It All Comes Down To Your Skills

Having a problem? You need a new skill.
If you have some area of your life that isn't working for you, you
probably need a new SKILL.
I realized a few years ago that most people look at themselves and
say things like "There must be something WRONG WITH ME. I don't
know why. I just can't do it."
But, in fact, the problem wasn't something 'wrong' with them, the
problem was that they needed to learn a new skill or a set of skills.
Meeting women comes down to SKILLS. If you're having a problem
in a particular area, get new skills to deal with it. For instance, if you
have learned to meet women and get phone numbers, you might start
having them flake out on you and not show up for planned meetings.
Solution: A new skill. You need to learn the skill of getting women to
meet you after making plans.
There are many parts to being successful with women, and they all
work together. You may already know some of them, you might learn
a few more from this book, but if you're missing a key (like how and
when to kiss a woman, for instance) you'll still keep running into
challenges.
Remember, if you're having a challenge, you need a skill. So
remind yourself of this, and come back to this book to get the
information, then practice until you have the SKILL!
I began by creating self image exercises based on NLP (Neuro
Linguistic Programming) and Timeline Therapy, and doing them all the
time. (Read Frogs Into Princes by Bandler and Grinder and The Secret
of Creating Your Future By Tad James for more info.)
Here's one exercise that's helped me tremendously:
First, I close my eyes and imagine a picture of the person that I
want to be. I imagine how I'll be dressed, the expression on my face,
how I'm standing... all the details. Then, I throw that picture up into
the air and have it start raining copies of it all around me for as far as
I can see... into my past and future... all around me. Exercises like
these sometimes sound silly, but they help direct your mind towards

the you that you want to become.
One area that I've studies extensively is what's commonly called
'internal dialogue' or 'self talk.' This is simply the way that you talk to
yourself inside your head. Most people are talking to themselves all
day long. But most people are talking NEGATIVELY to themselves
instead of talking POSITIVELY. Negative self-talk is, in my opinion,
one of the primary causes of low self-esteem, giving up, and a lack of
interest in even trying.
If you tell yourself something enough times, you'll begin to
BELIEVE it. This new belief will take on a mind of it's own, and start
creating it's own self talk.
Most people who have negative beliefs also have negative self-talk
that creates a self-fulfilling prophecy. If this is you, STOP RIGHT NOW.
I may be the first person that's ever pointed this out to you, so it
might sound a little strange. Or, I might be reminding you of
something you already know. In any event, make a commitment to
yourself to start talking positively to yourself and to be encouraging
from now on. Put it on your calendar. Send yourself emails. Do
whatever you have to do so you remember to be nice to yourself when
you talk to yourself.
If you're one of those people that likes being negative, arguing
with everything, finding why things can never work for you, and why
everyone is wrong, then do me and you a favor and delete this book
from your hard drive, and email me to ask for a refund. You've made a
choice to be negative with yourself, and I'm not even interested in
helping you see a better way. People who have made the choice to be
negative about everything are usually playing out a drama that's
beyond what I'm interested in addressing, and probably beyond the
power of a book to change.
If, on the other hand, you are one of the people that is willing to
give new things a try, to say to yourself "I can do something if I
choose to" and "I can change if I really want to" then I think you will
be successful.
The key here is to begin taking a positive mindset and talking to
yourself in a positive way.
Here's an exercise for you to do: Take out a piece of paper and
write down all the negative thoughts you have about yourself, and all
the negative things you say to yourself, and all the areas where a
'positive' outlook would help you. Then, start writing down positive
things you can say to yourself instead, and start saying them. Keep
working on this until you stop saying negative things to yourself. This
could take you years, like it did for me. But it's worth it, trust me. This
one process will improve all areas of your life, so use it everywhere.
It's also important to make mental pictures and rehearse the
success that you'd like to have. As you're going to sleep, make mental
movies of yourself being successful in different kinds of situations and
with different types of women. Mental rehearsal is the next best thing
to physically doing something. So do it as often as you can. If you will
make a mental movie of the ideal you doing the things that I'm going
to teach you, and rehearse in your mind every day, you will see
improvement and results. If you don't do this part, you'll be wondering
why you can't seem to get it right when you need it.