ourstoryVI

What's happining now..........

     Three days before Lexi's death, Sara found out she was pregnant, by dale. She is due July 9th, 2000. I sometimes think that God did this as he has a plan. I have no clue what, and maybe never will. But, I feel everything has a reason. During the last month, Sara and I have had a falling out. I found out that she is still seeing dale and believes he has done nothing wrong. This is even after the police, Sara and myself have discussed the details of Lexi's death and the probable chain of events that occured. I am having a real hard time with this fact. And yet I am wanting to be at Sara's side. I call her and keep in touch, but I am losing my daughter and new grandchild to the person who I feel took Lexi from us. I just don't know what to do. Sara is still my little girl and I miss her very much. I would do anything for her, and would be there in a moments notice. I feel our very closeness we once shared is gone and I don't know how to get it back. I just can't get passed the dale thing.

The police theory...........

     Sara and dale had been fighting for some time over the fact that Sara should stop breast feeding Lexi and that it was time for Lexi to sleep in her own bed. On top of this when they found out Sara was pregnant another argument occured as dale felt she should have an abortion. The night Lexi was murdered, Sara had worked and went to bed early. dale put the kids to bed and about an hour later stated that he found Lexi on the floor not breathing. The police believe that dale probably held Lexi down on the bed because she wanted to sleep with them. They feel that there was probably a sippy cup or toy caught between Lexi and the bed causing her to suffocate. During this time five of her vertibrea were broken. The coroner feels that Lexi was found on the floor because 99% of cases where people soffocate their bodies go into convulsions before the body shuts down. Their theory is that dale wanted to have time with Sara as she had been gone for a week, as well as his feelings about Lexi being to big to sleep with her mom, etc... They feel that he momentarily "snapped".

     The prosecutor has had the case now for about 10 weeks and has done nothing. He has not returned my calls for six of those weeks. All I want is a resolve to this ordeal. Either charge him or tell me there is nothing they can do. I feel that I am in limbo. No communication is the worst part of all.

I know that my story has dealt mainly with my feelings. I want everyone to know I don't feel sorry for myself. These pages have been a way for me to deal with my greif. We have been dealing with Lexi's death in the best ways that we can. There are many people I want to thank for their support. I hope I can cover them all. First I want to thank Patty, my fiance. She has put up with my ups and downs and has stuck by my side. Without her I may not have made it at all. I need to thank Marcia, Sara's mom. She has pointed to many resources on the net and has directed many people to Lexi's web pages. Her and I converse regularly in regards to Sara and such. I also want to thank my second wife, Jana. She helped out a great deal during the week Lexi died. She also is another source of support for Sara. My friends, co-workers and most of all my family for the endless support they have given. They will never know the impact that they have had on my life. I also need to mention the compassionate people at the hospital, as well as the funeral home and the area business' who helped me during the preparations of Lexi's funeral.

I also need to make an apology to Lexi's father, daddy, Jesse. It took Lexi's death to show me what type of person he is and the love he had for my granddaughter. At first when dealing with him in court with paternaty, ect... I had my doubts. I now have a deep respect for him and will do anything I can do to help him out. Jesse, you are a great dad!

Next I want to thank everyone who has visited Lexi's pages. Those who took the time to read our lengthy story and patiently waiting for me to finish it. Thank you for your e-mails and guestbook entries, they have been my support. I still have a few things to finish up as far as Lexi's pages go, which I hope will be done soon. This was the biggest hurdle of all.

Last but not least, I want to thank God for giving me the 22 months of joy and happiness that I had with my Lexi. It has changed my life and will never be the same for it. I learned many things during Lexi's short stay and will cherish them forever.

Lexi you are with us always! I LOVE YOU!
5-25-00

6-15-00
Seven months to the day Lexi died, charges have been filed against dale evans for reckless homiside.

6-16-00
dale's arraignment, he appeared in court to turn himself in. He is officially charged and taken to jail for his formal arrest. The judge reduced his bond from $50,000 to $10,000 as he did not want to present a hardship for him to post bail? He has two kids, one on the way, planning to get married, life long resident, he didn't flee, and you guessed it has no job! He faces 2 to 8 years if convicted. His next court date is August 14, 2000. I was the only one to show up at the arraignment. None of his family took the time to be there? I got to see him led away in shackles.

7-13-00
     Sara gave birth to my new grandson, 10 lb 1 oz, 22 1/2" long at 4:09. Everyone is doing well. None of us were present during labor as dale was at her side. However we all went up and seen them later. He is so precious!!!!!!!
7-14-00
     The welfare people went to the hospital and told Sara and dale that his is to have no contact with the baby what so ever. There is a hearing Tuesday as to whether he will get supervised visits! Yes!
7-18-00
     The judge decides on court supervised visits. Another win for Lexi!