Your Enemy Is Insecurity and Neediness

Insecurity and neediness are two of the biggest obstacles to
success with women. Insecurity and neediness are two sides of the
same coin.
A man is needy when he craves attention or recognition. He shows
that he's insecure when he ACTS on these needs.
Insecurity shows up when a man does not feel comfortable with
who he is or comfortable in the situation that he's in. He acts
tentative, weak, and unsure. He tries to put on a show of confidence
that is obviously fake. He says things that are out of place in an
attempt to get approval.
Women detect insecurity and neediness INSTANTLY.
Here are some examples of insecurity and neediness to avoid:

· Hanging on a woman. Don't touch a woman or crowd her too
much in the beginning. Women take this as neediness and
insecurity. Instead, lean back and let her become comfortable
being around you.

· Talking or saying negative things about women or past
girlfriends. If you talk to much about past girlfriends or other
women, or say negative things about them, a woman will judge
you to be insecure.

· Having emotional responses to things. If it's obvious to a
woman that you will get upset about things easily, then she will
judge you to be insecure.

· Looking to others to make decisions. Women like it when you
decide what's going to happen, then do it. If you are always
asking "Well, what do you think I should do?" and "Where do
you want to go tonight?" and "What do you want?" you'll come
off as needy. Just make decisions and go with it. If she has a
different idea, she'll let you know.

· Saying or doing things to just to be noticed or to get
compliments. I've known a lot of men who try to act cool or
show off to get attention. This telegraphs to a woman that
you're insecure and needy. Don't do it. If you're cool, she'll
figure it out without you telling her.

· Arguing. This is my favorite. Some people feel like they need to
argue with EVERYTHING. If you're one of these people, just
realize that this is a clear demonstration that you're insecure
and needy. You may always be right, but being overly
argumentative is bad for your sex life. Deal with it. If you really
want to argue with something, do it in a funny way, not in a
serious way.

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