Resources & Support Group Information
An abbreviated listing includes:
/Morning Will Come is by bereaved parents sharing their stories,
compiled by Sandy Day. Some struggled with infertility and miscarriages,
others experienced stillbirth and/or infant loss. Each shared honestly
but their spiritual struggles leave you encouraged rather than
overwhelmed. $6 + $2 ship/handling from CALEB CARES PO Box 470093
Charlotte, NC 28247 or call (704)846-5372.
/The Memories I Cherish by Sandy Day & Donna Elyea is a devotional
journal keepsake to encourage bereaved moms after the loss of a baby.
Beautifully done on acid free paper, each devotional is set amidst a
bouquet of roses, the journaling pages each have a rose in the corner.
Especially helpful for those who don't normally journal. Available from
CALEB CARES (address above) for$10 plus $2.50 shipping. Makes a
wonderful gift!
/Good Mourning by Judy Gordon Morrow and Nancy Gordon DeHamer, Word
Books is especially good for stillbirth, infant or pregnancy loss.
Helpful tips for keeping a journal.
/Through Heartbreak to Healing subtitled Hope for Parents After the Loss
of a Child by Linda Jones, RN and Carol Parrott, RN is a comprehensive
100 page workbook for personal use or in support groups, hospital or
churches. $17 + $3 postage from Carol Parrott 2286 Shuford Drive,
Dublin, OH 43016. (614)791-0233. A one-of-a- kind workbook covering
marriage, forgiveness, and so many areas.
/When A Baby Dies A Handbook For Healing and Helping by Rana K. Limbo &
Sara Rich Wheeler, published by RTS Bereavement Services for families
who have pregnancy or infant loss. A very thorough guide covering
family members, health care providers, funeral director, clergy, and
"one-to-one helper" with check lists for those helping the bereaved.
$12.50 + $1.50 postage from RTS Services
/Free to Grieve by Maureen Rank, Bethany House Publishers, is
encouraging especially for miscarriage.
/A Time To Be Born by Julie Martin, T. Nelson Publishers. Excerpts from
Julie's journal during her subsequent pregnancy after an early
miscarriage. Has no profound answers but is encouraging. Dads seem to
enjoy it during subsequent pregnancies too.
/Roses in December by Marilyn Willett Heavilin, Here's Life Publishers.
Marilyn lost 3 sons: 1 to SIDS, 1 to pneumonia a few days old, and his
teenaged twin brother was killed by a drunk driver. The twins were born
on Christmas Day. It is mostly about the loss of the teenaged son and
includes help for coping with stress in marriage after loss.
Handling the Heartbreak of Miscarriage by Nancy Rue, Here's Life
Publications PO Box 1576 San Bernadino, CA 92402-1576. Out of print but
we'd like a copy for our lending library.
Empty Cradle, Broken Heart, Surviving the Death of Your Baby by Deborah
L. David, PhD Fulcrum Publishing, Golden, CO 1991. Discusses different
emotions a person goes through including guilt and regret and how to
grieve those things.
/Born Too Soon... One Woman's Journey Through Pain by Sue Engelman 1987
Horizon Books, Cathedral City, CA. Multiple loss (triplets) and
"Christmas Blues."
/SunRise Tomorrow Coping with a Child's Death by Elizabeth B. Brown,
Revell Press, is a very helpful book exploring the impact of a child's
death on parents, siblings and friends. Her gradeschool aged daughter
died from a sudden illness. Provides counsel for strengthening your
marriage as well as practical guidelines for family and friends. 2
appendices providing specific ideas for what to do before and after
funeral.
/Help for Bereaved Parents by Mildred Tengbom by Concordia Publishing
House is the least expensive book covering the broadest range of
losses. Incredibly helpful for such a small book.
The SIDS Survival Guide by Joanni Hoerschler is a recent SIDS support
book written by a SIDS survivor. It's a compilation of writing by SIDS
parents and professionals. Sensitively written and reflects a message
of hope for SIDS parents.
/A Deeper Shade of Grace by Bernadette Keaggy is the story of the
stillbirth at 5 months of 2 of 3 triplets and death of the only living
triplet moments later, a week or so of life of a baby born 3 months
early and a miscarriage at 4 months -- then 3 healthy children!
Misty, Our Momentary Child by Carole Gift Page is a journal of a
hydrocephalus pregnancy.
The Ache for a Child by Debra Bridwell. Emotional, spiritual, ethical
insights for women suffering through infertility and pregnancy loss.
Bereaved Parents Share II, February 1999--Page 42
Resources
/Vicky: God's Angel In Our Midst by Barbara Dan tells of their Vicky's
death. Helpful for families who have experienced either an accidental
infant death or SIDS as Vicky died of SIDS but because she was found
hanging from her crib, her death was thought to be caused by an unsafe
crib until they received her autopsy a month later. Barbara will send
this book free to BPS readers for the shipping/handling costs of $3
each. Request from Eden Publishing, NEW ADDRESS PO Box 20176, Keizer, OR
97307. (503)390-9013.
**Silent Cradle: Help & Understanding in Time of Pregnancy Loss; By Judy Gordon
Morrow & Nancy Gordon. Family Christian Press. Excellent book written in journal
form, each entry is followed by a commentary & a suggestion for your own journal.
Chronicles Judy’s journey through grief after the loss of Ann Marie, who was born with
an abdominal abnormality. “Wonderfully written, It was like she was reading my mind
& knew what was in my heart! My husband is reading it now & I have shared it with all
my friends going through infant loss.” Jennifer A. Shaffer, founder of “HOPE” This
book is available at Christian book stores($11.99) or may be borrowed from the
small(but growing) lending library of “HOPE” please see contact info at the bottom of
this page for instructions on how to borrow this book
**I’ll Hold You in Heaven, by Jack Hayford Regal Books Healing & hope for a parent
who has lost a child through Misscarriage, Stillbirth, Abortion or Early Infant Death.
Short book, but very good. Offers biblical answers for the questions parents may have
after the death of their child. Available at Christian stores(4.95) or may be borrowed
from “HOPE”’s lending library-see bottom of page for information.
**Overcoming Life’s Toughest Problems, by Ed Hindson; Harvest House Publishers,
Good book on overcoming life’s problems, does not just pertain to infant loss, though,
but is very helpful in pointing out ways to help ones self through difficult times &
tragedies. Has biblical references also. Very practical, not preachy. Available at
Christian book stores(about $10) or by loan from “Hope”’s lending library-please see
info at bottom of page to borrow this book.
BOOKLETS
/Parents' Grief Help and Understanding After the death of a Baby by
Carol Parrott, RN. who helped write Through Heartbreak to Healing.
Published by Medic Publishing Co. PO Box 89, Redmond, WA 98073-0089.
Concise, easy to absorb 24 page booklet, very helpful right after loss.
Wonderful booklet for hospitals to give out after loss. Available from
publisher for $1.35 each + $1.25 shipping.
/When Hello Means Goodbye by Pat Schweibert, RN and Paul Kirk, MD,
Perinatal Loss 2116 NE 18th Ave. Portland, OR 97212 (503)284-7426.
Booklet often given out by hospitals when child dies at/near birth.
Sequel is /Still to be Born a guide for bereaved parents making
decisions about future children.
/Empty Arms and Aching Hearts published by Loma Linda University Med.
Center is a very attractive booklet used in hospitals for families
losing a baby. It is easier to read than some similar booklets as it's
not too wordy, the subjects are titled clearly. Available at $3.00 each
(plus $3 postage for 1-5 copies) from Loma Linda University Med. Center;
Parent-Child Nursing Dept; PO Box 2000, Loma Linda, CA 92354.
(714)824-4170.
/Little Footprints is a special memory book for stillborn babies to be
provided by hospitals, but you may order it yourself. $4.95 + $2 postage
from Centering Corporation.
RESOURCE CATALOG
Centering Corporation PO Box 3367 Omaha, NE 68103-0367 call (402)
553-1200. Source for grief literature for all ages/types.
[/ means available for one month loan from BPS library]
OTHER HELPFUL BOOKS FOR BEREAVED PARENTS
/Stars of Promise and Keeper of the Stars - Healer of Hurting Hearts are
two devotional books written by bereaved parents, siblings, and
grandparents who have experienced a wide variety of losses besides
infant loss. Order from BASIS for $10.95/set + $3 s/h or available
individually. BASIS 237 Fairfield Ave., Upper Darby, PA 19082-2299 or
call (215)352-7177.
/Streams in the Desert Vol. 1 by Mrs. Charles Cowman
(Zondervan) daily devotional.
/For Those Who Hurt by Chuck Swindoll (Multnomah Press).
/Turn Your Hurts Into Healing by V. Gilbert Beers (Revell Co).
/Secret Strength by Joni Eareckson Tada (Multnomah Press).
/Glorious Intruder by Joni Eareckson Tada (Multnomah Press).
/Yet Will I trust Him by Peg Rankin (Regal Books).
/Parables of the Forest by Pamela Reeve (Multnomah Press).
/The Marriage Repair Kit by Dr. Bob Moorehead (Wolgemuth & Hyatt).
Lonely Husbands, Lonely Wives Rekindling Intimacy in Every Marriage by
Dennis Rainey (Word Books).
CHILDREN'S BOOKS
/Someone I Loved Died by Christine Harder Tangvald (Chariot Books, David
C. Cook Publishing) has fill-in-the-blanks to fit any loss for children
4 and up.
/It Must Hurt A Lot by Doris Sanford, beautifully illustrated by Graci
Evans, Multnomah Press. Comforting pages resembling a warm quilt. Also
has guidelines for helping a child with loss.
/Where's Jess? by Joy & Marv Johnson contains the actual questions of a
3 year old after a baby died in the family. Explains death simply for
very young children. Centering Corp. ($3 +$2 s/h)
/No New Baby by Marilyn Gryte for children whose Mommy loses a baby.
Grandma explains they're not to blame. Centering ($3+ s/h).
Summerland by Brethren Press. Written by a pastor to explain a child's
passage from this life to heaven.
Morgan's Baby Sister by Patricia Polin Johnson and Donna Reilly Williams
published by Resource Publications, Inc. 160 E. Virginia St., Suite 290,
San Jose, CA 95112-5826 for $10.95 +$2 postage.
Bereaved Parents Share II, February 1999--Page 44
GRIEF SUPPORT GROUPS / NEWSLETTERS / ETC.
CALEB CARES provides help for women who have experienced infertility,
miscarriage, stillbirth, early infant death or abortion. They also have
2 wonderful books (see 1st page of Resources) Morning Will Come and The
Memories I Cherish. CALEB CARES PO Box 4700093, Charlotte, NC 28247
or call (704)846-5372
ANENCEPHALY SUPPORT FOUNDATION assists anencephaly families during their
pregnancies as well as professionals working with anencephaly families.
Anne Andus and all who work on the crisis hot-line know firsthand the
experience of having an anencephalic child. The crisis hot line is
toll-free: 1-888-206-7526 and is special for anencephaly families to use
during their pregnancy. Please do not use the hot line unless you are
in an anencephalic pregnancy as ASF has very limited funds. For
information, visit their website: or write ANENCEPHALY
SUPPORT FOUNDATION 30827 Sifton, Spring, TX 77386 or call
(713)364-9222
HANNAH'S PRAYER is a Christian support network and non-profit
organization for couples struggling with infertility, those experiencing
pregnancy losses with infertility, or secondary infertility.
Care/Support chapters are the main emphasis. A free quarterly newsletter
called "Hannah to Hannah" is available. Contact Hannah's Prayer PO Box
5016, Auburn, CA 95604-5016; new voice mail number (775)852-9202;
STEPPING STONES Stepping Stones is a newsletter for infertile couples
that is published 6 times a year. It is now part of Bethany Christian
Services. Bethany is a Christian adoption and family services agency.
Stepping Stones' address is PO Box 294 Grand Rapids, MI 49501-0294.
Located at 901 Eastern Ave. NE.
GROUP B STREP ASSOCIATION PO Box 16515, Chapel Hill, NC 27516 publishes
an educational pamphlet, newsletter & acts as a support and
informational group to parents of Group B Strep babies.
RTS BEREAVEMENT SERVICES is a perinatal bereavement program providing
training for care providers and educational materials for families &
care providers on miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, stillbirth and newborn
death. RTS bereavement Services 1910 South Ave., La Crosse, WI 54601 or
1-800-362-9567 ext.4747.
A Silent Sorrow Pregnancy Loss (Guidance & Support for You & Your
Family) by Ingrid Kohn, MSW and Perry-Lynn Moffitt with Isabelle A
Wilkins, MD. It's a Delta Book, published by Dell Publishing a division
of Bantam Doubleday Dell Publishing Group, Inc. Includes some
organizations readers may find helpful.
HANNAH'S PRAYER is a Christian support network and non-profit
organization for couples struggling with infertility, those experiencing
pregnancy losses with infertility, or secondary infertility.
Care/Support chapters are the main emphasis. A free quarterly newsletter
called "Hannah to Hannah" is available. Contact Hannah's Prayer PO Box
5016, Auburn, CA 95604-5016; new 24 hour voice mail number
(702)826-4794;
STEPPING STONES Stepping Stones is a newsletter for infertile couples
that is published 6 times a year. It is now part of Bethany Christian
Services. Bethany is a Christian adoption and family services agency.
Stepping Stones' address is PO Box 294 Grand Rapids, MI 49501-0294.
Located at 901 Eastern Ave. NE.
The book Vicky: God's Angel In Our Midst by Barbara Dan tells of their
Vicky's death. Especially good for families who have experienced either
an accidental infant death or SIDS as Vicky died of SIDS but because she
was found hanging from her crib, they thought her death was caused by an
unsafe crib until they received her autopsy a month later. Barbara will
send this book free to BPS readers for the shipping/handling costs of $3
each. Request from Eden Publishing, 1665 Dixon St. NE; Keizer, OR
97303 (503)390-9013.
The Books marked with a / are available on loan through Bereaved Parents Share PO Box
460 Colton, OR 97017-0460.
Books marked with a ** are available on loan through HOPE’s lending library email
jshaf@mindspring.com
Just a little hint from Jen....
Many times you will not find these books at local libraries & sometimes even Christian book stores do not keep them in stock. If you do not see a title you would like at your Christian bookstore or any other bookstore-just ask-usually they can place an order for that book for you. Almost all bookstores place special orders along with their regular weekly orders - I have never been charged extra for special orders. And remember, you can always borrow these from BPS or if I have a copy, from HOPE. (Also if you have books you'd like to donate-I know I would appreciate having them to lend & I am sure Carol (BPS) would too!)
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