Personality Traits That Attract Women

In the next chapter, I'm going to describe MY particular unique
personality and the 'character' that I become when I'm meeting
women.
But before I do that, I'd like to talk about some of the different
personality traits that women find most attractive. Some are better
when used with others, and some don't work well together. Here is the
list with brief descriptions. I'll talk more about combining after.

· Funny. Humor is just plain powerful with women. If you can
keep her laughing, you will go far.

· Intelligent and Creative. Intelligence is sexy IF it's used in a
way that's interesting to her. Use your creativity and intelligence
to surprise her with ideas, fantasies and unexpected things that
charm her.

· Educated. Education is attractive to women as long as it's used
in an interesting way. Some women are actually intimidated by
education, as they're not educated (This usually works in your
favor).

· Classy and Cultured. If you have class, women pick up on this.
Do your shoes and belt match? Do you understand interior
design and color contrast? Do you know about different types of
wine? Do you like foreign movies? Do you understand fashion?
Do you like Frank Sinatra? Do you enjoy exotic foods? Do you
serve her Hors d'oeuvres and a glass of wine when she visits? Do
you open all doors for her? Women notice this stuff BIG TIME.

· Dominant. Women have an unconscious attraction to dominant
men. The dominant males in some primate groups account for
up to 75% of all the matings, while the less dominant males go
without. Same goes for humans.

· Thoughtful. Women don't just like gifts, they like knowing that
you were THINKING of them. The gift is a SYMBOL. Women feel
the same amount of good inside whether it's a card or a
diamond (of course the diamond lasts longer, so there are more
'times of feeling good!'). But the fact is that women like to know
that you're thinking about them. Even if you're telling a woman
that you don't like it that she was out with another guy, she'll
like it, because it means you were thinking about her!

· Notices Significant Details. Women don't just notice details,
they USE them to try to be attractive and attentive. If she is
wearing a sexy outfit, she didn't put it on by accident. If her hair
is done nicely, it wasn't a fluke. Women are very impressed and
attracted to men that notice these details.

· Unpredictable/Predictable. Here's a paradox. Women are
drawn to men that they can't control or predict. They obsess
over guys who flirt and give them attention, then don't call the
next day. Predictability is only attractive when it comes to
choosing a HUSBAND. Then a woman usually wants a man who's
VERY predictable.

· Enthusiastic, Fun, Happy. Nothing is a bigger turn off than a
killjoy. Some men get upset and pout when a woman is happy,
and try to put down the things that she enjoys to sound
superior. This is usually a HUGE mistake. Enthusiasm is
infectious and attractive.

· Adventurous. Women are instantly attracted to men who like to
do extreme, adventurous, unusual, even dangerous things. It's
exciting. Adventurism is sexy.

· Aggressive. Women love men that know what they want and go
after it. Passion is a sign of life. I'm not talking about the kind of
aggressive that turns into date rape. I'm talking about the kind
of aggressive that turns into setting a goal and then going after
it with passion and getting it no matter what.

· Confident/Cocky. Women are magnetically attracted to men
who are just a little bit too cocky. Just a little bit. This is a tough
one to explain. Many men take this to mean 'overly arrogant'
which is not what I mean. If you watch Pierce Brosnan in 'The
Thomas Crown Affair' or Clarke Gable in 'Gone With The Wind' or
Tom Cruise in 'Top Gun' you'll get an idea of what I'm talking
about. The confident/cocky trait is mild overconfidence combined
with humor. Drives women wild.

· Expertise. If you're an expert in an area that is interesting to
your kind of woman, this can be attractive. It needs to be
presented from a "I know a lot about this, let me show you"
perspective, not a "I'm cool and you're not" angle.

· Attention. Women like attention. And interestingly enough, it's
better to hint at the attention that you're giving them than to be
too overt about it. If you say "I was thinking about you earlier
today. And I just wanted to mention that I really like the sound
of your voice..." it's much more powerful than listening to them
complain about something so they think you're paying attention.
Get it?

· Disinterest, Indifference, a Challenge. Most women are used
to being pursued by men in one way or another. If you are
indifferent to a woman, make her think that you're only calling
because you're bored, and act almost disinterested sexually,
they'll often do their very best to get your attention. Different is
good in this case. Again, this drives most women crazy, and
even though they'd hate to admit it, it's ultra interesting to
them.

· Charm (attention with a polished, smooth approach). This is
hard to describe. Watch a James Bond movie to get an idea. And
watch 'Dirty Rotten Scoundrels.' Pay attention to Michael Cain's
character. Charm is powerful because it has a certain 'prince on
a white horse' aspect to it.

· Romantic Imagination and Perspective. Watch the movie
'Don Juan DeMarco' and listen to how Don Juan interprets the
world. Instead of just looking at the surface of a woman, he
looks within to find the beautiful part. A romantic imagination
sees opportunities for poetic comments, interesting stories,
fascinating history, and emotional interpretation in everything.

· Expert in Body Language. This is important, as women are
constantly sending signals. I'll talk more in a later chapter about
this.

· Sexual Mastery. Women love sex just as much as men do. But
just like everything else in life, a great lover is not easy to find.
Women become instantly addicted to skillful lovers who know
how to make them feel ecstasy and teach them new ways of
feeling incredible.

Every woman is slightly different. There is no one magic system
that every woman responds to. If what you're doing doesn't work,
don't throw out the system... try it on a different woman. (The most
successful men I know will tell you that they are only successful
because they are able to accept 'no' and not take it personally. Again,
unsuccessful men take a 'rejection' as a personal assault on their inner
child. Don't make this mistake.)
So start right now. Take a moment and describe the type of
woman that you'd like to attract. Then write down the qualities that
you think will attract her. Then go to work cultivating these qualities.
The idea is to create your own winning combination and then find a
place to use it that has the best chances of working for you. You want
to come across as interesting, unique, original and desirable.
By the way, if you don't know what the women that you're
interested in are attracted to, ASK! That's right, just walk up to them
whenever you see one, and say "Can I ask you a question? I'm sure
that you're probably in a relationship right now, but will you tell me
something... I want to know what it is that attracts a woman like you
to a man. What do you look for?" You'll find that most of the women
you ask this question of will be glad to tell you. As a matter of fact,
you'll even find that some will help you in other ways if you ask.
They'll go shopping with you, help you decorate your house, help you
choose a hairstyle... everything.
But most guys are afraid to ask, or they feel like a puss because
they are asking a woman for help. Do yourself a favor. If you are
having trouble, get help. Women are amazingly generous when they
are helping a man get his 'attractiveness' together.

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