Thinking In Time Frames

Here's a common problem: A man tries to impress a woman by
doing things that show that he's a good LONG TERM RELATIONSHIP
kind of guy, but the woman responds by being stand-offish.
I have read some interesting research that shows that women have
a few main categories in their minds that they slot men into.
These are:
1) Not interested at all.
2) Interested as a friend.
3) Interested in a long-term relationship.
4) Interested in a sexual relationship.
Here's the interesting part: If a woman sees a man as a good
potential 'long term' mate, she'll usually hold back the sex.
On the other hand, if she gets sexually involved with a man, she'll
usually still be open to a long-term relationship.
Most men who would like sex make the mistake of doing things like
taking women to dinner, buying them gifts, and being romantic in
general. This triggers the "Hey, this guy is good long term material"
category in the woman's mind, and they hold back sex.
But if a man does things to turn a woman on earlier in the game
and she gets sexually involved, he can choose where he wants the
relationship to go. Are you with me on this one?
Go ask some men and women about this. They'll report back to
you what I'm telling you. Women know that if a man is doing all the
big romantic things like buying her gifts and taking her out that he is
displaying 'courtship' types of behavior. I mentioned earlier that
women take hints very well and read into things much more than men.
Unfortunately, men have no idea that their good deeds are being
interpreted as long term courtship demonstrations. Ahhhh!
So what's the solution?
The solution is to stop doing the 'I'm courting you' things early on,
and start by being attractive, interesting and sexy. This puts the
balance of power in your hands, and puts you more in control.
I'm going to say it again: A woman will get into a long-term
relationship with a man that she's sleeping with. But she won't be as
likely to sleep with a man who's courting her. Get it?

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