoing						Particular
	Pampered						Rugged
	Emotional						Rational
	Independent						Connected
	Humble						Self- possessed

Dimension #1: Modern versus Traditional
People who are more traditional tend to carry those feelings over into their search for love. For example, traditional types tend to believe that when a man and a woman go on a date, the man should pay. They're also likely to feel that red roses are the perfect gift for a first date and that idealistic weddings are the only way to go. For someone who is traditional, tried-and-true rituals are important to uphold.

People who are more modern are likely to hold a contrary opinion. For one, they'll often feel that people on a date should split the bill. They may also think that a Vegas wedding is just as good as a church service. It all depends on the people involved and what feels special to them. In addition, modern types tend to believe in equality in relationships and seek true respect from their significant others.

Your score on the Love Test shows that you're less traditional than many other people who took it. This means that when it comes to love, you're more likely to go with what you feel in a given situation, rather than follow an established tradition. This is especially true in the beginning of a relationship. So in the early days of love, you're as apt to hold the door for your date as they are to hold it for you. After all, you probably figure that common courtesy is a valuable trait in a man or a woman. It's not gender-specific. Conforming to idealistic roles during courtship typically isn't your forte, so if your date expects you to act by these standards, you might find yourself losing interest. However, don't be surprised if when you know this person better you find yourself drifting into a more conventional pattern on your own. Sometimes it just happens. However, in your case, assuming such a role wouldn't be so much a personal judgment as it would be a preference. As long as you're living in accordance with your values, whether behavior is traditional or not doesn't really matter.

Dimension #2: Down-to-earth versus Dreamy
Individuals high on the dreamy scale include those people who would choose the bubbles of champagne over a glass of wine simply because it seemed a more romantic gesture. Highly dreamy people tend to see the magic in life. They may also actively seek out ways to make their love relationships special so that each day becomes an occasion.

People who are more down-to earth prefer life's everyday moments to grand gestures that seem over-the-top. They are realists who aren't easily swayed by styling or symbolism. For the most part, down-to-earth people would rather avoid glossy exteriors to get closer to what's on the inside. This tendency typically holds true across the board — in their friendships, in professional life, and in love.

Compared with others, your score weighed more heavily on the down-to-earth end of the scale. This result indicates that you're the kind who realizes that although romance can be nice, it takes more than hearts and flowers to keep the world turning. Rather than focus your attention on fairytale dreams, you usually like to live in the here-and-now of reality. As a result, you often find happiness in the small pleasures present in everyday life: a good cup of coffee, a solid night's sleep, or a sunny day. These are things that others might overlook, but you can truly appreciate them. This easy sense of satisfaction with life can come across to others in a very engaging way, particularly in love. Those around you likely recognize the value you place in little things and appreciate your willingness to accept situations and people as they are. This kind, genuine nature is sure to draw others to you in life and in love.

Dimension #3: Easygoing versus Particular
Highly particular people tend to strive for perfection in whatever they do. They also tend to have refined, and at times expensive, tastes. Appearance can be important to particular types, so taking care of themselves is often a high priority.

Easygoing people, on the other hand, don't tend to place a lot of importance on appearances. "Keeping up with the Joneses," whether in beauty, fashion, or possessions, isn't typically a top priority for easygoing types. They tend to be more impressed by things that have little to do with life's trappings.

In your case, you scored on the more easy-going end of the continuum compared with others who took the test. This indicates that you generally aren't too worried about having a place for everything and everything in its place. On the contrary, most times you tend to think it's more important to just be who you are and take life as it comes. So if your slacks aren't pressed or you're having a bad hair day, it's not likely to throw you for a loop. Instead, you're one of those people who seems to know that there are more important things than your appearance. You're also not the type to be awed by power or celebrity. In fact, if you saw your favorite actor in the supermarket, you'd probably simply smile and say hello rather than clamoring for an autograph. The people in your life likely see this laid back nature and appreciate that you're willing to take them as they are. The ease you often possess can be an attractive force; it makes have a you calming presence to those you are near.

Dimension #4: Pampered versus Rugged
Those who scored as more rugged are outdoorsy types who generally enjoy being out in nature. They're also individuals who are willing to take risks and get a little dirty in order to have some fun. For highly rugged people, the world is their playground as well as their sanctuary.

Individuals who are more pampered include people who appreciate the many creature comforts associated with civilization. Pampered types typically prefer that their recreation be of the indoor variety.

Your results show that compared to other people who took the test, you fall on the more pampered side of the line. This suggests that while you probably aren't opposed to a little fresh air and sunshine, you tend to prefer the kind of relaxation that only indoor activities can offer. Whether you're shopping in a mall, sitting in a theatre, or relaxing at home with a good book, you appreciate the ease of being inside. Pampered types like you will take a massage and a good meal over a hike and campfire almost any day of the week. Facing the elements typically isn't your idea of a good time. In love, it will be important to find a partner who also likes this brand of leisure. If not on the same level as you, at least enough so you can share the kinds of experiences that you value.

Dimension #5: Emotional versus Rational
Those who scored high on the rational scale are people who can usually take a step back during a heated situation in order to think out how best to respond. When provoked, their level-headedness makes them more likely to step back from an argument rather than fan the flames. Rational types are also typically strong thinkers who enjoy working through challenging problems to find a solution.

Those who scored more highly on the emotional scale tend to respond to intense situations by expressing their feelings as they have them. In this way, emotional people can sometimes come across as being either intense or impulsive. On the positive side, people who are highly emotional tend to be more direct than their rational counterparts and can be good about confronting issues in order to clear the air.

Compared with others, your results indicate that you're more emotional than many people who took the test. This means that you have an easier time accessing your emotions than most do. Understanding what you feel is a great gift. By trusting your emotions, you can lead yourself to decisions that feel right for you. Oftentimes, this represents a special kind of intuition. The only times that using your emotions becomes a potential drawback is when a situation becomes very intense. At times like that, there's a chance of losing your perspective. The real trick is to learn how to observe your emotions and process them in a way that helps you make good choices.

Another trait most emotional types have in common is that they usually aren't afraid to let others know what's going on inside of you. Showing emotion can be a brave thing. Indeed this kind of sharing can build the intimacy and trust that great loves are founded on.

Dimension #6: Independent versus Connected
People who are highly connected tend to make their relationships with others a priority. They keep in close touch with family and friends when they can and are usually softhearted, empathic people.

Highly independent people tend to be less open with those around them than their connected counterparts. They typically enjoy having time to themselves. Independent types are apt to search for meaning in ideas, things, or particular experiences more often than in their relationships. As a result, they can be at their best whether they're in a relationship or flying solo.

Compared with the other people who took this test, your score weighed more heavily on the realistic end of the scale. This means that although you surely appreciate the presence of others in your life, you're often your own best companion. In fact, there are certain things that you probably prefer to do alone, even if you don't have to. Whether you enjoy taking yourself to a movie now and then or simply for a quiet drive, you seem to be one of those people who understand that quality time doesn't always have to mean social time. So while you likely appreciate the chance to socialize with friends and family, you're apt to covet your down time as well.

When it comes to relationships, you're not usually one to dive right in with your heart on your sleeve. Instead, you're more likely to hold back a bit and open up to the new romance more slowly. This kind of distance may simply feel safer. However, once you let yourself fall deeply in love, you can develop as close and real a bond as anyone out there.

Dimension #7: Humble versus Self-possessed
People who score highly on being self-possessed are generally confident types who believe strongly in their abilities. This feeling may translate into a sense of pride in their level of physical fitness, a sense of assurance about their intellectual abilities, or a high regard for their sexual prowess. Highly self-possessed people often have a charisma and energy that makes them the center of attention.

Individuals who score more highly on the humble end of the scale are typically grounded people who would usually prefer to go unnoticed rather than make a big fuss. So instead of trumpeting their achievements to others, humble types will often opt to celebrate their successes in private. People who are highly humble also tend to be humanists who see others as equals, rather than feeling superior to anyone.

Compared with others, you scored on the more grounded end of the continuum. This means that you're not likely to go around boasting to others about your abilities or worth. Your humility is the stronger virtue. You can possess a kind of quiet strength that doesn't need to be voiced. It simply is. You're one of those people that others probably describe as "the salt of the Earth," because you're likely to appreciate and recognize others rather than put yourself first. This humble quality that you embody can actually help you when you need to make tough decisions. Unencumbered by arrogance, you're likely to see a situation for what it is and make choices accordingly, rather than being impulsive or unduly confident.

In love, being humble can sometimes make you seem more genuine to others, because it's obvious that you're not all about self-aggrandizement and flash. You're just yourself. While this quiet nature of yours is an admirable thing, remember that it's okay to toot your own horn once and a while. Feeling good about yourself isn't the same thing as feeling superior to others. For people like you, the trick is to be humble while still truly loving yourself for who you are.

When it's all said and done, much of compatibility comes down to that X factor known as chemistry. However, by knowing the love personality types that are the closest fit with your own, you're much more likely to know a good thing when you see it. Also, understanding your compatible types can give you new insight to why certain people you meet just don't seem to match up. Realize that most relationship problems can be fixed — so you're far from doomed if your types aren't a perfect match. Instead, think of the information as a mechanism to learn more about yourself and your romantic life.

Although the old adage tells us that "opposites attract," generally, research indicates otherwise. In fact, studies show that opposites don't attract; similar people do. So the type that you're apt to be most compatible with is actually your own: the Independent Spirit. There are, of course, exceptions to this rule. However the dimensions measured in this test focus on attitudes and behaviors that, when matched between two people, increase probability of having a compatible relationship.

When looking for a match, the type that is the next most compatible to your own is Idealistic Romantic.

"Happily ever after," may be the three words that idealistic romantics enjoy dreaming about, — next to "I love you," of course. They likely have their share of idealistic dreams for the future, especially when it comes to imaging their perfect partner. They are socially skilled and know how to make the people close to them feel special. As a result, they're apt to have their eyes out for someone who can do the same.

The rituals of romance are important to them, so someone who doesn't appreciate the value of things like red roses and candlelight dinners probably won't hold their interest for very long. However, they're not just looking for a thoughtful date. They seek a deeper emotional bond. Once they find that special love, they'll probably be the first to declare that they're head-over-heels rather than hold back their emotions. After all, what good is being in love if you can't share it?

You should also look for an Essential Companion when scouting out romance; that's the second most compatible type to your own.

If you're looking for a genuine, down-to-earth partner who knows how to treat others with kindness, you'd best look in the direction of an essential companion. They not only respect and value the people in their lives but also make their relationships a top priority. However, they're usually not the type to try to impress others with fancy romantic gestures. Nor are they apt to spend time worrying about their appearance in a superficial manner. If that special someone is willing to take them as they are, they will happily do the same in return. Otherwise, they'll probably keep on walking.

They're probably interested in finding a partner who will be equally committed to things like quality time and genuine communication. That way, they can focus on one another without all the bells and whistles that some people consider an essential part of a good relationship. When they find an individual who feels the way they do about these things, the relationship will be a truly special one.

So now that you know the love personality types you're most compatible with, what about the ones that you're least similar to? Here's some information about the type that is your opposite.

Who isn't a good match for you?
The type opposite to yours is Natural Lover. Few people are as at home in the natural world as natural lovers — and that trademark comfort with their surroundings is sure to attract people to them. Their willingness to explore and take risks makes natural lovers a real catch for people who want to get out and experience all life has to offer. Whether they're camping, mountain biking, or simply taking a walk on the beach, their ease in the outdoors is something to be admired.

With such a strong connection to nature, it's only fitting that they'll want to seek out a mate who can appreciate the world around them as well. That doesn't suggest they need to pair up with an expert hiker or extreme sports type to find love. It just means that a partner who can sit and watch a sunset will probably come to mean more than one who'd rather watch TV. In relationships, they appear to be one of those balanced people who are able to think both with the heart and head. This trait will surely benefit them in any romance they embark on.

Now you have your guide to helping you spot a good mate. But once you find a relationship, you want to be able to hang onto it. That's where understanding your personality really comes into play. Read on for advice to keep your love going strong.

Love can turn your world a little upside down, so it's not so surprising that being in a relationship may sometimes result in changes to your personality. Even psychologists agree that love can alter people's behavior and influence which personality attribute you display.

Part of the reason love can bring about this kind of transformation is that in a romantic relationship, people tend to let down their guard. It's the disarming aspect of close relationships that gets us to be our real selves — a complex mixture of the best and the worst that we each can be.

As a result, in love, certain aspects of personality usually hidden from view can come forth in ways that aren't always very positive. During stressful periods in a relationship, or even in good times, you may find yourself reverting to old negative patterns of behavior or expressing your least favorable traits. Dynamics from your childhood or experiences with past lovers can all come to the surface, so that suddenly you're dealing with a lot more than just what's in front of you.

The best way to combat this tendency is to take a step back whenever you feel yourself beginning to act out old emotions or behaving in a way that could be harmful to your relationship. By grounding yourself and making sure you are truly present, you can gain perspective on your situation. Ask yourself what you're thinking and feeling to see if it's an accurate reflection of what's happening in that moment. If you find yourself overreacting or reacting based on the past, you can make changes to behave in the way that feels best to you and most truly represents your best self.

Realize that attraction, an integral element of romantic love, can make your body react in physical ways to your thoughts and surroundings. In this way, attraction can have the effect of a stimulant or generate the same physical sensations that in other environments would be considered excitement, fear, or stress. When in a heightened state like that, it's much easier to act in ways that you later can reflect on and wonder, "What was I thinking?" So take heed of attraction's power.

In addition to these factors, given your love personality type, there are certain issues that are more likely to come up for you when you're in a romantic relationship.

For independent spirits, it's your well-developed sense of autonomy. You typically like to be the captain of your own ship, and there are times when you don't even want others along for the ride. Unfortunately, because your solo-nature can create a sense of mystery, you may sometimes attract those people you least want to be with: romantic types who want a close, fully-committed relationship.

Interestingly enough, if you find yourself in this relationship dynamic, it may actually be because on some level you wish to be closer to people than you are. However, in the long run these kinds of unbalanced relationships are more likely to annoy you and make you feel trapped. Perhaps the best way to resolve this kind of an issue is to steer clear all together. If you have the sense early on that someone is looking for more than you have to give, it's likely better for both of you that you go your own way rather than breaking someone's heart later on. Getting out early may be the best way for you to preserve some positive feelings for one another.

Getting perspective
No matter what difficulties you encounter, you can benefit from clearing your mind so that your true inner voice is revealed. There are several ways of gaining this focus, including physical exercise, meditation, breathing exercises, yoga, and others. The exercise below involves a more active form of mediation that will quickly clear out the noise in your head to leave you with a knowingness that can guide you to right action in your relationships and throughout your life.

Step 1:
Get yourself in a comfortable sitting position.

Step 2:
Picture a chord that goes around your waist and into the center of the earth. This is your grounding chord. Feel the weight of it pull you down into the earth, so that you are connected to it.

Step 3:
Picture green light coming from the earth — the earth's energy, moving slowly from your feet, to your knees, and finally arriving at your stomach. Imagine that it starts a swirling motion in your center.

Step 4:
Now picture white light coming from above, shining down on you and moving through the crown of your head, to your shoulders, flowing down your arms and also down your spine and to your stomach, where it mixes with the green light you brought up from the earth.

Step 5:
Imagine a flow of light moving down the grounding chord and into the earth, and let it carry away all the things you are worried about, all the conflicts you have. Picture them in full life form and then watch as they wash away in the flood of light that leaves your body.

Step 6:
Once you have done this for some time, picture the rest of the light from your stomach moving up to leave through the crown of your head, finishing the clearing of your energy. That means you can stop drawing in light or energy from the earth and from above you.

Step 7:
Sit in quiet relaxation for a few minutes, noting what it is like to be in a body that is clear and a mind that is without worries and anxiety. If worries come back at you, just note that they are there, and watch as they flow right past you without bothering you a bit.

Step 8:
Now you are ready to look at whatever issue you are dealing with, or to attend to any questions you might have. For example, if you are not sure about the person you are with, ask yourself: Are they right for you? Is this relationship having a positive effect on your life? Is this person being fair? Are you? This is the time to ask yourself all the questions that have been creating tension for you. Sit patiently and wait as your higher self tells you the answers.

Here is a list of select Love Test questions and how people answered them so you can see how you compare with other test takers.

Your answer

You are as romantic as:
	37%	•	Champagne and strawberries
	54%	•	Flowers and wine
	8%	•	Pizza and beer
	1%	•	Ginger ale and Pepto Bismol

Do you keep in close touch with your family and friends?
	35%	•	Definitely, it's a priority
	52%	•	Usually
	9%	•	I contact them on holidays
	4%	•	Not really

How do you feel when you think about money?
	6%	•	I get completely stressed out
	19%	•	I feel a bit edgy
	51%	•	I can deal
	24%	•	Money doesn't worry me at all

Watching a sex scene in a movie makes you feel:
	4%	•	Uncomfortable
	12%	•	Slightly embarrassed
	66%	•	Somewhat excited
	18%	•	All hot and bothered

If love were a flower, it would be a(n):
	47%	•	Red rose
	5%	•	Venus Flytrap
	13%	•	Orchid
	8%	•	Daisy
	7%	•	Tulip
	2%	•	Gardenia
	9%	•	Tiger lily
	9%	•	Bird of Paradise

As a lover, you're:
	19%	•	Hot stuff
	47%	•	Pretty darn good
	17%	•	Average
	17%	•	Not very experienced

Have you ever snooped through your significant other's things?
	11%	•	Yes, but I'd never do it again
	23%	•	Yes, and I'd do it again
	24%	•	No, but I would
	42%	•	No, never

Do you give your friends birthday presents?
	22%	•	Of course!
	56%	•	It depends on the friend
	7%	•	Just a card
	12%	•	Nope
	3%	•	Who waits for birthdays?

On a date, who should pay for dinner?
	68%	•	The man
	1%	•	The woman
	11%	•	Split it
	20%	•	Switch off

If your significant other did something to upset you, you would:
	44%	•	Discuss it calmly
	24%	•	Confront them
	16%	•	Stew about it
	15%	•	Shrug it off
	2%	•	Move on to my next victim

Close your eyes and imagine yourself in a car. What kind is it?
	22%	•	A rough 'n' tumble SUV
	11%	•	A practical sedan
	16%	•	A luxurious traffic-stopper
	51%	•	Something fast and sporty

You're out shopping and run into a friend. Where do they find you?
	13%	•	Fishing through the bargain bin
	70%	•	Cruising the mid-priced shops
	17%	•	In an overpriced boutique

Championship match: Work vs. Play. Who wins?
	2%	•	Work, by a landslide
	8%	•	Work, but it was close
	33%	•	Work and play tie
	38%	•	Play wins, but just barely
	19%	•	Play crushes the competition

If you had to take Phys Ed now, what would your grade be?
	48%	•	A
	30%	•	B
	14%	•	C
	5%	•	D
	3%	•	F

Where does your paycheck go?
	2%	•	To my broker for investment
	4%	•	Straight to my savings account
	78%	•	I spend some and save some
	16%	•	It pays off my maxed out credit cards

How settled are you?
	46%	•	I live with my parents
	37%	•	I'm renting
	16%	•	I'm a homeowner
	1%	•	I sleep in a van

What's the first thing you pick up at the newsstand?
	30%	•	New York Times
	36%	•	USA Today
	5%	•	National Enquirer
	29%	•	I don't really follow the news

Are you in touch with nature?
	24%	•	I am one with nature
	57%	•	It depends on my mood
	12%	•	It depends on what I've inhaled
	7%	•	We're not very compatible

How softhearted are you?
	35%	•	Very
	52%	•	Pretty soft
	10%	•	Pretty hard
	3%	•	Think concrete

Rate your energy level:
	33%	•	Excellent
	51%	•	Good
	14%	•	Satisfactory
	2%	•	Poor

Do you consider your relationships with others to be important?
	66%	•	Without a doubt
	28%	•	Yes, for the most part
	5%	•	Sometimes
	1%	•	No, not really

Your ideal wedding would be:
	14%	•	A big fairytale affair with all the trimmings
	31%	•	Elegant and sophisticated
	3%	•	In Vegas, baby!
	1%	•	Before a Justice of the Peace
	34%	•	Small and intimate with just our closest friends
	17%	•	Hmmm...never thought about it

How long do you spend getting ready each morning?
	1%	•	Over an hour
	10%	•	About an hour
	44%	•	A half hour
	45%	•	Less than ten minutes

Would you keep a picture of your sweetheart on your desk at work?
	84%	•	Yes
	13%	•	No
	3%	•	Only if I'm expecting a "surprise" visit...

Are you star-struck?
	2%	•	I'm practically paparazzi
	15%	•	I keep up with Hollywood gossip
	56%	•	Not very
	27%	•	What a waste of time

When it comes to decoration, how would you describe your place?
	27%	•	It's like a college dorm room
	38%	•	Modest but homey
	31%	•	It's got lots of little personal touches
	4%	•	It's like a catalog showroom

Are you a shop-a-holic?
	5%	•	I need a 12-step program
	13%	•	I can quit anytime I want
	29%	•	I'm a "social shopper"
	53%	•	I've never had a shopping problem

Which breakfast cereal are you most like in bed?
	22%	•	Lucky Charms
	16%	•	Total
	14%	•	Sugar Smacks
	2%	•	All Bran
	7%	•	Kix
	8%	•	Wheaties
	16%	•	Just Right
	15%	•	Honey Bunches of Oats

Sex is:
	34%	•	A way to express intimate feelings
	33%	•	The perfect union between two soul mates
	26%	•	Always great
	7%	•	A gift I bestow only on the worthy

The word "diamond" makes you feel:
	6%	•	Ecstatic
	12%	•	Eager
	18%	•	Excited
	9%	•	Anxious
	55%	•	Nothing much

The Love Test is based on years of personality and relationship research at Tickle and draws on the knowledge we have gained from literally millions of Tickle users. From the masses of data compiled, our research team used statistical analyses to determine the very top traits people display in romantic relationships. They also examined people's most closely held opinions about finding love. The result of their findings is this test, which included the six types of people looking for love and seven key dimensions of their love personalities. It also looks at the pitfalls these different types can experience, with advice on how to gain new perspective during relationships. Research on romantic relationships in the psychology literature helped to provide insight into the types of problems that usually occur in relationships. By looking at these challenges and comparing them to the six love personality types, our experts were able to determine common problems each type has. They were also able to offer tips on what to do about these tendencies. Tickle hopes that you have enjoyed the Love Test and that it helps you make the most of your romantic life for years to come.

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