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"A child must go through a stage of healthy dependence in order to become securely independent later."--Dr. William Sears

"Attachment parenting" is a term used by Dr. Sears. He describes it wonderfully in an excerpt from his book "Nighttime Parenting." Others have called it natural, gentle, instinctive, and attached parenting. In this style of parenting, parents are encouraged to listen to their heart and to get to know their child as well as they can by responding to the cues their child gives them and quickly meeting his needs. This parenting style respects children and realizes that every child is different. The special bond between parents and their children is encouraged, for when children feel secure in this loving, attached relationship, they will eventually feel safe enough to begin exploring their world and grow into independence--when, and not before--they are ready. They will know that mom and dad will be there for them to help them when they need it.

Here are some things you can do to help foster early attachments with your child.

  • Spend lots of time with your child.
  • Sleep with your child.
  • Carry your child often; use of a sling can be helpful. (This is known as wearing your baby.)
  • Breastfeed your child--let him wean on his own.
  • Breastfeed for comfort and not just for food.
  • Respond promptly to your child's cries--please do not let your child cry it out.

    Caring for an Infant Info on the family bed, wearing your baby, and responding to his cries.
    Breast is Best Info on breastfeeding; includes a section on nursing toddlers.
    Dr. Sears A short biography of Dr. and Mrs. Sears and a list of the books they have written.


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    heart Attachment Parenting Definitions FAQ

    heart Attachment Parenting Methods FAQ

    heart Attachment Parenting The home of anti-detachment parenting.

    heart Attachment Parenting--An Overview **Adapted from The Baby Book, by William and Martha Sears, Copyright 1993.

    heart Dr. Bill and Martha Sears, by Parent Soup Browse questions and answers to questions asked by other parents. (Apparently you can not ask the Sears questions on this site anymore; see link below to ask the Sears a question.) This site also has an attachment parenting discussion group.

    heart Dr. Bill and Martha Sears Online Dr. Sears is the man who coined the term "attachment parenting." Read the Sears' answers to parenting questions or ask your own.

    heart The Natural Family Site: Attachment Parenting "Attachment parenting involves creating a strong bond between mother/father and the child. It is also natural mothering because it involves doing what comes natural to a mother when social and cultural influences are eliminated. Benefits can include a less fussy and happier baby and more sensitive parents."

    heart Just What is Attachment Parenting? by Paula Bobbett.

    heartLonnit's Instinctive Parenting Site: What is Attachment Parenting? Lonnit says, "Attachment parenting, or as I call it, Instinctive Parenting, means following both your heart and your baby's cues. It means doing things as they come naturally, without the interference of often well-intentioned but misinformed friends, relatives, noseybodies and of course, the so-called 'experts.'" heart Return to top.

    E-mail Lists

    PositiveChristianAP Highly Recommended This list has been a blessing to me. It is high-volume, though, so I'm on the digest version of the list. Here is the list description quoted from their page at onelist.com:

    A Christian Attachment Parenting email community that seeks to provide information and support to the attachment parent using positive parenting principals. This list is for Christian parents who do not believe in spanking or other punitive discipline (such as time out) and seek to foster a loving and kind relationship with their children while guiding them in a relationship with Christ. Topics such as family bed, extended nursing, birth options, natural health, informed vaccination, etc. will be discussed. Discussion of growing and nurturing a Christlike home and Christian family is encouraged. This list is particularly for the Christian attachment parent who is tired of the "rod" discussions, and of persons hitting their children in the name of Christ. We will discuss gentle, effective and respectful parenting techniques.

    heart Stay-at-home/attachment parenting--sah-ap--mailing list.

    heart Parent-L is an attachment parenting/extended breastfeeding list.

    heart WOH2SAH-AP Email List An email support list for working AP mothers who want to stay at home.

    heart PGAP Mailing List Home Page If you are interested in natural pregnancy and birth, breastfeeding, attachment parenting, conception, and infant care, then this is the list for you!

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