The
Dark Side Of Beauty
Underneath all of
this, most of these powerful women have a
'shadow' or dark side.
This dark side is secretly wanting a man that is in control of
himself, his reality, and them.
But they'd never admit it - often not even to themselves.
But their unconscious knows and recognizes this as something that
they want. They also hold a kind of inner CONTEMPT for the weak
people (especially men) who give them everything they want, as is
evidenced by the "Oh, he's just a guy I use to buy me things and "He's
my 'Boytoy'" kind of comments that women often make to their
girlfriends.
On the topic of men giving gifts to women and buying them things:
Many women will take what is available to them (even if they have to
do a little manipulation for it), but they will ultimately resent and
disrespect a man that gives too much to them.
As a matter of fact, to most hot women THEIR REALITY is that men
kiss up to them and that men will give them what they ask for or
demand (worst case, they have to get upset or act bitchy to get their
way). AGAIN, THIS IS THEIR REALITY. Men that don't fit this are often
just tuned out as if they didn't exist in order to keep this reality as
pure as possible for them. (Also, I think that many women harbor a
contempt for their beauty. At a shadow level, they are kept from living
a real life and being closer to the real world simply because fewer and
fewer people can relate to them in proportion to how 'beautiful' they
are and make themselves. Addressing this topic when speaking to
women is VERY powerful. More later.)
Men are often behaving like ass kissers because they are afraid
that a woman might get upset and leave, and the fact is that by acting
this way, a woman is MORE likely to leave. It's one of those paradoxes
that's a self fulfilling prophesy. A woman whines, man say's "Oh, no...
I need to kiss her ass or she might leave. Even though she's being
ridiculous, I have to go along with it..."
This is bad for her, for you, and for the relationship between you.
Learn to never let a woman act like a Brat without you calling her on it
(AND IN A COOL, ALMOST INDIFFERENT WAY!)
This is very counter intuitive, but again, we're dealing with female
human behavior, which has roots and drives that are complex and
often difficult to trace.
The solution is to NOT kiss ass or do things for them like everyone
else. Be different. Expect them to pull their own weight, call them on
all of their issues and messed up behaviors just like you would a guy
friend or family member (use the same "you're my friend and I'm
saying this for your benefit" tone that you'd use with a friend) tease
and make fun of their insecurities, reframe other men who kiss their
ass, and put beauty in a new light (as a curse etc. how she can never
have anyone see her for who she truly is, and how every man she
knows would sleep with her in a minute, and how it often leads to less
inner fulfillment).
The fact is that women will sleep with rich men who kiss their
asses and model-handsome guys who don't treat them well to satisfy
their PHYSICAL drives.
But overall, an average looking man that takes good care of
himself and makes enough money to live comfortably who is cocky,
direct, challenging, confident, funny, and in control - one who
challenges her constantly and never kisses her ass EVER - will be FAR
more fulfilling to a beautiful woman than the other types.
This difference is not only interesting to her, it's challenging as well
(something she doesn't experience often). A man that does such will
not only be able to win her body - but also her interest and fascination
- as well as keeping her messed up behaviorrs more in check and
staying in control of the situation.
***Note: If any of this sounds too far out for you, I recommend
that you go out to a mall and find yourself a few really beautiful
women. Then ask them to read the last few pages of this book and to
tell you if this is accurate material. If you're a doubter, you won't
believe the responses you'll get. I've asked many beautiful women
about these ideas, and almost EVERY ONE OF THEM has told me that
this thinking is accurate.
You'll also notice out in the real world that some fortunate men
have either looks, fame, personality, or whatever that causes women
to naturally act openly and receptively to them.
If you're one of these men, then congrats to you!
If you're not one of these men (I'm not, so I understand what it's
like) then you have to LEARN how to get inside of a woman's mind and
heart and CAUSE them to start acting this way toward you. It may
take a few minutes of conversation, or even up to an hour or so... but
if you learn the skills that I'm going to teach you, you can learn how to
cause women to act this way toward you, too.
Remember, attraction has different roads that lead to it. Some are
shortcuts, and some take a little longer, are more challenging, and
thus take some skill. But there is a structure to the process, and if you
learn that structure, you will be more successful.
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